We all have painful childhood memories to transform, some people have so many that it might seem like an impossible task. My own painful childhood memories centered around my father's alcoholism and it's effects on our family. I'm lucky, as painful memories go, those must fall somewhere in the middle.
Nevertheless, in order to move past a painful childhood, it seems there are several things that must happen.
1. To move past our pain, we must first acknowledge that it is there. As long as we're in denial, we are stuck.
2. After admiting it, comes feeling it. That is a long process, but slowly, slowly those memories can be restructured so that they fit into the total picture of our life story.
3. It helps to find someone who will listen without making judgments. Patience is essential.
4. After we are well into those three steps, we can begin to build the life we want at which time it is helpful to understand how that process works, and then our energy goes into creating this new life.
Good luck. You are not alone.