I dealt with both bullies in school and a verbally abusive father (bully) growing up. It seemed I was an emotional garbage dump for many people. As a child, it damaged me immensely, but as an adult, I took it and turned it around and ended up with a higher sense of self-worth than I thought possible. It tore me down, but I built myself back up ultimately and in some strange ways feel stronger because of it. Do you think most bullied kids end up ok? or do you think it harms most people their whole life?
sort by best latest
I believe it did the same for me also, it made me more conscious of how not to treat others. As for internet bullying, I guess the anonymity gives people "courage" to be mean. It is rather sad.
I sympathize with this! I was opposite, very tiny and didn't break 100 lbs til college. Adults always unintentionally made me feel "small" for more than just my stature! I agree adults have to be very careful because kids do take things to heart!
You are so right. So many people act as if using words or walking away are the only options for the victim. When victims who are physically threatened or attacked fight back, the bully is called the victim!
I agree and like you I had a couple of very positive people in my life to counteract a lot of it. Glad you had support and yes, bullying is dangerous no doubt. It sounds like u did overcome it - yay :D
As a teenager I actually had a friend and we got to chatting. Turns out she had been a bully in grade school, she wasn't my bully but she apologised as if she had been. She had been abused and had taken it out on others, and now felt bad herself.
I totally relate to what you went through during the high school years. I never have understood how bullying is viewed as "normal" and a right of passage etc. It's cruel and uncalled for and I commend you for standing up to it.
I agree with you, many people are quick to say that what happens in our youth doesn't matter when we are adults. Unfortunately in most cases, they are wrong.
I think its good when we can speak rationally as opposed to reacting emotionally - it's good to strike a good balance. Glad you found strength
I read your hub and commented there - but want to suggest to others following this question to also read it, it was excellent.
I can relate to your story of being bullied at home and at school, it leaves a feeling of no safe space and does lead to depression. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Do we ever stop feeling little, trying to work it all out? Somehow I don't think so, I guess growing up doesn't mean you stop being a kid, you just start being more then that.
My own mother goes through similar feelings with her mother who never bullied her, but bullied her two siblings mercilessly. She forgave her, but it still sits with her especially now that grandma is gone.
thank you for the compliment :) I appreciate that and the follow thank you.
It's always so sad when it's a parent that turns on a child. I can see how both the operation and the bullying likely had an effect. Hope you are feeling happier and more secure these days :)
That's brilliant LoisRyan, and it could so easily have gone the other way had you been less strong. I'm so glad you made it, and glad that time has enabled you to see the bully for the sad person she is. Good on you