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Why So Serious? It's Only Your Life

Updated on December 17, 2017
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Rafael Baxa is a budding writer who likes to write about psychology, social behaviour and everything weird.

We all want to live a good life. A good life, as in a life that you are content to live. But then some people confuse it for a ‘successful’ life, which actually doesn’t mean anything by itself, but these self-proclaimed ‘successful’ people don’t refrain from trying to explain it to you. “Don’t waste your time! Do something productive! Have a goal! Use your time by studying or working and reach your goals!” – These are some of the examples of the rants that you hear from anyone who thinks that what he is doing is much more ‘productive’ and ‘useful’ than anything anyone could ever do, or it may be coming from inside your head. The part that guiltily looks on as you spend a lazy afternoon lying on the couch watching the soap operas, or browsing through some random articles or watching the legendary cat videos on YouTube. Hard work is necessary. Yes, as hard as it may be to believe, it’s true. But spending your entire life doing nothing but pushing yourself too hard, competing with anyone or anything you could find, trying to perfect yourself and live up to unfathomable expectations everyone has on you, is simply put - stupid.

I am not telling you to be a lazy freeloading bum who has married the couch and has an affair with Netflix. I’m simply telling you not to be the guy who flies through his busy and perfect life, and in the blink of an eye reaches over 60 years of age and looks back wondering why he never stopped and, as they say, smelt the flowers.

When I see people hurting or killing themselves just because they didn’t get the grade they were hoping for, or they got demoted at work, all I want to tell them is - Why so serious? Joker was right. People are way too serious. What troubles you now is not the only thing in the world, there might be some things worse to come but that’s not the point. The point is that this little failure isn’t going to poke its ugly head whenever you are going to take an important turn in your life. And it’s not like you are going to live forever anyway, so enjoy while you can. Your boss isn’t going to fire you because you didn’t get the first prize in your elementary school art class, and your wife isn’t going to leave you because you got a ‘C’ in middle school science project, and the whole world isn’t going to laugh at you just because you look like a clown. They might for a day or two, but then they might get bored and move on. It’s just another episode in a very long-running series, unless you decide to cut it short and disappoint the viewers. And when you look back at your life, you will laugh at yourself for even worrying about such small things.

When I say small, I mean that they are small in retrospect. Right now, when you are living the moment, it might feel like the biggest thing in your life, and it will be hard. The exam you have next week might seem like the end of the world. But then years pass by and you are a successful businessman with your own spouse and kids, and you wonder why you were ever scared of something as stupid as exams. At that point, business matters may have replaced them as the disturbing little devils in your head. What was big then will be a laughing matter now, and whatever troubles you may have now will seem funny later in life.

When you were a little kid and your parents started preparing to send you to a proper school, it was a big thing. It seemed as if the kindergarten you were going to spend your childhood was going to shape your entire future. But it was only a beginning. Then you continue climbing up the levels. But if you neglect to live your life, and spend it entirely so you could get a ‘proper future’, then you will have a bad time, not a ‘proper future’ as you might think. After spending years in school, tuition classes, extracurricular classes, art classes and summer schools, you will have reached the final year in high school, and you will spend day and night preparing to go to a proper college. And in college all you can think of is exams, papers and career. You will be trying hard to make the most money and reach the top, work and retire peacefully. Everything done with a single-minded determination. Is that it? And when you finally decide to give yourself a break, you will be 65 years old, sitting alone in the porch of your retirement home. And that’s when you realise that all your life, ever since you were a little kid, all you were trying to do is get a happy and content old age. But now, sitting in your cozy chair, you wonder if that’s it? You have crossed the peak and there isn’t even a single happy memory to look back to and smile to yourself?

Is that all you ever wanted? Was that your goal? Were you just preparing to die peacefully your entire life? What about all the fun? What about the things you left when you were young, telling yourself that you will do it when you become successful in your life and you have enough time to spare? The ‘free time’ or ‘successful life’ that people keep searching for will never come. There will never come a point when you will think that ‘Yes! This is what I have always wanted. And now that I have reached it, I will sit back and enjoy my dream life.’ Seriously, you are never going to say it. If you get a good house, you will want a mansion, and if you get a mansion, you will want a castle. It never ends. And while chasing these dreams that you think will make you happy, you might miss out on all the good things. And that’s exactly why you should slow down, and give the life you have right now another chance.

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      Rafael Baxa 11 months ago

      Thanks for your comment Marlene!

      Happy to know that you are living in the moment now. Don't let the fact that you've lost some years get you down. :)

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      Marlene Bertrand 11 months ago from Northern California, USA

      There was a time in my life when I felt like I was drowning - always wanting more. But, now that I am retired, I see that I always had what I needed in life and never really needed all that I had. I don't have much now. I live day-by-day. I live in the moment and life is great. You share some very useful insight here. I wish I had known all of this stuff at an earlier age.