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Alateen Books for Children of Alcoholics

Updated on November 24, 2015
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Deborah has been a member of Al-anon, an organization for the friends and family of alcoholics and addicts, for over 34 years.

A Few Alateen Books Can Help Your Children Tremendously!

This is an example of one of the books that may help children of alcoholics.  It is available for sale below.
This is an example of one of the books that may help children of alcoholics. It is available for sale below. | Source

Children of Alcoholics Find Help at Alateen

Many adults are hurt, confused and frustrated by the alcoholics and drug abusers in their lives. Since this is true of adults, it is not surprising that children suffer even more from the impact of having an alcoholic or addicted parent. Alateen is an organization that has been created in order to help children have a better understanding of what is going in their family so they are more capable of coping with the inevitable periods of chaos.

I grew up in a family where heavy drinking was common, and I wish I had been able to go to an Alateen meeting, just so that I would have known there were other kids who were going through some of the same things as me. If I had also been able to learn a few techniques for dealing with the problems, it may have enabled me to avoid some of the anger and resentments I had for many years after I became an adult. It is my sincere hope that today's children of alcoholics are able to get the help they need and deserve.

One way to help the young people who are living with an alcoholic parent is to take them to a meeting of Alateen. Another way is to make sure they have some Alateen books to read.

Since I became an adult, I have been able to go to Alanon and learn more about how the heavy drinking in my family affected me while I was growing up. One of the most important things I have learned is what is often referred to as the "Three C's." They are:

You didn't cause it;

You can't control it;

You can't cure it.

The "it" they are referring to, of course, is the alcoholism or drug addiction that is taking place in your family. Many children, in particular, will blame themselves for their parent's behavior. In addition, they may try to control what is happening. They may try to be extra well-behaved so their parent won't drink; they may beg their parent to stay home tonight; they may even try to hide or throw away any drugs or alcohol they find in the home. Of course, none of these actions ever seem to make a difference.

If you know of a child in a situation like this, you may want to take them to some Alateen meetings and buy them some Alateen books to help them understand what is happening. While most of the literature has been written for teenagers, some of the available books have been written for children who are quite young and still in the early years of elementary school. Some Alateen groups also have meetings for children who are not actually teenagers, yet.

Even if your child is uncomfortable about going to meetings, they may find it helpful to read one or more of these books.

Read on to see some examples of Alateen books and to learn more about the Alateen program. If you want to know more about any of the books featured here, simply click on the blue product name for the book and you will be taken to its Amazon page, where you can see the price, read reviews or see the other book choices that are available.

A Book Can Help Your Child Understand That They are Not Alone

Alateen: Hope for Children of Alcoholics
Alateen: Hope for Children of Alcoholics

Millions of children of alcoholics believe that they are suffering alone ... that no one else has a family with as many problems as their family has. Other children don't understand that alcohol is the problem ... they just know that something strange is going on. This book, also used in the photo above, will help your children understand the basic Alateen program.

 

Alateen Books Can Bring Your Child Comfort and Support

When I meet adults who grew up in homes with alcoholic parents, many of them had no idea that their parents acted strange because they were alcoholics. Sometimes they thought their parents hated them.

On the other hand, there are children who know that they should avoid their parents whenever they have been drinking, especially if they want to avoid being hit or yelled at.

The books featured here are for a variety of age groups, but they are not the only books that are available. To find more, click on the blue product name of any book featured here and you will be taken directly to its Amazon page where you can see the price or shop for other choices.

For Teenagers Living With a Parent Who Abuses Alcohol/Drugs
For Teenagers Living With a Parent Who Abuses Alcohol/Drugs

A well-written explanation of what is going on in the alcoholic family.

 

What is Alateen?

Alateen is a subsidiary of Alanon, which is an organization for the family and friends of people with alcohol and drug abuse problems. Alateen meetings are required to be led and sponsored by an Alanon member, and usually two. The Alanon members who lead the Alateen meetings are expected to have at least one year in Alanon and have passed a background check.

In the meetings, the Alanon members will help the teens and pre-teens discuss the alcoholism in their families. The kids will share their hopes, fears and worries with each other, and the leaders will help guide the discussion, using approved Alateen literature.

Alateen costs very little. Usually the group asks for just a dollar or two donation, which is used to cover the cost of any rent, refreshments or literature. In addition, it is usually suggested that the kids own one or two Alateen books, such as the ones mentioned in this article. Other than that, there is no cost to either the parent or the child.

A Book For Younger Children

You do not have to be a teenager in order to belong to Alateen. The book below will help parents and Alateen leaders discuss alcoholism with younger children.

This is not the only book for younger children that is available. You will find more choices by clicking on a blue product name for one of the books, which will take you to its Amazon page, and then shopping for "Alateen books."

Reading a book will not solve all the problems in an alcoholic family, but it is a good place to start.

An Elephant In the Living Room The Children's Book
An Elephant In the Living Room The Children's Book

The "Elephant in the Living Room" is the alcohol problem that no one wants to talk about, but everyone knows is there.

 

Have you ever worried about the child of an alcoholic?

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      Deborah Carr 3 years ago from Orange County, California

      So many children suffer because they have a parent who is an alcoholic or addict. These books, and the Alateen program, could help them.

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      VspaBotanicals 3 years ago

      Thank you for doing this lens. Unfortunately, I know a lot of related alcoholism cases involving children. I will direct others to this important information.

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      WriterJanis2 3 years ago

      I'm glad that children can find support, but it's sad that they have to.

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      SteveLomonaco 4 years ago

      Very good information. It is extremely sad to see children of alcohol addicts suffer the way they do. They grow up being confused and sad and most times the 3 Cs play a crucial role. I too hope that this information reaches more and people and children get help from this. Children deserve the best and they should get it. Thanks for sharing.

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      Melissa Miotke 4 years ago from Arizona

      I'm glad there are resources like this available for children who are suffering.

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      Anja Toetenel 4 years ago from The Hague, the Netherlands

      I'm so very happy this is support and help is available nowadays to children of addicted parents. My parents were both alcoholics and when I was young the AA didn't even exist in my country! Very good of you to inform readers about this. I hope many teenagers will find your article if they face a situation like this and get help! Thank you for this great informative Lens!

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      drmork 4 years ago

      Excellent book for dysfunctional families.