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How to Be Happy for the Rest of Your Life

Updated on November 15, 2015
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Deborah is the author of the Baby-Boomer-Retirement. com blog and writes about topics of importance to retirees and Baby Boomers.

Prayer, Meditation and Gratitude - Some of the Keys to Happiness

Prayer, meditation and gratitude are all important if you want to be happy.
Prayer, meditation and gratitude are all important if you want to be happy. | Source

How to Find Happiness by Living in the Moment

Have you ever sat back and watched young children at play? They appear to be completely in the moment, laughing one minute and shifting quickly into anger, tears and back to joy. Children seem to know how to shake off the problems that have upset them, and get past their anger. They know how to be happy.

Don’t we all enjoy being around cheerful people? Don’t they somehow help us to enjoy the time we spend with them, and feel better about ourselves? Although no one is completely happy every minute of every day, some people do seem to be happier and more joyful than others. The good news is that anyone is able to discover how to be happy and maintain it for the better part of every day.

Living in the moment means that we put aside our regrets from the past and the concerns for the future. We apologize for past errors whenever possible, we prepare for the future as much as we can, and then we spend the rest of our time living in the present.

In other words, we let go of our regrets about the past and our fear of the future. There is nothing we can do about the past, unless an apology will smooth things over. In that case, make the apology and move on. We can't do anything about the future, other than make reasonable plans based on the knowledge we have at the present. There is no point in living in perpetual fear about the future.

Once we do what we can to deal with our regrets and fears, we owe it to ourselves to enjoy the present. That's the only place where we can find real joy!

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Practice Being Satisfied

One step towards learning how to be joyful is to practice being satisfied. Are you always unsatisfied with what you have? Do you constantly wish you owned things that were nicer, bigger, newer or fancier? Try putting together a gratitude list. Do you have a place to live? Do you have clothing to wear? Do you have friends? Do you have relatives who care about you? Do you have a pet? Do you have things to do during the day? Make a list of every single item, activity and person in your life, if necessary, until you realize that you have many reasons to feel gratitude. Then, spend time being satisfied with what you have.

Many people have discovered that happiness comes to us by simply being grateful. If you have trouble thinking of things that make you grateful, especially when you are upset about something, keep a gratitude journal. Any time something good happens, write it down, even if it as simple as a compliment that someone gives you. Then, when you are feeling sad, lonely or upset, you can go back and read your gratitude journal. It is a wonder way to restore yourself to feelings of gratitude and joy.

Practice Prayer and Meditation

Now that you have a gratitude list, practice meditating. If you have religious beliefs, you should also spend at least a few minutes each day in prayer. You don’t have to think about your gratitude list. However, if it does come to mind, you can focus on all the reasons you have to be grateful. Spending time in prayer and meditation has been shown to help people feel calmer, more peaceful and more relaxed. In turn, these emotions can lead to an overwhelming sense of joy. In addition, studies also seem to indicate that people who have faith in the presence of a Higher Power in their life tend to worry less. That alone is likely to help you feel happier!

Learn to Play

Often we spend so much time feeling dragged down by our responsibilities and the need to take care of others, that we don’t take the time to take care of ourselves. Learn how to play. Have some fun. Find a hobby. Get a massage or a manicure. Get in your car and visit a friend. Take a walk. Read a book. Watch a funny movie. People who know how to play are fun to be around. You knew how to do it as a child. Let your inner child out, again, to play!

If you practice just a few of these steps on a regular basis, you will soon discover that you will be much happier than you ever thought possible!

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Stop Trying to Fix Other People

Many times our unhappiness is not caused by any pain or discomfort that is going on in our own life. Instead, it is brought on by the behavior of other people in our lives. Release them. Leave them alone. You do not need to fix them, control them or improve them. Enjoy their uniqueness. It doesn’t matter if they behave differently from you, or think differently from you. They have the right to be who they are.

For many people, this is the most difficult step. We don't feel we have the right to be happy if other people are suffering. However, that is not true. We have the right to enjoy our own lives. We do not have to solve problems for other people. We can be sympathetic to the issues they are dealing with, without sacrificing our own lives.

At the same time, not trying to fix them also means that you are under no obligation to house, feed, or take care of another adult who disturbs your tranquility. They are free to be themselves, as long as they take responsibility for supporting themselves! If their actions or behaviors upset you or hurt you financially or emotionally, reduce your contact with them. You have the right to live in peace and to avoid toxic people.

Practice gratitude, live in the moment, play, and keep busy. Live your own life and let others live theirs. These are the keys to being happy for the rest of your life!

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      Deborah-Diane 2 years ago from Orange County, California

      Some people feel they are doomed to be pessimists ... but they can learn how to change the way they think, with a little practice.

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      Deborah-Diane 2 years ago from Orange County, California

      Yes, trying to run the lives of other people can cause us to suffer tremendous frustration. Once we stop, we are so much happier!

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      Patricia Scott 2 years ago from sunny Florida

      I love this probably because it is so much how I view life. I love the 'stop trying to fix others' one . That is so true....and once we make that step we are definitely headed in the right direction.

      Real, practical, simple ways to find our way to joy.

      Well said, Deborah Diane

      Know that many Angels are winging their way to you this afternoon ps

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      ezzly 2 years ago

      Wonderful hub, couldn't agree more with "Stop Trying to Fix Other People" being a care taker can be draining and exhausting

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      Deborah-Diane 3 years ago from Orange County, California

      Thank you, vespawoolf, for saying that happiness is in our own hands. I agree with that philosophy and I hope this article will open up the eyes of some people.

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      vespawoolf 4 years ago from Peru, South America

      It's so true that happiness is in our own hands. I like that you mention keeping a list of things we can be grateful for (very handy when a bad mood comes on) and the reminder not to try to fix other people, also limiting contact with toxic personalities. Thank you, too, for the mention of the importance of prayer. Very nice! Voted up and shared.

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      Deborah-Diane 4 years ago from Orange County, California

      Thank you so much! You are absolutely right, Au fait, that we can never make everyone else happy all the time. If we try, we will only end up making ourselves unhappy!

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      C E Clark 4 years ago from North Texas

      It helps people (I think) to focus on what they really want and care about rather than what they think other people want and care about, and what they imagine that other people think they should themselves want and care about.

      Trying to please other people constantly while ignoring one's own needs can lead to extreme unhappiness because you simply can't please other people all of the time. The more 'other people' you are trying to please the more difficult you make it for yourself.

      Make a list of the things that really matter to you in your heart of hearts, not what you think other people expect you to care about. Get those things in order if they aren't already, and then see how important other things that aren't on your list really are. Maybe spending less time around people whose values are not your own can be a help too.

      Voted up and will share with my followers!

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      Deborah-Diane 4 years ago from Orange County, California

      I agree, Moonlake, that the less we want the happier we will be ... and that seems to happen more as we get older. I hope you get over your winter depression now that spring is on the way!

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      moonlake 4 years ago from America

      I like to be happy all the time but I'm getting depressed from this winter.

      Very helpful hub. I think we get happier as we get older not always wanting things like we use to. Voted up.

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      Deborah-Diane 5 years ago from Orange County, California

      Thank you Cliff, Sherideem and the others who have commented. We really can learn how to be happy!

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      Cliff Mendrez 5 years ago from Philippines

      Beautiful hub! I'm at that stage where I'm trying to find my place in this world. Sometimes, it's exciting but other times, it makes me wish being a kid again. Thank you for the tips. This is really helpful.

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      sherideem 6 years ago

      "Stop Trying to Fix Other People" - you are right. Why bother if they are happy?

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      Person of Interest 6 years ago from SoCal, USA

      This excellent hub can, does, and will actually help people. Thank you for writing it.

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      happypuppy 6 years ago

      Your writing made my day as today was not too pleasant for me. Reading it allowed me to come back to the real me, "happy." I agree sometimes we our state of happiness is a direct result of our very own "self." Thanks!

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      givingmoneyback 6 years ago from Maryland

      this is a great blog- i love it! Always try to find and see light even on a dark day!

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      Binaya.Ghimire 6 years ago

      Happiness is a feeling and you have to be happy with what you have and not what you want. Bu we cannot always be philosophical, can we? Your points are very useful.

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      cheatedbyebay 6 years ago

      Hmmm!I liked the prayer and meditation part.GOD can fix things not us

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      Movie Master 6 years ago from United Kingdom

      Hi DD, it's so easy to allow ourselves to be dragged down, without realising we're becoming miserable. I have never thought about fixing people before, we should always except people the way they are. Thanks for sharing a great hub.

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      Deborah 6 years ago from Italy

      This is very good advice ! I think happiness comes from within, if we can find that peace and calm life is much more enjoyable.

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      Deborah-Diane 6 years ago from Orange County, California

      Thank you for your comment. Yes, I have found that trying to fix people was the one thing that used to make me miserable. Once I let go of them, to follow their own destinies, I began to feel much happier!

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      Denise W Anderson 6 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      What a great suggestion, to stop trying to fix people! That has been a great burden for me most of my adult life. As I allow others to be themselves, they will allow me to by myself as well. Thanks for sharing ways to be happy!