How did you react when someone you loved told you they were dying
I was 13 when a friend of the family told my mom she had cancer.
I remember her look, my look, my fear, and a deep sadness overcame me.
It was the saddest summer I ever experienced.
I recall sitting on my back porch and not talking to anyone.
I think it's when I first grasped the idea of mortality.
No one ever actually told me they were dying. At 13 years, my maternal grandmother, to whom I was not especially close, died at the age of 83. I remember the sting I felt at her funeral when my grandfather blurted through his tears, "She was a good girl!"
A few years later, I had a dream that the earth rolled away like a blanket. My grandmother reached up and we hugged. It was my way of resolving that I could not communicate with her in her native Slavic tongue while she was alive. Having raised nine children, she undoubtedly was a wonderful woman.
The deepest hurt at felt about anyone's actual death was that of my elder half brother, who was only 32 at the time. He died of leukemia and left behind his wife and two little girls. Somehow I felt that I was at least partly responsible for his passing. I was unable to attend his funeral, and it took several year to put the experience behind me. I now know he's in good hands. ***
My mom lost her brother when he was 46. It was a boating accident in Alaska. I was 29 and not one of us was prepared for his sudden death.
But I'll still never forget when a dear friend told us she had cancer.
Despair was my feeling.
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