Stop Worrying.

How to stop worrying is a subject dear to my heart and I am sure you know someone, if not you, who is a worrier. We have all spent so much time worrying about things which are never likely to happen but we give so much energy to things which don't deserve it, to the point that the things we don't want the most actually become a reality.

Self fulfilling prophecy.

I really do believe that there is such a thing. Events in my life are proving this to me and When I have analysed this, the evidence all points to my worrying about things which were never likely to happen.

Slowly but surely I am changing my thinking processes and things are turning around for me.

And do you know what I put it all down to, the reason for my ill thinking?

The C word. Confidence, or lack of it.

Silly really when you think about it.

For 22 years I had a responsible job in Management and forces outside my control made me so unhappy in work that I had to make some drastic changes, I felt, to keep my sanity.

You see I never credited that I was a character who needed to be around other people at work until it was too late and I went into a job where I worked alone. We never know about these things until we try to make a change. It took me almost 8 years to realise this.

I convinced myself that I was okay and working alone wasn't a problem. I think I knew deep down that I needed interaction with others at work or my mind just had too much time alone in my head to think continuously about problems. The more I thought about a particular problem the more the problem, no, worry became a mental monster.

I have said it before and I stand by when I say that our brains and minds are the most sophisticated computers ever. The amount of information we can process is astounding. So much to the point where what we think without thinking (subconsciously) we can actually make a reality.

You know, you have heard stories about perfectly healthy people worrying about a particular ailment or illness that they can actually bring about that illness in themselves. Well the same is true about worrying. Events we worry about can actually be brought about by our subconscious minds finding a way to get for us, the thing or things we worry about most.

Now is the time to change your thinking before it is too late

There has to be a point in your life where you say 'ok, enough is enough'

I have recently reached that point and am determined to bring about my own success and not my demise, as that is where I was heading.

My thinking was manifesting all of the worries that I didn't want and they were actually starting to happen.

I had, in the past created visions of things I had wanted so much at the time and I had found ways of getting these things. I never put two and two together to realise that I was getting the result of my thinking both good, but most of all ,BAD.

Oh I had read books about this subject and dismissed the ideology that came with the information as being too out there and far fetched. I thought that this type of brainwashing was for looney tunes, who, if they didn't stand for something, would fall for anything. That is a familiar quote, I have used before and it is so fitting in this case.

Concentrating the mind and giving power to the thoughts of things you want to avoid is such a waste of resources. It begins to pull you down, makes you lethargic, even debilitates, makes you depressed and that is not good I can tell you.

Amazingly a shift in the ways you think can have a dramatic change in your life very quickly if you follow it through and be open minded and have faith in yourself that you can do this.

There is no alternative, you have got to change your life for you and by you. Nobody can do it for you. We have a television show here with Jeremy Kyle and is shown around mid morning. I never watch it as I am at work, but Tracey sometimes records it to watch in the evenings as I am at my laptop writing articles. Every so often he will say something like ' you have to grow a pair' , talking to a guy. 'take responsibility' 'get off your arse and do something' or 'man up'.

It makes me smile because these are the things I say to myself when I have little conversations with myself and believe it or not they can be quite motivational.

I'm not saying ignore your problems, that is the last thing I want you to think. But you don't need to spend every waking hour going over and over them in the hope that if you concentrate your mind on them they will get sorted. I know and you know that this will not happen. The opposite is going to happen. You give energy to it and it comes true. What you are telling your subconscious you don't want to happens, happens.

Accept what you know and do the positive opposite. Concentrate your thoughts on the outcome which you want, but without fear or doubt in your mind. That is a difficult thing to do, I know only too well. With practice you will do it and really believe that the outcome you visualise will happen.

Above all at the end of a day, turn your problems over to a higher power such as the thing out there called the UNIVERSE. Your energy will be picked up I am sure and the powers that be will pick this up and bring about the results you so crave. It sounds far fetched I know, but all there is out there in the great divide is matter. We are made up of matter and energy fields so it makes sense that there could be this higher power helping us. For some it will be the power of their faith in God which will get them through. If you are at all religious then turn everything over t your God at the end of each day saying that ' I have done everything in my power today and can do no more therefore I am turning this over to ( God / Universe or whoever ) and I trust that you will bring about the result I so want'.

It seems to work for me and allows me to clear my mind of all the clutter of the day before turning in. Try it and see how you can make it work for you.

• Don't dwell on problems 24/7
• Imagine or visualise what you want to happen
• Don't give energy to things you don't want
• Have a clear picture of what you want to happen
• Turn your problems over to the universe at the end of the day
• Practice practice practice
• Analyse you past thinking habits, did you get the things you thought about the most?
• Help other people to change their thought processes, it may help you understand more.
• Keep busy, e.g, article writing to take your mind off negative influences.
• Be proud of your achievements and your progress to date
• Never never give up trying to improve your situation
• Believe you can do it 100% and you will
• Believe you can't and you won't

The rest is up to you now that you have highlighted your past thought processes. You now have to make a plan of where you want to be and what you need to achieve to give you the confidence in your ability to rid yourself of worry.

Good luck, you deserve the best!