Aging Gracefully, I Thought I Was Until Now
Oh No, I Have Been "Deared"
Rarely do I walk around thinking to myself, I am getting older. But then, just when I am cheerfully going about my daily activities, something happens to remind me that it's a fact.
When I turned fifty, it was a landmark birthday and I thought about getting older, it is after all a half a century. But my annual physical that year made me feel as if I was getting decrepit. I was handed the brochures on heart disease in women, colonoscopies and osteoporosis.
I walked in to the appointment feeling good and left feeling as if every thing was going downhill fast. Good heavens do I have to worry about all of this happening?
The above photo is a classic optical illusion of an old woman and young woman
What did you see?
Wow, so many people have said they can't see the old woman at all that I have put a "little helper" at the end.
So keep reading and you shall see.
My First Set Back -- Or My First "Dearing" Of The Day
Maybe I am older than I think I am
The day started out perfectly normal as I headed out to run errands.
First stop, the bank, to deposit a check into my savings account. Keep in mind I have been banking here for 15 years and have a sterling record of never bouncing a check.
I hand the teller my deposit slip and the check and I see her go to the back counter and scrutinize it. Then she goes into a back room and a manager comes out holding my check.
I ask her if there is a problem. "No dear", she says. "It's just that we are not familiar with the name of this check issuer". "Dear are you familiar with the issuer?" "Do you know where this check came from?" So I explain that I had this small mutual fund account for ten years and decided to take the proceeds.
The check is deposited. As I leave, it occurs to me that I have heard that gratuitous tone of voice before, when someone is speaking to the elderly. Further, I think she was questioning me because she thought I might have been victimized by a check fraud scam targeting the elderly.
"Moi?" "I still have my faculties, if you please."
Become Aware of Scams Against the Elderly
Some of the scam artists are so smooth and practiced at what they do, that even the smartest person may be taken in.
There are scams where bogus checks are issued to the unsuspecting people as part of a scam.
Read up and make your self aware for yourself or a loved one.
- AARP Scams and Frauds Website
This is the website for the American Association of Retired People which highlights scams that are being perpetrated.
It's a cruel irony, that the older you get, the more you need a magnifying mirror; the less you want to see your face magnified.
The Second "Dearing" Of The Day
Twice in one, day. I am going to have a melt down.
So, I continue on to Target (department store) to purchase some odds and ends.
At the check out counter I am greeted by the cashier. She has grey hair, tied back in a not very stylish ponytail and appears to be a senior citizen.
I check out, and pay and the register produces a coupon for $5.00 off my next purchase.
"Dear", she says, "this coupon is only good for a week". I nod and take the coupon. She cups her hand over mine and says again, as if trying to get through to me: "Dear, this isn't like our other coupons; they are usually good for a month. This one is only good for a week".
Something about having a woman I perceive as elderly, treating me as if I am older than her made me realize, this was the second time I had been "deared" in one day.
Maybe my perception of myself is a lot younger than other people see me.
Jane Fonda...........a goal setter for the aging - Healthy Aging
I watched Jane Fonda on the Anderson Cooper daytime show and she looked fabulous. Camera trick? I don't think so; people in the live audience were commenting on how great she looked.
She admittedly had plastic surgery -- a face lift and breast implants. But still, she was, at the time 72 and looked fabulous.
Then, she proceeded to balance herself on one foot, while doing curls with hand held weights. Not so easy to do. She did it effortlessly.
Recently, I read an article in AARP Magazine about exercises one should do every day to ward off aging.
One of the exercises was to stand on one foot and balance yourself for 30 seconds, then do the other foot.
This promotes stability and balance and decreases the risk of falling in the elderly.
I do this while waiting for something to cook on the stove. It beats watching the water to see when it boils.
More Services That Protect and Help The Elderly
- National Do Not Call List
If you feel your aging parent is being bombarded with phone solicitations, you can put them on a national Do Not Call List. It does stop the legitimate telemarketers such as the cable company, from calling but of course the scam artists ignore it.
- Opt Out List
This is a great list to put your elderly parents on, or yourself. It stops all the junk mail from credit card companies and insurance companies. I did it for me as I don't like credit card application forms coming to the house. Also, if your parents
"None are so old as those who have outlived enthusiam."
Henry David Thoreau
Picture of Old Woman
Hint: The old woman and the young woman both have the same hat. While the young woman is facing away from us, the old woman is in silhouette.
© 2012 Ellen Gregory