Mahalo for putting this question on the table. In Hawai'i the word "Aloha" is bantered about a million times a day. I'm sure most people don't have a sense of the deeper meaning. All I can share is what I was raised to understand about "Aloha".
The word "aloha" is actually made up of two root words - "alo" and "ha". "Alo" means "face". "Ha" is the "breath of life", the air that entered into each of us when we took our first breath. Where does the "breath of life" come from? Hawaiians believe that it comes from God - Ke Akua.
So in the abstract way that many native languages evolved, "Aloha" means to "face God" or to be "in the face of God". If you were "in the face of God" how would you treat the stranger? Your children? What words would you speak?
Aloha is more than "do unto others as you would have them do unto you". Aloha is to love others as God loves them whom he has created.
Just my mana'o (opinion). Mahalo for asking. Aloha, Stephanie