The quest for external acceptance leads to emptiness.
But if you need an urgent answer... You project unto others how much you accept and cherish yourself.
And this leads or facilitates or enthuses the approval of others.
The motto is something like: I love myself whether you love me or not.
Their reaction? They will adore you!
Is called faith by others.
You cannot sell someone else on something that you do not sponsor yourself.
The question should be, do you accept yourself?
Love thyself first. If you build it they will come!