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You're a Liar! 10 Lies You Need to Stop Telling Yourself

Updated on May 08, 2015
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Christin is a Metaphysical author and professional Tarot expert with over 25 years of experience in the field.

Lies you tell yourself that are sabotaging you
Lies you tell yourself that are sabotaging you | Source

You're such a liar!

No, it's not an insult - don't worry. In fact, if we're honest, most of us have told ourselves these whoppers, often over and over again, to the point that we accept them as truth.

In life, it is the lies we tell ourselves that keep us from really living authentically and keep us bound to ideas, people, and situations that don't foster growth or serve our highest good.

Do you ever feel like something is missing? Or do you struggle with wondering who you are and what the purpose of your life is? If so, chances are you may be telling yourself some of these doozies that may be sabotaging you.

If I had ___________, my life would be perfect.

Nope, no it wouldn't, but that's ok. This is often the credo many people who are struggling with personal fulfillment have come to believe. We live in a consumer driven society where we are constantly bombarded by messages of "never enough". We are prodded to do this, buy that or have the next trendy thing to be happy.

Watch a few minutes of commercials or read a Women's magazine and feel your self-esteem take a hit. Chances are you are too old, too fat, too wrinkled, too uncool etc. ;). If we could just be "thinner, prettier, smarter, luckier, richer" etc.

Marketers are perfectly willing to manipulate these feelings, because in doing so, they promise to fix what is missing in your life. If you buy this lotion, car, gadget, diet food etc. Your life will somehow be better.

While buying things may provide a quick shot of enthusiasm or an initial high, it is always fleeting, leaving us longing for the next "fix". The best way to fix this lie? Start appreciating what you do have - and who you are. Perfection is an illusion - there is only one thing you will ever be perfect at and that is being who you are. There is no one like you.

This leads us into the next big lie you tell yourself....

Lies can destroy you, especially the ones you tell yourself!
Lies can destroy you, especially the ones you tell yourself! | Source

I am not ____________ enough.

Fill in the blank here too. People tend to spend far too much time declaring all the ways in which they are not enough. I am not smart enough, rich enough etc. Accepting “not enough” as gospel leads to self-sabotage every time.

If you're already convinced you aren't enough, it really doesn't make sense to give something your all right? Think about it. If you aren't “enough” why bother? This is the fear/false belief that lies behind a lot of things like procrastination, accepting mediocrity instead of pushing for more etc.

You ARE enough. Just like a snowflake, you are wholly unique and there is no one like you. What collector doesn't love an original? So why is it we get so caught up in comparisons? Unique is good – embrace what makes you, you.

signs of self-deception and self-sabotage
signs of self-deception and self-sabotage | Source

It's not possible for me to ___________ right now because of _____________.

This is something most of us do – we declare that we can't do something and then immediately make an excuse as to why. The truth of the matter is the more often you do this, the least likely you are to ever be truly successful at something you love. Why? Because you shift blame and make excuses. Harsh? Yes – ouch, but honest.

Here's a famous one I used for years. “It's not possible for me to work from home full time right now because we have bills to pay and the economy is bad and I need the stability of a paycheck”. This was fifteen years ago, long before anything like today's economic crises – it was a built in and plausible excuse that others would like shake their head in agreement with. This let me off the hook to not really try.

The honest truth was though, that yes situations may not have been ideal, but they never are. At that point, I was not willing or ready to take a risk. Later on, I overcame those fears and addressed the situation with honesty. The result? I started working for myself, trying different things, until I found what worked.

I realized, finally, that excuses would always keep me held in places I didn't want to be and that life is too short to waste all that time doing what I hated.

Any goal where you say “It's not possible now” is kicking the can down the road. Eventually you'll run out of road – or time. Stop making excuses and start finding ways to be proactive. Maybe you can't quit your day job yet, or maybe you don't have hours a day to spend at the gym, or whatever it is, but you can take small steps every day that move you in the right direction. The more steps you take, the more your motivation and determination also move in the right direction.

Truth is both frustrating and liberating
Truth is both frustrating and liberating | Source

I would love to ___________, but that just isn't practical.

Have you ever talked yourself out of doing something you truly wanted to do because you believed, or allowed others to tell you, all the ways in which your goal was too lofty or not practical?

As a young girl, I was convinced I wanted to be an astronaut one day. I was outside constantly with my telescope. I had books about the planets, the constellations, etc. At 9 years old I knew all sorts of information about all those celestial bodies we gaze upon each night.

My well meaning grandmother laughed at the idea of a woman astronaut. Women aren't astronauts she said. You should be a nice teacher or maybe a nurse. So, that's what I grew up believing.

Many times, people love to inform us of the things we “can't” do, or how impractical our ideas are. Here's the thing though, visionaries who create and do things we are awestruck by, had ideas that went against the norm. If all we ever focus on is doing what others do, or what seems most “practical” etc, the world would be very boring and there would be precious little innovation.

So, maybe the whole astronaut thing wasn't really in the cards, but I still took a non-traditional path in life after a lot of years struggling to try to find my “norm”. Eventually we have to stop living according to these preordained “rules” others set, and start deciding what we want to do with our own lives. Me? Next to being an astronaut; I always wanted to be a writer. Eventually I gave up my former “career” in hotel management and did just that. I freelance as a writer – something else I was informed many times was not a very “practical” idea.

Truth has a way of revealing itself, even when it isn't accepted.
Truth has a way of revealing itself, even when it isn't accepted. | Source

I Should ______________, but _______________.

“I should” followed by a reason says basically that you do not set yourself as a priority and that you have plenty of excuses to keep engaging in behaviors that sabotage you.

Here are some good examples:

I should take better care of myself (but I work all day)

I should exercise more (but I can't find motivation)

I should eat healthier (but I'm busy)

The truth of the matter is we better serve others when we first learn to serve ourselves. No one is impressed by your excuses. They may agree with them; they likely make similar ones themselves, but no one ever admired someone for their excuse making abilities.

What people do admire and want to emulate are living examples. Do you want to help others? Help yourself and you give them permission to do the same! You work all day – ok, so do many others. Walk on your lunch break or talk to the boss about company incentives towards good health.

Healthy workers are productive workers – and happier people. Be a revolutionary and start a movement! It will break you out of excuse mode and boost your self-esteem while also helping others to help themselves.

You can should all day long, but "shoulding" all over the place isn't going to get you anywhere now is it?

I'm going to start ________________ tomorrow.

I remember seeing commercials when I was younger for AA and how the people talked about making excuses and procrastination in seeking treatment. “Tomorrow never comes” was the tag line, and it stuck with me because it's so true.

How many times in life do we tell ourselves, oh I'm going to do this or that? The fact of the matter that saying and doing are not the same thing. Stop saying what you are going to do and start actually doing it.

If you say “I'm going to start saving for my retirement” then do it – now. Put your extra pennies in a jar if that's all you can do, but do something, or your goals will always remain in the future. Whatever it is you're putting off and making excuses for, address the fears and negative beliefs that lie beneath and address them.

Accomplishing smaller tasks that lead towards the larger goals are a great way to build momentum. It's easy to always kick the can down the road, but it doesn't lead to results. Results happen every time we make it about “now”, not later.

Whatever you believe becomes your truth - but is it actually true?
Whatever you believe becomes your truth - but is it actually true? | Source

I Can't Change ______________ About Myself, It's Just How I am.

This is a great built in excuse that can allow us to somehow be willing to accept things that cause us to go against our actual true nature. I remember a former friend of mine who was always very condescending and sarcastic to people, to the point of alienating others in droves. She would say all the time “Well, that's just how I am, I can't help it”.

She would say this defiantly, but in her face you could see the sadness and frustration as people just stopped wanting to deal with her. Had she been honest with herself, she would have know it wasn't “just the way she was” - her chronic negativity was a choice she was making. Somehow, she felt her biting sarcasm made her appear tough, like she couldn't be hurt. It was a way to escape feeling vulnerable.

This lady had a tough life. She grew up in a verbally and emotionally abusive environment and learned to use words as fists, to protect herself. Ultimately though, it didn't prevent her from facing the pain of abandonment. It wasn't until years later that she sought some counseling and began to see the truth behind “how she was”. Long story short, she isn't that way anymore.

We do not have to be limited by perceived flaws and limitations. If you are sabotaging yourself and saying “it's just how I am” - you're lying to yourself and, more often than not, others can see the truth right through your lies.

“Imagine life is a game in which you are juggling five balls. The balls are called work, family, health, friends, and integrity. And you’re keeping all of them in the air. But one day you finally come to understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls—family, health, friends, integrity—are made of glass. If you drop one of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered.”

― Gary Keller, The ONE Thing

Multi Tasking Makes Me More Productive

Are you chronically busy? Do you feel like you are able to do a million things at once? Even if you are, do you feel satisfied at the end of the day or are you always pondering the next million things you have to do?

The whole multi-tasking lie was a doozy for me. It took a LONG time for me to accept that I was wasting my life by trying to do too much at once. It took me even longer to accept the harsh reality that not only was I wasting time, I was not nearly as productive as I thought I was.

Multi-tasking means you have no concept of time management. Ouch – another hard truth. The fact of the matter is that you will be more productive and more goal oriented when you prioritize a to-do list and take care of one task at a time in the order of importance.

Lists and prioritizing will quickly show you all the ways in which you waste time and resources. Don't believe me? I didn't believe it either until I tried it. Today, I spend five minutes each morning making a list and prioritizing it. Almost every night I go to bed feeling confident and accomplished, instead of frazzled and rushed.

I'm Totally Healthy

A lot of people proclaim to be healthy. Who really wants to admit that they feel bad? I have been caught in this trap before too, and it wasn't until I really made it my priority to get truly healthy that I realized just how much I had let myself go. When I nearly died due to a preventable condition in my early 30's, I became very proactive about health on all levels.

This may get angry responses, but if you are overweight, do not exercise, have chronic health issues like headaches, backaches, uncontrolled asthma, allergies, or insomnia etc. you are NOT healthy. These conditions point to inflammation in the body, which only occurs when something is not right.

Healthy people are active people and they focus on all aspects of their well-being – mental, emotional, and physical health all effect one another. This is why people who are depressed often feel physical pain, and why those who are dealing with physical ailments often feel defeated mentally and emotionally.

Many of us have bought into the idea that all our assorted maladies are “normal”, when that, in fact, is not the case. If you get headaches every day for example, something is triggering that response in the body. It is not “just normal”. Unfortunately, doctors tend to chase symptoms and give you the pill for the headache, but that doesn't address the underlying cause – which could be poor diet, high stress levels, exposure to a toxin, or any number of variables.

Until we decide to be proactive about health and stop seeking easily solutions through pills and quick fixes, we will continue to live in a society that accepts chronic symptoms and illness as “not that bad” or “kind of healthy” - nope, it isn't.

Consider this. The weight loss industry makes billions per year and over a 1/3rd of the country is overweight or obese and the number is consistently rising. Obviously, diet pills, fad diets and other schemes do not work, but these industries thrive on people's complacency and desire for a simple solution.

The fact is, learning about nutrition is daunting, especially with so much misinformation being spread like gospel. When you stand at the bottom of Everest and look up, you feel overwhelmed! Of course you will naturally seek out the elevator right? The truth of the matter is your body and your health should be your first priority. If you are unhealthy, you are not living your best life.

Whether you're overweight, out of shape, chronically stressed, or whatever the problem may be – illness is not “natural” or “normal”. Your body is telling you “Pay attention!”. We all have it within our power to improve our health and well-being. Yes, some people have injuries and illnesses that make life more difficult, but there is never an excuse for giving up, unless you make them.

I Can't Be Successful Because I Don't Have Money

One of the biggest lies and traps we tend to buy into is that money and titles define success in life. I used to believe this when I was younger too. I spent a lot of time working my way up the ladder in a career I hated, because I thought that was what I had to do to become successful.

We all have to take our lumps right? If you don't live in a big house or have a nice car, no one will believe you are successful. This is a fallacy. Some of the most successful people I know in life live very humbly. They are successful because they are authentic, have a great work/life balance, and are doing what they enjoy.

Yes, some have made money; others struggle a bit with finances, but the common thread is they are content with who they are and they love the lives they lead. I count myself as a success story these days, but it took a lot of time, a lot of soul searching and I had to deprogram myself from a lot of the things I had been lead to believe.

I live in an old farmhouse that needs TLC and I drive a 15 year old car. So what? I wake up every morning at peace with who I am, even if I am facing some challenges. I work doing what I have loved to do since I was little – writing. I make enough to provide for my family, pay my immediate bills and I make it my mission to always improve myself and to help others in whatever way I can. I rarely complain and have become a much more honest and proactive person than I used to be – the result – a consistently happier version of myself who I enjoy much better.

Are your lies and self-deception sabotaging you? Take steps today to be more honest and accountable. Do this with love and not judgment. Empower yourself to take control of your own life. You deserve it.

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      Christin Sander 20 months ago from Midwest

      very true quicksand - thanks for the read and comment :)

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      quicksand 20 months ago

      Most of the damage is done by "well wishers" in the very young stages of one's life. The dreaded prefix "you can't ... because it's ... " is the worst offender. However when you begin to realize things the way they actually are it's never to late to unhypnotize yourself! Thank GOD for that! ...... Have a nice day!

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      Christin Sander 23 months ago from Midwest

      Thanks for the read, vote and comment peach - much appreciated.

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      peachy 23 months ago from Home Sweet Home

      your hub tells the inner self of everyone's heart, almost half of them I had said to myself. Voted up

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      Christin Sander 24 months ago from Midwest

      Thank you Ebonny for the read and share - much appreciated.

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      Ebonny 24 months ago from UK

      Very thought provoking. I really like the list of signs you gave as it's important to take stock on an ongoing basis. Helps with going onwards and upwards (sharing).

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      Christin Sander 2 years ago from Midwest

      I don't know if you're a liar peach, but I am sure that it isn't true that you can never make anything right in life. You are a very kind person from what I've seen of you on HP. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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      peachy 2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      Maybe i am a liar to myself, i tell myself i can never make anything right in my life

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      Christin Sander 2 years ago from Midwest

      Thanks so much for reading and commenting MHiggins, greatly appreciated. I'm so happy you found it helpful.

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      Michael Higgins 2 years ago from Michigan

      Great hub ChristinS! After reading this I see where I have been letting my job run me. The more I get done, the more work is piled on me by supervisors. I am past the point of being productive and things have become abusive. This helps put things back into perspective. Great info. Voted up!

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      Christin Sander 2 years ago from Midwest

      Thanks so much Paula much appreciated :) Glad to see it's making some rounds again.

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      Paula 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Hard to believe it's been 7 months since this first went around! That's because it's an A$$-kickin hub that stays with the readers! I loved reading it again! You may yell, "BINGO!!" Christin.....this is one of the year's BEST!...UP++++

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      Christin Sander 2 years ago from Midwest

      Don't feel bad Millionaire. I have those moments too where it seems like I get sucked into time wasters. I've found it's usually when I'm feeling a bit intimidated or overwhelmed. Sometimes walking away for a bit helps when we come back to it all. Thanks for reading and commenting :)

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      Shasta Matova 2 years ago from USA

      This is very inspiring, Christin. You're right about all of it, especially the part where you say that it is the undiscovered lies that hurt you the most. I did a lot of this during the summer. I didn't have the time to do the things I was supposed to do, but somehow I found the time to do the things that simply wasted time.

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      seanorjohn 2 years ago

      This is so embarrassingly true.

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      Thanks Catherine for reading and commenting. Glad you enjoyed the hub.

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      Catherine kennedy 3 years ago

      Good advice, recognised myself in certain areas, will take heed for future! Thanks x

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      Thank you so much B Lucy - glad you enjoyed it so much :) that makes my day.

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      B Lucy 3 years ago from Podunk, Virginia

      One of my favorite all time hubs by far!! Not only is the content awesome but as a list person, I love how you have detailed all our dirty little lies!!!

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      good for you greeneyed - you're probably the only person who has never told themselves a lie.

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      greeneyedblondie 3 years ago

      I have never told myself any of those things. Of course I've had other people tell me those things before but I don't think that's the point.

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      Thanks glassvisage for reading and commenting. Being inspired by others successes is definitely the way to go.

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      glassvisage 3 years ago from Northern California

      What a great idea for a Hub. I've tried using some of these as excuses but they would always be foiled when I would see someone else triumph above the things I tried to allow to hold me back. Thanks for sharing :)

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      LS I'm so glad you found it helpful. It means a lot to me when my writing can help someone.

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      LS McEachern 3 years ago

      Thank you so much for this hub. It was exactly what I needed to read today!

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      thanks rls glad you enjoyed the hub :)

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      rls8994 3 years ago from Mississippi

      Wow, this was an eye opener. I have been guilty of most of these lies. Thanks for this inspirational article! :)

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      thanks wq, I believe most of us lie to ourselves, (and sometimes others), more than we admit or realize - which is what holds a lot of us back. Recognizing and then correcting those habits health us to live healthier, more meaningful lives. Thanks for the comment.

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      Ashok Goyal 3 years ago from Rajpura 140401 Punjab India

      Though I believe in "Speak truth and Foregt"

      yet I think nobody can ever remember having lied never.

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      Thanks Alpha for the comments. Being grounded is also important.

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      Kevin W 3 years ago from Texas

      This was a great Hub ChristinS. I normally don't have these issues as I've always been extremely confident/arrogant and it's more of a struggle to keep myself grounded rather than believing I can not achieve something. Thumbs up on your hub.

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      Thanks Nell for reading and for the great comment and share. Appreciate it :)

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      Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

      Hi, I recognised myself reading this! can't do this because, too old for that because...and so on. I think it's a mixture of laziness and loss of confidence with me, I really should kick myself in the pants, and just get on with it! lol! great hub! voted up and shared, nell

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      Thanks Sun Pen - I think lying is kind of in our nature and isn't always "malicious" but more a self-preservation tactic gone awry - and then it gets out of control and the next thing you know, you've convinced yourself you can't do all sorts of things or to accept less than ideal situations etc. I think you're right - it's definitely something all of us do at some point :) thanks for reading and commenting.

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      Sun Pen 50 3 years ago from Srilanka

      People lie because other people also do it. They never realize that two wrongs do not add up to a right thing. let others lie. You can live a real life without creating creating your own maze of lies.

      Thank you very much bluntly writing the truth. awesome/up

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      Thank you Zainab for the read an share :) much appreciated and I agree, it is very difficult at times.

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      Musu Bangura 3 years ago from Nation's Capital

      One of the most difficult things a person can do is look in the mirror and be honest with themselves. Thanks for the article - very insightful. I'm sharing this and voting it up!

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      Thank you MizBejabbers :) It's funny, I've had a few things in life too where I was so adamant that's what I wanted and then you finally get there and it's like meh.. Like you though, I look at those things as experiences to learn from. I definitely believe in the "be careful what you wish for" ;). Been there done that a few times lol. Thanks for the great feedback and comments :).

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      MizBejabbers 3 years ago

      What a hub of truth you’ve written! True happiness comes from within, and there is no way to tell anyone how to find it. You can try to guide them, but you know the old saying about leading a horse to water. And don’t let someone else lead you away from your goal like your grandmother did when you wanted to be an astronaut. When I was a young teenager, I was in love with radio and decided I wanted to be a disc jockey. My father scoffed and laughed at me. He wanted me to be a chemist. A woman disk jockey, indeed! After I was grown, I did break the glass ceiling of male radio and became the first woman disc jockey in Little Rock. I spent three years disk jockying, and it was the most boring, unsatisfactory work I’ve ever done. My current boss’ favorite expression is “be careful what you wish for because you may get it.”

      Anyway, I’m not crying over spilt milk. Those three years were a stepping stone for me to move into a much more satisfying career. I went from there to news reporting to politics. I have had a wonderful 26-year career as a result of following my own path. I would have been miserable as a chemist – or even a chemistry teacher.

      “We better serve others when we first learn to serve ourselves.” How true. I used to be bombarded by family members by “you’re so selfish” whenever I tried to do for myself. I got tired of hearing “if you loved me you would do XXX for me.” I finally told them to look in the mirror if they wanted to see selfish. I was through serving them.

      Success isn’t lots of money, a big house, and a fine car. Success is looking inside and seeing true happiness and being content. It may be in a little cottage or a house trailer. You know what, that little family in the double wide I pass on the way home may be happier than my neighbor in the brick two story house. Christin, I think I would love your farmhouse much better than my leaky old underground house. Did I mention we should be careful what we wish for or we may get it? Wonderful hub. Voted up++

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      thank you raymond :) your feedback is much appreciated and I'm glad you and so many others have enjoyed this hub so much! :)

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      Raymond Philippe 3 years ago from The Netherlands

      Next week i'll write a killer hub like yours. ;-) But seriously now. A lot of what you say certainly rings a bell. Being accountable for what you do and not do is super important. Great read.

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      Thank you Flourish :) Greatly appreciate the positive feedback and the shares/pin :D

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      Terrific butt-kicking, motivating, you-can-do-this hub! And shame on your Granny for busting the dream of a little girl. We all have to have stretch goals. Voted up and more, pinning, and shared.

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      fpherj48 Thank you so much :) Your comment just gave me the biggest smile and I'm so honored by how this hub is touching people. It took me a few weeks to really put together all I wanted to say and condense it. I found it therapeutic and if anyone benefits from it, that makes me all the happier. I really appreciate the feedback - and of course the shares! :) Have a great day!

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      Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Christin....For the first time ever, I've decided to list the single exclamations that came to mind as I read this outstanding hub.....WOW! Bull's eye! True! Superbly filled with common sense & reality! I HEAR you, Christin!

      Your hub is beyond great, Christin. If each and every individual who reads this, cannot relate to one, some or all of your 10 points, at some point in our lives......Looks like we can make this 11 lies we tell ourselves!!!....UP+++tweeted & pinned.

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      Thank you Faith for the great comment and the shares. I agree that I think when we fill our mind with all the stuff we don't want it greatly impacts life. A friend of mine once told me "Worrying is like praying for what you don't want". In other words, don't put so much passion into lack - turn that around and focus on blessings and creating opportunities etc. I always loved that line :) You have a great weekend too and thanks for the comment and shares.

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      cygnetbrown - thanks so much! I hope you have continued success with your focus. I agree it does work so much better. This is an area I still struggle with off and on too because it becomes so ingrained, but yes, the daily and weekly to do lists and only one large goal I'm working right now have eased my anxiety and boosted my confidence and determination like nothing else! Good luck to you :)

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      Thank you tobusiness - I admit the multitasking thing is a hard one because you're right, we are taught that multitasking makes us "super women" etc. and in reality, I found it doesn't. Thanks so much for the comment :)

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      Ann, thanks so much for the awesome feedback and the share :) Much appreciated! I'm glad that you enjoyed it so much and your comment really made my day this morning so thank you :)

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      kerlund74 - we spend so much of our time working and when it's at a job you hate it can be SO soul sucking. So glad you are recognizing it and making changes. Wish you much success!

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Great hub here! Oh, what we think about ourselves has a huge impact on not only our physical wellbeing but every other aspect of our lives. The thoughts we think truly do make a difference. I love to be mindful to do as God tells us in His Word, to think on those things that are true, excellent, praiseworthy, lovely ... etc., and then one is kept in perfect peace by not filling our minds with such negative thoughts or untruths about ourselves and others too.

      Up and more and sharing.

      Have a great weekend ahead,

      Faith Reaper

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      Donna Brown 3 years ago from Alton, Missouri

      You're right, giving ourselves excuses does not help us meet the goals. I especially like the one about multitasking. Since I determined that I would focus on one thing at a time and one thing only, I have actually been getting so much done it is almost unbelievable. Since the beginning of the year, I have been working on the resolution to finish what I start which includes the no multitasking concept. It definitely works.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      This is powerful and inspiring stuff!! I guess we can all see something of ourselves here. I tend to put things off, always tomorrow never right now and I love what you said about multitasking, it makes good sense to prioritise but women generally feel that they must be able to do several things at once. Great hub.

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      Ann Carr 3 years ago from SW England

      This is a fantastic hub! Up+++ & shared. Everyone should read this. It's honest, it makes sense and it's a wake-up call. Apart from the 10 questions, your relevant quotes are brilliant, you have excellent examples and you have personalised it too.

      I've been guilty of many of these in the past; I've learnt that it's so much better to be honest with ourselves and to organise our lives to get the most out of them.

      This is by far the best article I've read on this subject because it's clear and reader-friendly whilst remaining honest.

      Great job! Ann

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      kerlund74 3 years ago from Sweden

      I live to read your hub. Makes so much fall in place. Although I hav been better during the years. Now I am struggling to get the last lie fixed. I have like you wrote made a career with something that makes me feel stressed and depressed on a regular bases. I am on my way now, I have taken some decisions to change my life and I don´t see that success is money, big house and a great car... It is about some more "basic" things:)

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      Thanks for the great comment Suraj. I am of the mindset that if you truly enjoy what you do and you do it consistently - the rewards for that action follow. This could be improved writing skills, more money, or the opportunity to earn money with your writing in another venue possibly. For example, I have used my Hubs many times as writing samples when seeking clients. My hubs make modest money, but indirectly they have helped me greatly increase my livelihood. :) thanks for the read and comment.

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      suraj punjabi 3 years ago from jakarta

      hey ChristinS, I really loved this hub and found it very true. I really identify with the "its not possible for me to____ right now, because _______. This is the one lie that has kept me from blogging consistently. I always end up telling myself "Its not possible for me to blog right now because it takes too long to earn enough serious money/I don't have the time now that I am already married, etc. If there is one thing that is holding me back to progress right now, its this lie. I have decided now that I will blog not because of money, blogging for money is really not a good mentality to start a blog with. Its not easy to earn serious money with blog. Now I blog because I like writing, my teachers in school always thought I was good at writing, and the interest in reading and writing have always been there. If I get money, great. If not, so be it.

      Doing the right things for the wrong excuses is never a good thing. In the long term its those excuses that really makes a difference.

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      Thanks Rev. Akins for the awesome comment. I'm so glad you enjoyed the hub :)

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      Rev. Akins 3 years ago from Tucson, AZ

      What a great hub! I did not realize how many lies I was telling myself until now. I hope I can take a step back and stop doing it as often. Thank you, my eyes are open and my mind is blown. :)

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      I'm honored that you enjoyed my hub :) thanks so much!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I loved the title and then the article was even better. I would have to divide my life in ended seven years ago and then the one of the last seven...during the last seven years I have been brutally honest with myself. It was either that or die. :) Great article.

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