I'm probably breaking a rule answering my own question, but I wanted some feedback. I have known lots of addicts. I have seen the devastation it causes.and i guess unless you are an addict, you cannot truly understand. I've had lots of family who has struggled with it; some have beaten it, some have lost the battle, some let it ruin them slowly. Let it ruin what could have been good.
I have trouble not getting angry with the addict, I guess. And I feel guilty about that, but there are so many people who struggle with diseases every day that they have absolutely not control over and would do anything to get better, while it seems someone who is an alcholic or drug addict wants it or goes after it on some level at some point. Or at least chooses in some way to allow it's hold over them. Whitney Houston's death is heartbreaking; not only for her , her child, her family and friends and for the world that lost her voice. It just seems to me such a pathetic and pointless thing to throw away all that you've been given for a lie. And for so long. How many chances did she have to change? How many people tried to help? I know this is sounding judgemental and it's not . I just hope that there are people out there playing around with alchohol and drugs right now, having fun with it, that understand how devastating, how complete and how non-discriminate addiction is in who it decides to ruin. It's the addict but it's also the lives of everyone who cares about the addict that are forever altered.