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Why Money Buys you Love, Health, and Happiness

Updated on January 19, 2017
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Tessa Schlesinger developed an interest in human behaviour and ethics while studying anthropology at the University of South Africa in 1975.

Yes, money does buy love

The Beatles famously sang "Money can't buy you love, b. Money buys you a great deal, and the sum of human misery does not come from excess – it comes from poverty. So I’m going to tell you why money does, indeed, buy love, health, happiness, and a whole lot of other things besides.

Stephen Spielberg and Kate Capshaw
Stephen Spielberg and Kate Capshaw | Source

Meeting enough people to find love

Love is a matter of attraction and compatibility. When you only have a small circle of friends and you don’t have the funds to socialize outside your immediate social circles or travel widely, you miss out on meeting the right person. Money enables you to join the best dating services, go to places where you are likely to meet the kind of people you are interested in, and provide you the opportunity to be the very best you can be.

You can wear the kind of clothes that flatter you, get your excess weight off by going to a fat farm, and have the occasional grey hair blonded or darkened. The world is your love oyster when you have the money to pay for it.

So there has to be something to the study that found the more money you earned, the more likely you were to find love.

Time is money, indeed. Adler’s Selective Search service costs $25,000 to start for a flexible, yearlong contract of seven to ten dates with possible partners.
Time is money, indeed. Adler’s Selective Search service costs $25,000 to start for a flexible, yearlong contract of seven to ten dates with possible partners. | Source

Money buys you the best health care

Doctors can do an amazing amount these days to keep you healthy It is no accident that the wealthier you are, the longer you live. You can have check ups ever six months. You can hire a cook to feed you the healthiest diet with the healthiest foods. You can go for spa treatments and health retreats. You have the influence to reach out to state of the art medicine and inventions and you can bribe the power that be to be first in line.

Money buys you happiness and peace of mind

Of course, it does. So if your partner just broke up with you, all you do is get in your private jet and fly off to Ibiza or somewhere where you can roast in the sun and party with the Rockefellers. There’s plenty a well strung male and gorgeous models about. A broken heart is easily comforted (if not 100% fixed) when diversions beckon.

Money provides you the means to follow your dreams of building a tiny house, exploring Morocco, dashing off to the races at Ascot and finding the perfect hat or tux to match.

Money enables you to study the courses you want to without the pressure to graduate with honours and then find a job.

Money provides the capital to set up a business that you enjoy. It gives you a thousand things that make you happy.

If you're rich, you get more dates!

Money buys you safety

In a time and a place where one’s country is at war, it’s the poor people who leave everything behind and walk across a continent to another continent. They walk in wind and snow and hunger and bad things happening, but they walk. They walk because they didn’t have the money and the means to get out another way.

Rich people either bribe their way out on a fully booked plane or they charter a jet or they fly their own Boeing.

Money buys you connections

Similar to wanting love, if you want influence or you want to break into a particular circle of people, it’s money that gets you there. You want to go into a Bilderberg meeting, it helps to own a mega profitable company like Walmart. You want to meet Harrison Ford or Sandra Bullock, you call someone who knows them (money moves in those circles), and soon a meeting is arranged.

The 72-year-old actor has long been active in aviation. As a qualified pilot, Ford owns a total of eight planes...
The 72-year-old actor has long been active in aviation. As a qualified pilot, Ford owns a total of eight planes... | Source

Money buys you success

The nice thing about money is that if you have enough money, you can keep trying until you get it right. You’re not limited by your budget (or your parent’s budget). What was it a recent presidential wannabe said about getting kids to be successful? “Ask your parents for a million or two and use that business to set yourself up in business.”
We wish.

Money is comforting when you're feeling miserable

If, of course, one has no sense of self-worth or something eating away at one, money is a great comforter. Shopaholics abound when the stress is hitting and the tears are only a moment away. Nothing like a new Lamborghini or a pair of Jimmy Choo’s on your feet.

Rich kids of Instagram

Certainly, the rich kids of Instagram look like they are having buckets of fun. Of course, you and I might consider what they do to be a complete waste, but they are happy (for a while anyway.)

So why are some people miserable even when they have money?

Unrealistic expectations and unrealistic goals are the number one reason for unhappiness when one has money. Money doesn’t make everybody a well adjusted human being. However, when all things are considered, if one is a reasonably balanced person, money definitely adds to our happiness and gives us numerous opportunities to make us happy.

So, yes, money can buy you love

So if you have a spare million or two, I’m in search of a rich lover, some Jimmy Choo shoes, a two month retreat in a luxury weight reducing spa, and a partner to accompany me while I see the world.

Any offers?

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      Tessa Schlesinger 9 months ago from South Africa

      Devika, in my experience, happiness does not come from within. It comes from living in a pleasant world.

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      Tessa Schlesinger 9 months ago from South Africa

      Devika, in my experience, happiness does not come from within. It comes from living in a pleasant world.

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      Devika Primić 9 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Interesting feedback here. I don't agree with you! Money allows for the basic needs and if you want more then happiness from within will make a difference but not from money. It depends on you one is raised and taught from their childhood to make money a priority. If you make money a priority you will never be that happy person without that wallet.

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      Tessa Schlesinger 17 months ago from South Africa

      Regardless of whether it is adequate money or mega money, in order to have love, health, and happiness, you need it. Finding those things while homeless on the street is virtually impossible. In addition, the more money you have, the easier it is to socialize with new people.

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      Oztinato 17 months ago from Australia

      Tess

      I accept it is your reality not mine.

      Are we talking about mega bucks or just adequate money?

      Adequate money is of course a necessity.

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      Tessa Schlesinger 17 months ago from South Africa

      Oztinato. The article is not about ethics. It's about reality. The reality is that money does buy love. Regardless of whether it should or should not be, that is the reality.

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      Oztinato 17 months ago from Australia

      Tessa

      Not sure how ethical this hub is.

      When you say money you seem to be referring to megabucks.

      Have to agree with wrenchbuscuit because the mega rich or most of them are really bad for everyone.

      If you mean that everyone needs a certain amount of money then of course that's true. Worshipping megabucks however is unethical.

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      Tessa Schlesinger 23 months ago from South Africa

      mgwilliams. You're in line with what Malcolm Gladwell says in Blink, and, of course, mach of the research points that way. :) The issue is not that one cannot be happy without money, but that it is virtually impossible to live stress free and to get the the good things in life. :)

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 23 months ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      To Tess, exactly, money buys a lot of things. People who are lower middle, working, & lower class cannot do many things because of lack of funds. They also have the lowest quality health care, consume inferior food, live in unsafe neighborhoods, & their children receive inferior education because there is very little money. They are the most powerless people in society.

      I concur that money buys happiness & a superior quality of life. Money opens up opportunities that aren't opened otherwise. Most people who are successful today come from at the least, solidly middle class backgrounds. Many of them come from upper middle & upper class households. People who come from lower middle, working, & lower class households don't become successful. More likely than not, they remain at the same income levels as their parents.

      More than ever, having money oftentimes mean the difference between life & death, even thriving & just merely surviving. People have to enter into an intelligent relationship with money & not be afraid of money. Having money is the difference between having an enjoyable life & a totally devoid, monotonous one.

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      Marcelo Faria 23 months ago from Germany

      I know you did not say it. Of course having money is much better than not having money. What I said is that it is not the only thing that matters. It cannot buy love or happiness, but it sure will help.

      And the backpacking was just an example of one thing that you can do to expand your circle and it does not require lots of money.

      I agree with many things you said, don't get me wrong. I am just trying to point out that money is not the only thing in this world. But of course, it is a very important one.

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      Tessa Schlesinger 23 months ago from South Africa

      Marcelo Farea, I do not believe that I said that one cannot find love if one does not have money. The point of the article is that those who say that money cannot buy move and that money cannot buy happiness are wrong. Money can very much buy those things.

      Money can buy a lot more than not having money can.

      Also, for what it's worth, generally people who backpack around the world (myself included), tend to be educated and have good jobs. They aren't poverty stricken.

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      Marcelo Faria 23 months ago from Germany

      There are many feelings needed to bring happiness and money cannot create them all. It can help, but cannot do anything alone.

      You say that with money you can travel and meet many people and then, find true love.

      Let's compare two situations. The first, a person backpacking around the world (you do not need much money to do that). The second, a very rich person traveling to the nicest hotels of all.

      Comparing the two cases, the first will probably stay in hostels, immerse in the culture of the countries. The second will probably stay in a bubble and visit the touristic spots. The first will meet many people. The second will not. This is just an example and do not need to be true, but it shows that it is not all about the money. It is about action.

      You can have money and then become very ill. You can have money and lose a loved one. Money cannot buy everything.

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      Ronnie wrenchBiscuit 23 months ago

      Capitalism is the greatest ponzi scheme of all. The very rich cannot exist without the very poor. It simply cannot be done, as the pyramid falls down if there is no underclass at the bottom to support it. Thus, the luxury enjoyed by a small privileged class is not worth the human suffering that must necessarily exist in order for Capitalism to thrive. It is the greatest evil known to mankind. Th proxy war that now rages in Syria is a direct result of capitalist, and imperialist aggression. No amount of luxury is worth the slaughter of innocent men, women, and children.

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      Tessa Schlesinger 23 months ago from South Africa

      Thank you gmwilliams. We've been having some debate on Google Plus on that where that is not acknowledged. :

      https://plus.google.com/+TessaSchlesinger/posts/e2...

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 23 months ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Everyone knows that money buys happiness & the best possible qualitative lifestyle. Money means better quality of health care, housing, & education. Money also means having more choices in life & less worries. When one has money, h/she never have to worry about becoming homeless as all needs are taken care off.

      Having money means never settling & always holding out for what one wants, especially a job. Money means respect & ownership over one's life. Money is furthermore equated with power. When one has money, one has power & influence. In essence, people with money are the ones who makes the rules & calls the societal & cultural shots.

      Of course, money means encountering & interfacing with more refined, higher quality people. People with money attract others with money. People with money don't want to interface with those without money or status unless it is on the most basest, rudimentary level. I knew all these things in junior high. If a woman wants to attract a rich man, she must be of socioeconomic substance herself or she won't attract such a rich man.

      Anyone who believes that money doesn't buy happiness is very naïve to the point of delusional. I have always believed that money is the panacea of all. Rich people are the happiest because the world is their oyster. They can do & live as they wish & please. Excellent, thoughtful article.

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