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How to Stop Worrying so Much

Updated on April 30, 2013

Stop Worrying and Smile!


Death is not the Greatest Loss

The greatest loss is what dies inside of us when we live. You see, there is no reason to continue to worry about death. It only distracts you from the time you have to live. The way we have been taught is really what holds us back. You see being wise isn't about knowing everything. Being wise is about being able to understand everything.

I use to sit and contemplate what could possible happen after life. But I no longer do because it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter in the sense of right now. You see we have been given this beautiful life to live and enjoy. We all have the power of free will...the power to choose our attitudes in any given situation. There is nothing to me that feels more accomplishing than that. Regardless of how others act towards me, I can choose to be happy. I see the greatness in that.

Worrying about anything is practically useless. It does nothing for you except cause you unnecessary stress. And tell me, who really needs or wants that? I hope nobody. Worry and stress is one of the leading causes of death. And one of the greatest lessons in life is to learn from other people's failures because we don't have time to make every mistake in our own. So when you see other people worrying themselves to death...don't you think it would be wise to learn from that? I do.

Truthfully, I think learning from others is one of the most valuable tools I have been given in life. I see someone on their deathbed, telling me of all their regrets, and one thing I always have come to realize is they only regret not living. They only regret the times they hesitated. So maybe we should all learn from that. The lesson there is not to fear failure. Failure is life.

So How Do You Stop Worrying?

In order to stop worrying, you have to want to. It's not enough to just read this and say I'm going to stop worrying. You actually have to make the decision to stop worrying, and just do it. I use to read self-help books, and try to try to figure out why I could never get the techniques to work. The real answer is you aren't doing it, and you don't want it bad enough.

Like I've said many times before, at the end of your life the only one you can blame for what you did or did not do is yourself. Being accountable for your life should be the law. Really it is the law of the universe. I don't know how so many people can get off thinking they aren't responsible for their own actions. But only cowards point fingers. It is a sign of denial. I've been there and done that. And I've never found happiness in that.

You can, and will find happiness in holding yourself accountable. Stop worrying about what you cannot control. Stop worrying all together, and just smile. There is nothing more fulfilling than a smile. When I'm sad, I force myself to smile. When I'm mad, I force myself to smile. A smile can cure anything. And laughter can accelerate that.

So, I hope I can help someone out there who is feeling down by the burden of stress or depression. Because it wasn't long ago when I was that guy. I've felt that. I still do sometimes. There are nights where I just want to give up, and think to myself "what the hell am I here for?" But then I remember that is the beauty of life. We don't have to do anything, but what we choose to do. So choose to be happy, and you'll never regret it. I promise you that is the best decision I've ever made in any given situation.

Don't Worry, Be Happy.


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      Dan Harmon 4 years ago from Boise, Idaho

      I feel much the same. Concern for the future, and what you can do now to improve that future, is one thing; worrying about something you have no control over is quite another.

      Such worry is counter-productive, and can actually bring about the result you are dreading and worrying about. Sit back, calm yourself, and accept that what will be, will be. We will all die, there is nothing you can do to prevent that, but worrying about it can only speed your date with death earlier. Live today, then, and don't worry about death. It will come, soon enough, and accepting that fact will prepare you for death's entrance far better than worrying about it will.

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      William Joseph Kosko 4 years ago from Baltimore, Maryland

      Thanks man. I am glad. Honestly, that is the main reason i write lol. The ability to change and connect with people in positive, fulfilling ways. I still fight this every day, though. But i am getting better. My mother, love her to death, but she just worries too much. Which is really how i realized i needed to stop worrying so much because then i would be able to help her stop worrying so much lol. It is amazing how much you can learn when you put wisdom before anything else. I have come a long way from being a selfish, materialistic kid.

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      Ryan Smith 4 years ago

      This is insane.

      I was actually having similar thoughts to what you addressed here earlier today. This was awesome. Gave it all the good ratings. Helped put my mind at ease.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Thank you very much for the. Very simple to read and filled with a reality many of us should follow. Be happy.