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Why does the World Despise Weaknesses?

Updated on March 13, 2017
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I have a passion for life, a love for humanitarian causes, a zeal for the Creator, and an obsession for understanding human nature.


One day I was heavy into my thoughts focusing on someone who, (let me be honest,) was a thorn in my side. My thoughts were extremely negative, and this happen to be a particular season in my life in which I felt I was always being chastened.

In fact, I felt as if my burdens were so heavy that I began to look around me and wonder if others were (being chastened) over every little thing as I appeared to be.

Thus, I began searching others I knew for (signs of spanking) and when I didn't see any I became confused. I know you're thinking- "How do you know they weren't spanked." Trust me, if you are being chastened in the spirit, which is attacking you in your area of conscience, you will eventually change in this area.

Usually, it happens to be an area where the person was once in the dark about something but has been enlightened, thus change is required.

Well, as I looked and obsessively studied people I knew, who in my opinion were just as bad or worse than me, I went from being unhappy to angry.

Mirror, mirror on the wall; Am I judging others when I see my own flaws.

One day I was sitting on my front porch enjoying the sun and a voice in my heart asked me.

Why did I not have mercy for weaknesses I saw in others yet expected compassion for my own?"

The voice went on to say "If I gave you what you deserve don't you know you would not be hearing these words." What got my attention was the fact that the true source of my anger had been revealed.

I felt as if I was getting what I didn't deserve but others were not getting what they deserved. It was a humbling experience as I had to be enlightened as to what was hidden in my heart...jealousy.

As with anything that pertains to my spiritual growth, meaning as I go from being in the dark in a certain area to the light, I began to study myself for truth. And, yes, I found that although I always wanted mercy one hundred percent of the time, I didn't always give it.


Everyone could use a little mercy.

When I lost my job I suffered badly. In others opinion I may have suffered too long. I was saddened that some had little to no mercy for my pain. Of course some of them had never lost a job or it had been so long they had forgotten what it felt like.

Regardless of that fact, everyone could sympathize with how they would feel if their finances went from some to none so in that alone they could have shown mercy.

There were also times when I tried to show mercy but honestly I became weary if I found myself counseling in the same area over and over. I became annoyed at the self-pitying and wanted to yell- “ Move on!” but who was I to determine how long someone grieved over anything isn't it their pain and shouldn't they have the right to heal at their own pace. Why couldn't I just bear with the weakness of my brother or sister and show mercy.


The world is in horrible shape due to the lack of mercy.

The second commandment In the New Testament: "Love your neighbor as you would love yourself." Is simply saying: "Show mercy for you yourself would like mercy"

Here are some examples of self-centered people, who show no mercy, yet want mercy:

  1. The killer who murders innocent people yet, when he/she stands in judgment has the nerve to plead to the court for mercy. Now did they show mercy for their victim's?- no, yet they want mercy.
  2. The busybodies who gossips badly about others yet when they happen to overhear people gossiping about them have the nerve to be angry. Gossiping is basically slander. Slandering someones name, possibly their reputation, and painting them in a negative light to others.
  3. The unfaithful partner who will cheat yet have the nerve to be heartbroken when they are cheated on. It doesn't matter if they didn't cheat on that particular person who cheated on them, most have cheated on someone who trusted them.
  4. The thief who steals and then comes home one day to find their house has been burglarized. The thief probably even has the nerve to call the police!

I could go on and on about hypocrites, Oh, excuse me, the unmerciful who shows no mercy yet still wants mercy. In these heartbreaking scenarios we cry victim but haven't we also been the perpetrator?

  • I am convinced that most people who possessively guard their possessions as if someone will steal them might also be thieves.
  • People who are jealous and swear their partner is cheating, even without proof, does it because they may also be cheaters.
  • There would be less judgement in the world if we recognized that what looks nasty in others might be what is hidden in ourselves and once we recognize it, it's not about the other person but about us. In other words, change is required.

Why you Should Bear your Brother and Sisters Weaknesses.

Now, I make a conscious decision to be less self-centered everyday. Once I began to see myself as a little more "self-centered" than I cared to be, I didn't beat myself up, or feel shame, actually I laughed. Laughing is always what I do when the Lord shows me a character trait of mine that was hidden from me but brought into the light.

I wish that I could say that I went from being selfish to unselfish but that would be a lie. I am only human and being unselfish is something that must be practiced everyday. I do try to meditate on the scripture (Matthew: 7:3-5,) as to remind myself why it's important to bear my brothers and sisters weaknesses. If I were to remove the speck from my own eye I would surely see they are also bearing mine.

Rate your level of Mercy.

Bearing the weaknesses of others can be challenging. Yet, we are hardly aware that others are also bearing with ours. Do you find it hard to tolerate what you may see as a weaknesses?

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© 2017 Dana Tate


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    • Dana Tate profile imageAUTHOR

      Dana Tate 

      20 months ago from LOS ANGELES

      Andrew Leith---Thank you for reading and commenting. Yes, I have learned that sometimes in your weaknesses is actually where you find your strength. When I was unemployed I felt weak because I had been taught that a person should always be able to hold their own. It kept me from reaching out and admitting I needed help I was too ashamed.

      Now I understand I had no reason to be ashamed but shame on anyone who thinks that way. The bible says: Two are better than one because when one fall the other can hold them up. In a world full of people they're many hands to hold a person up. I would like to reiterate that I found my greatest strength in my weakest moments. I rose form my challenges, stronger, better, and wiser.

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      Andrew Leith 

      20 months ago from South Africa

      Hello Dana. A good article. We all need mercy. I am weak, but I live; I am unemployed, but I still make money; you get some people who think they don't need mercy, they become touch like a solid brick wall. Sometimes it's good to be weak, because in weakness you become wise, you become strong you fill yourself up with wisdom. Jesus Christ died on the cross, that's no sign of weakness; he died so that we may live, and share mercy and show people that being weak is a better quality in a person, still can live, still can work; still can perform every day function in life.

    • Dana Tate profile imageAUTHOR

      Dana Tate 

      22 months ago from LOS ANGELES

      Wise words from a wise man. Life is too short. Thank you for reading and commenting.

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      Mel Carriere 

      22 months ago from San Diego California

      I'm a big pushover, but not always in a good way. The test is the truth - if someone is engaged in bad behavior I don't think we are required to prop them up in the name of mercy. Sometimes we see our pebble faults as boulders and their boulder faults as pebbles. The fact that you even have a crisis of conscience about it shows you have a good soul. Don't beat yourself up about it. Let the truth be your defense - admonish gently with it but draw a line in the sand and move on.

    • Dana Tate profile imageAUTHOR

      Dana Tate 

      22 months ago from LOS ANGELES

      Chocolate, thank you for reading and commenting on my latest hub. It is always good to hear from you.

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      22 months ago

      This article was very funny especially the part about the killer having the nerve to kill people yet want Mercy it is so true but yet there was a very strong message very well done a nice

    • Dana Tate profile imageAUTHOR

      Dana Tate 

      22 months ago from LOS ANGELES

      Dr. Pran, It is such a pleasure to hear from you. I had a similar situation where something came up missing from a home I share with a relative. I noticed everyone who seemed to be having financial struggles were suspect, while others who weren't struggling as hard were in the clear. I tried to make a point to my relative that it was unfair to judge people due to circumstances. In truth, anyone who had access, including myself is suspect. I hated to give a morality lesson on someone who was hurting at the time. But I wanted to point out that we don't know the depth of anyone's struggles. A person who appears not to be struggling financially can be and have just as much of a motive to save themselves as a person who is perceived as "down and out". Dr. Pran thank you for reading and commenting. It is always a pleasure. I pray all is well.

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      Dr Pran Rangan 

      22 months ago from Kanpur (UP), India

      Dana, It is a great write-up from you.

      I will narrate an incidence here. Recently, some money was lost/stolen from our house and my wife became busy in finding out who probably can be the culprit. But I told her: it is not wise to blame someone unless you have real proof.

      I told her agin: we all have a thief within irrespective of our socioeconomic status and it may come out , whenever there is an opportunity.

      After my suggestion, she was able to stop thinking about it.

      In fact, we mostly ignore our weaknesses but are ever prepared to blame others for their weaknesses.

    • Dana Tate profile imageAUTHOR

      Dana Tate 

      22 months ago from LOS ANGELES

      Eric, thank you for the kind comment. I think I left this testimony on one of your hubs. Thee deeper I studied on this subject I felt compelled to write about it. I'm glad you enjoyed it.

    • Dana Tate profile imageAUTHOR

      Dana Tate 

      22 months ago from LOS ANGELES

      Ruby, thank you for reading and commenting. I love to poke fun at myself on how I struggled when I first started doing ministry work. It was all good until I realized that true change was required and not something you were just told. It took awhile but I finally got it together, though I am still a work in progress.

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      Eric Dierker 

      22 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Really a pleasure to read. I had a time when I pulled all the planks out of my eye and all the thorns out of my flesh. Boy was I a judgmental jerk. I had to read 2 Cor 12 daily to get over it. Because my new problem with me that was worse than the other was being judgmental.

      This was a great morning article to meditate on. Thank you.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      22 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I am in no way perfect, but when I see a person in pain, it touches me. Thankfully, I am able to see that it could easily be me. Sometimes a problem can be so big, we can't see clearly how to solve it. Compassion is the key. Everyone has a weakness. Some are deeper than others, but whose to judge? Interesting topic Dana and full of wisdom.

    • Dana Tate profile imageAUTHOR

      Dana Tate 

      22 months ago from LOS ANGELES

      Vladimir, thank you for being the first to comment. We are indeed in better times than before. We have people who are extraordinary in their humanitarian efforts to help those less fortunate. If we can all take that same attitude as a whole the world would certainly be in a better place. Thank you for contributing your wisdom to this hub.

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      Vladimir Karas 

      22 months ago from Canada

      Dana---It would take some generalizing to answer a general question. But, I am of opinion that---except for all idiotic wars that are an extreme of political bestiality---there are a lot of examples, individual and organized, of people offering a helping hand to those in need.

      We could even say that these are the times of the best-ever care taken for such unfortunate folks. It only hurts when we see something opposite at work, and then the impression may be strong enough to spread over the whole populace of the world.


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