I am 43 and have just started planning my funeral. I have arranged a funeral plan, I am going to choose eveything from the coffin to the music (want 'when the saints go marching in'jazz style by a live band!) The funeral director has all the info and will ensure it happens. I have even arranged the transport should I choose to take a less painful way out should my symptoms worsen.
The plan is that my send off will in effect totally self organising so my family are spared the trauma of having to arrange this during a very difficult time. I also want it to not be a lavish thing, but not a sad and gloomy thing. Probably they will all end up in the pub :)
I know that when my Grandma passed away, it was the hardest thing I have ever done to stand up a perform a reading without breaking down during the service, but I remember afterwards in the pub, we were remembering things she had done that made us laugh and cry, but most important, I know she would be so happy about the way we remembered her, and I would like to build on that for my funeral so it minimises any trauma.
In fact, there are some responses to my question which is a related topic. You may wish to have a look!