I am fortunate I have it through several friends. I enjoy those who can carry on an intellectual conversation. Those who are true to themselves. Those who do not have that need to change people. Those who are happy in living to their fullest. Those who do not need to use terms as real, fake etc. etc. Those who are eternal optimist. Those who do something against what oppresses them. Those who understand if they are missing an element in life, they need to fix it within, for the outside world is the extension of our own thoughts.
I have it now with a few close friends, and I had this with my late husband.