The ability to be a partner--it's not about my way or his way--but a man who is willing to find a way to work on things together--to lead with his strengths and recognize the strengths in others to compensate for his weaknesses. A man who values himself and others--who recognizes opportunities for personal growth and discipline. Also good communication is key. A blend of strength and humility--the strength to protect and the humility to serve. It means a lot to be able to say, "I'm sorry" when he makes a mistake. And sense of humor! And intelligence--but not arrogance. Somebody who will practice what they preach. Also an encourager--I don't like when men are judgmental, crass, or rude. One who respects all peoples. One who is a man of conviction and morals and who will stand up for what is right. One who can be fierce against evil and gentle with those who need care. There's several characteristics for ya, not just one!