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Why Is It Necessary to Deal With the Devil Called Anger?

Updated on January 24, 2020
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An author of the book Aggregate 50, a fitness enthusiast who believes in healthy living and healthy thinking.

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Result Of Deadly Anger

Anger is a strong emotion that is innate in almost everyone but things go out of control when you can't able to manage it. let me explain it with a few questions and explanations.

What will happen when you are sitting on a speedy car which is running at a speed of 150 km per hour on a busy road and suddenly the breaks failed?

As you engross yourself in finding the right answer let me ask you another question, what if someone takes over your own house forcefully and sets it on fire in front of you?

In both cases, you are helpless and the result is a handful of disappointment.

Well, you must be thinking why am I asking you these toxic questions.

Because this is exactly what happens when anger takes over your mind and controls your emotions and you end up with a deadly accident.let's discuss why it is deadly, when we should curb the limit and how we can take advantage of this dangerous emotion and use it in a constructive way.

For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind -Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Why Anger Is Deadly?

Screaming at somebody whom you love just because he was late for a party, shouting at your children just because they didn't listen to you, crying because of not getting a proper job, throwing objects haphazardly to outburst your frustration, punishing the keyboards after getting an impossible deadline by the boss or tearing the papers because the story that you have written is just not perfect! Maybe the reasons are different but symptoms like screaming, shouting, tearing, throwing, etc sounds familiar right? well, all these symptoms are related to Anger.

Now why this is deadly?

Anger is a strong negative emotion that has the ability to convert a happy face to a sad one within a fraction of seconds.

  • It affects the relationship: Uncontrolled anger can have negative consequences on your interpersonal relationships and quality of life. It has the potential to create misunderstanding which leads to an unhealthy relationship. Even most of the marriages break because of this slow poison called anger.

  • It has health hazards: Unmanaged anger can lead to many diseases from headache, dizziness, insomnia to the major one like heart attack, high blood pressure, and long term anxiety.

  • It is an obstacle to success: If you are giving anger the free wings then definitely it will fly and crash on your success path. Anger and ego are two cousins and work together most of the time. It's up to you how you are dealing with them. No one wants to work under a furious boss nor anyone wants an employee who loses his temperament easily.

  • It plays as a barrier while taking decisions: This emotion can impede a person's decision-making. That's why it is advisable don't take any decision while you are angry.


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How We Can Use Anger In a Constructive Way

Anger is a vice that possesses multifarious repercussions so it's better to change the emotion in an optimistic way.

  • Divert your emotions toward something positive. When you are angry just put some extra effort into your work. Run that extra mile. Do some housework like cleaning.

  • Change Anger Into a Challenge or Determination: Take it as a challenge, be determined to finish a long-pending work. Do something that you really don't like doing.

Learn to control your anger before your anger dictates the path you choose in life

Techniques for Anger Management

Sometimes we fume on small things like waiting for someone for a long time, getting stuck in the traffic, the reason we feel the vengeance differs from person to person, for some it may be the hormonal changes, hunger, depression, anxiety for others it is simply a personality trait. Winning this tricky game is a little difficult but not impossible. Here are a few tips and techniques which we can apply in our life to get a win-win situation.

  • Breathing exercise: When we sit on this hot balloon of anger our heart rate and breathing rate both increase. In order to lower them, you can do some breathing exercises like Inhale and exhale deeply and concentrate on the breathing process. Count slowly to four as you breathe in, and then breathe out slowly as you count to eight. This will help in relaxing the tense muscles.

  • Give a thought before you speak: Anger confiscates our thought process. When you are burning inside in the fire of anger your thought process almost gets seized. So think a while before you speak. Our choice of words gives listeners an indication of our stupidity. Once words exit our mouth, no amount of apologies will make them magically go back in: blurting something out and then trying to retract it is like shutting the gate after showing the bull red flag. On the other hand, thinking before we speak allows us the time to consider the effect of the words we are choosing.

  • Write it on a paper: Writing acts as a therapy, writing journals help in diverting your mind to a different subject hence helps in calming the mind.

  • If you have time to react then divert your mind into something else: Take some time, do some other activities like dancing, go for a small walk or listen to music. This will help the mind to get some space and calming the mind.

  • Meditation: Meditation is a proven method of calming the mind but it requires practice to master on it.

  • Share your feelings with someone close: Discuss your thoughts with a friend or someone close to you who will not judge you but listen to you. This will help you calm your mind.

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When We Should Draw The Line

At the moment, anger can be difficult to stop in its tracks. However, detecting the emotion early can be the key. It can allow a person to redirect their thought process in a more constructive way. Knowing when to stop is extremely important especially when you are dealing with children. Your anger can have a huge impact on your children. Here you have to work out on your patience. Anger builds nothing but destroys everything. You can feel emotionally cut-up from the rest of the world and bury yourself under the mountain of guilt if you can't able to handle it properly so it's important to know where to draw the line before you react.

© 2020 Suchismita Pradhan

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    • Suchismita pradhan profile imageAUTHOR

      Suchismita Pradhan 

      4 days ago from India

      Thank you Mr.Umesh for your comment.Iam glad you liked it.

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      Umesh Chandra Bhatt 

      6 days ago from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India

      Good article. You have given the complete anatomy of anger. Thanks Suchismita.

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      Suchismita Pradhan 

      2 months ago from India

      Thanks Devica.I appreciate your visit.

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      Suchismita Pradhan 

      2 months ago from India

      Yes Mr.Murali,Anger is that spark which can burn a house.It is wise to keep it under control.

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      Niks 

      2 months ago from India

      Yes, Anger is very frustrating. I used to get easily angry. Now I don't get angry too often. Your hub is very helpful to understand the anger. Moreover, it also provides some cool anger management techniques. Very helpful information.

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      Nitin Khaire 

      2 months ago from Mumbai

      Another informative and helpful article Suchismita.

      It's so important to control anger before it starts controlling us.

      Anger has the right place to be expressed but it needs to be controlled rightly, else it can easily get destructive to all the parties involved.

      History is strewn with examples of uncontrolled anger and the resultant destruction of life and property.

      Thanks for reminding me of the danger of anger and how to control it.

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      Mahesh Chandra Gaur 

      2 months ago

      Anger is an emotion that robs one of clear thinking. It hampers our decision-making ability and badly affects our performance at work. That's where anger management is extremely crucial to determine the right path of our professional journey. A well presented article Suchismita. Share more such articles.

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      success79 

      2 months ago from New York

      A very interesting piece of article that motivates one to excel to unknown height in order to achieve one's goal and objective.

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      Prantika Samanta 

      2 months ago from Kolkata, India

      Anger may lead to untoward consequences. We must master the skill of managing our anger and train our mind accordingly. We must not fall prey to negativities which fuel anger, instead we must keep our cool and solve the issues rationally.

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Great piece. I had no thought about it in years. Anger is a trigger for me to look inward. I cannot force people to not make me angered, but moving it to the positive side of the ledger is now a habit.

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      Devika Primić 

      2 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Anger hurts those we love and those who try to help. It sad to see how relationships are destroyed by anger. Control anger to avoid hurting the innocent ones. A useful hub and and helpful to those who can't control such moods.

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      Halemane Muralikrishna 

      2 months ago from South India

      Ms Suchismita, you have convincingly put it that anger is disastrous. In fact, anger has ruined the life of many. It is always great if you keep a peaceful atmosphere and take things positively, for a better future. Thank you for such a thought-provoking article.

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