Why You Should Spend More Time Alone
Being Alone Is Good
Some of us tend to equate being alone by yourself as a failure, of being sad and lonely. We also fear what people will think of us. Are we being antisocial? To quote Yoko Ono, being alone is difficult.
Most of us do not truly appreciate the importance of being alone until they have kids. Children are a blessing and are the center of our world. Occasionally you need to be away from them to give time to yourself and love them even more.
Being alone does have its benefits and can be quite healthy. Here's why:
"It's an interesting combination: Having a great fear of being alone, and having a desperate need for solitude and the solitary experience. That's always been a tug of war for me" - Jodie Foster
Being By Yourself to Find Your Inner Wisdom
You must have experienced hearing a voice inside you, telling you what to do. This is intuition - when you follow that voice's instruction.
That voice is actually your soul. It can only be heard when you are in a peaceful mood and alone.
Studies in intuitive counseling show that it is possible to develop your intuition and hear more of that inner voice. That voice needs your full attention and if you learn how to do this on a regular basis, you will see the benefits.
You can start by spending just twenty minutes alone, having your hot bath or drinking your favorite tea.
Learn to experience this moment to find that inner wisdom. It can also help to rejuvenate your soul and heal your body.
'As I get older I'm more and more comfortable being alone' - Sienna Miller
Spending Time Alone To Find Your Inner Self
Do you want to know your inner self? Do you want to know your values and beliefs that you have discovered for yourself and not told by others?
Spending time alone will help you find who you are, your life purpose, your goal, and your visions. Finding your inner self does not happen within a couple of days or months. It is a lifelong process.
When you focus on spending time alone and finding your inner self, you may start to align your life with it. This is when you start to live a conscious life.
"Another thing I like to do is sit back and take in nature. To look at the birds, listen to their singing, go hiking, camping and jogging and running, walking along the beach, playing games and sometimes being alone with the great outdoors. It's very special to me" - Larry Wilcox
Being Alone Is To Be More Independent
Spending more time alone will make you less dependent and reliant on others. You learn to do things yourself, learn to easily cope with life when you suddenly are alone (like after losing your partner) and learn to have faith in yourself. It can even promote a less stressful lifestyle which means better health.
This healthy independence may take a while to develop, so take one step at a time.
“I have not lived as a woman. I have lived as a man. I've just done what I damn well wanted to, and I've made enough money to support myself, and ain't afraid of being alone.” - Katharine Hepburn
Alone By Yourself Gives Time to Daydream
Spending time alone gives you space to daydream in quiet solitude. It let you contemplate your next move and dream your future.
Daydreaming is good for your soul and mind. You work-out your fantasy and it makes you feel better.
Daydreaming is also associated with creativity. Studies show that the most creative moments are when daydreaming.
"What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can be" - Ellen Burstyn
Being Alone Let You Learn to Relax
Stress at work and home from deadline pressures, multitasking at erratic hours, and competing demands from your office and family can sometimes be too much.
Alone by yourself help you to de-stress and unwind. It allows you to clear your mind and forget momentarily all those issues. It allows you to 'stop and breathe again' and be at ease with yourself.
"The best part about being alone is that you really don't have to answer to anybody. You do what you want" - Justin Timberlake
Being Alone To Do Things You Like
Do you find it difficult to spare those extra hours to do things that you like? If you are surrounded with commitments for others, then this will have to be put on hold.
Being alone gives you the space to do things that you like or do things with someone you like.
You do not have to conform to others and be influenced by them. You have the opportunity to do things that you truly enjoy.
"I finally faced the fact that it isn't a crime not having friends. Being alone means you have fewer problems" - Whitney Houston
How to Spend Time Alone
Do Things that You Love
Spending time alone does not mean keeping yourself busy with things that you had put off for a long time. It is the time to do things that you love. It can be going for a facial, a massage, joining a cooking class or do something new and creative.
Trying something new will keep you from being bored. Some people need the courage to try something new. Once you have summoned this courage, you will feel satisfied with this simple accomplishment.
Be Out and About
Get out from the comfort of your home and spend time alone in your favorite park, restaurant, museum or even try something new. Go somewhere where you will not bump into anyone you know. You may want to explore further and visit a neighboring city.
If you are the adventurous type and have always wanted to try an extreme sport, now is the time. Alternatively, you can go hiking by yourself but make sure others know of your plan.
Or Stay Home
If going out is too much of a hassle, then stay home and enjoy doing things that you have always wanted to do. Have a relaxing bath, have meals delivered or watch movies that you have wanted to watch.
You can do your reading and writing on things that are of special interest to you.
Make sure you off your phone and enjoy the uninterrupted moment.
Do you like to spend time alone?
Value Your Time Alone
"Weird people follow you in the streets, you can't sit alone in a restaurant or a cafe and read a book in peace, and I think everybody values those moments of being alone" - Winona Ryder
As rightly said by Ms. Winona Ryder, you will value your time alone more after you realized how difficult it is to be on your own. As mentioned earlier in this article, most people realized the importance of spending time alone only after having kids.
It is essential to spend some time alone for its many physical and psychological benefits. Forget for a moment on things to be done or what is going on in other people's life.
Care for yourself and for your own happiness first.
© 2012 Mazlan