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Why Is It OK to Skinny Shame People?

Updated on August 14, 2019
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Stefanie Daubert is a resident of Bakersfield, CA., and a Master of Social Work Student. She has 13 published opinion pieces.

Why is it OK to Skinny Shame People, when Fat Shaming is Off Limits?

I never thought I would be writing an article like this. I have always been in a place where I have wanted to lose weight. Last year, through eating healthy and exercising, I lost 70 pounds. This was a huge accomplishment for me, and it was not an easy thing to do. I finally made it to my goal weight. This is where I wanted to stay. Unfortunately, that did not happen.

In March of 2019, I started getting sick. I was having severe abdominal pain, in both my upper and lower abdomen. I was in such severe pain one day, I could not even talk. The ambulance took me to the hospital. After crying for two days straight, after being admitted for 6 days, the doctor told me I was in kidney failure, probably from dehydration. He also said that my liver enzymes were high, and my colon was inflamed. He told me I have colitis. With a large amount of fluids, pain medication, and nausea medication, the pain was finally controlled before I released from the hospital. I thought this ordeal was over.

A few days after being home from the hospital, I started getting sick again, but this time was worse. The pain was way worse, which I didn’t think was possible. I was throwing up and had severe diarrhea, running to the bathroom almost 20 times a day. While in the hospital, I was diagnosed with pancreatitis. The doctors did not know the cause of this, so as my liver enzymes continued to get worse, they decided to do a test. It showed that my bile duct was blocked by sludge and stones, so they did surgery to remove that. They then tested my stool, and found out I picked up the infection C Diff. I was put on IV antibiotics for this, as well as antibiotics to take for 10 days at home.

Again, I was fine for a few days at home. Then it all began again. This time I was so ill and dehydrated from the constant diarrhea. I went back to the hospital. My colon was becoming inflamed to the point they thought I had a blockage and would need to do surgery. After many tests, they decided it was a partial blockage, so they were going to hold off on surgery. My colon continued to enlarge, and the doctors were afraid I was getting Toxic Megacolon, which can be fatal. Because of this, they stopped all my pain medication, despite me being in severe pain. meds I cried for days and days. It felt like I was being tortured. No food and no pain . They would not even let me take the nausea meds, because they said those too slow down the colon.

Once released, I was hospitalized 2 more times because of this. I am still dealing with it. With all these issues, I lost a lot more weight. That is when I started getting comments from people. Whether it was family or friends, or even strangers, people were telling me that I am too skinny, or I look anorexic. People told me they could feel my bones when hugging me. This made me extremely self-conscious. When I was young, I suffered from anorexia. I worked very hard to make it through such a traumatic thing. I never wanted to be labeled “too skinny” ever again.

Why is not ok to walk up to a person and call them fat, but people think it is ok to walk up to a person and point out that they are too skinny? It is not ok, for either circumstance. I believe that people are more conscious not to fat shame someone, because it is more talked about, and something more people go through, than being skinny shamed. I found out that most people seem to not look at it as skinny shaming. It hurts just the same. People say, “To have such a problem. I wish I had that.” Be careful what you ask for. You never know what the person went through to get into that position.

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      Kathy Henderson 

      4 weeks ago from Pa

      It is not okay to shame anyone, I am sorry you have experienced this. When people seek to shame, they are most likely are having difficulty looking at their own image. Whether that be internally or externally, they are most probably a little broken.

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