I was never as afraid of insects as you are but I have learned to accept them.
I moved to rural Brazil nearly 3 years ago and insects of all kinds are here.
They are amazing creatures when you stop to watch them. I used to hate wasps for example and thought they served no purpose whatsoever other than to frighten me. Now I watch them taking caterpillars back to their nests for their unborn to have food when it hatches out.
Everything has a role. I have a greater tolerance of all insects and encourage anything that will eat anything that may bite me like mosquitoes.