Your Life and Your Happiness
Mind Truly Over Matter
For a moment think about precious time you have wasted on things you can't control. Think about the precious time you have given others that choose to put you down or make you feel bad. Why give them power like that? Take authority and power over your emotions. I am here to tell you that you have more power within you then you can imagine. When you feel like you have no power then just tell God the father to give you boldness and strength. Be real with God and tell him how you feel then just pray about your situation. Pray, pray, pray.
So many times we allow our circumstances or other people determine how we feel. Why is this? It's the control we are giving them. I want to be your advocate here. I challenge you write down any negative emotions you are feeling in your life. Now, write down who/what this negative emotion is attached to. Examples: A person you are in a relationship with (friends, family, etc.), your finances, your job, your body image, your housing situation, and even your car. Now write down the true reason you have these negative emotions. Let me give you an example:
2. My son
3. He spoke very ugly to me
Now that we have the what you are feeling and the who/what issue you are feeling this toward and the semi-why you feel this way...Let's look a bit deeper at the why.
This is where it get's tricky. Usually we stop at #3 and fail to continue toward the best outcome, but rather accept defeat. We allow these circumstances or people to determine our attitudes, beliefs, and choices. It is their matters over our mind. Let's resolve one thing now, can we change other people or every circumstance? No. Can we influence others or situations? Yes/Usually. How we respond makes a world of difference whether the other person acknowledges it or not.
When you start to feel a negative emotion write it down, then ask your self who is it directed toward, and why are you feeling this emotion. The deeper part is to then ask yourself if you can truly change what happened. The answer will be no most of the time. Then ask yourself, what can you do to make this situation or this feeling go away? Also, ask yourself how much time have you spent feeling this way and what are the problems with feeling this way? You may find out that because you have been sad that you have been unproductive or it has rubbed off on others around you.
The answer should be something like this: I can choose to truly forgive myself and give no more time to dwell on this situation, I can do something everyday to make me feel more beautiful, I can tell my son that I forgive him whether he accepts or not, I can remove myself from this verbally abusive relationship because no one deserves to be treated with disrespect. This list can go on and on. If you look deep enough you will find the strength to let the negative people or circumstances just roll off your shoulders. If you refrain from negative emotions you will see great outcomes.
Not only will you start to feel better, but those around you will too. Moods are contagious by the way.
© 2014 MelissaMelvin