What are the negative impacts of growing up in a large and very large family upo

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   gmwilliamsposted 10 years ago

   What are the negative impacts of growing up in a large and very large family upon children?
   
   

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   alancaster149posted 10 years ago

   Depends on the accommodation available, although I remember Brian Clough saying he and his brothers shared a bed. All six or seven of them. As they grew older, the elder brothers left home and there was more room in the bed. There was one sister, Maureen I think.
   In my Grandad's family there were fourteen after two died in infancy. A further two died of scarlet fever in childhood. There were two surviving brothers, the rest girls. When the eldest had left home, the youngest two were still at school. They lived on a farm in North Yorkshire, the eldest had his own farm a few miles away (bought with compensation money after a farm accident) and the two youngest inherited the farm. The rest made their own way in the world.
   Grandad was fairly well known where I grew up, with two allotments (one for salad veg and potatoes, the other for raising chickens) to supply half of Grangetown around the year. It was only the cancer that got him down in the end, otherwise he stayed cheerful.

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      It is normal for children of large and very large families to live on top of each other & in crowded environments. The concept of privacy & space is nonexistent in large families. They live in the open so to speak. How sad, very, very sad!

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      Ericdierkerposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Harshness and judging comes from these folk. But that is a choice. Not a result of family.

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Not judging, it's the facts. Children in large & very large families grow up in such crowded environments, they do not understand normal human conditions.They've a consciousness that it so different from that of normal society.They're BASIC .

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   Diana Leeposted 10 years ago

   My husband is the oldest of twelve siblings. He used his large family as an excuse to buy senseless toys as he reached adulthood like ATVs, snowmobiles, campers, video games, etc., etc.  He claims he never had much as a child because there was so many of them.  I think it also made him selfish which I could not understand why. This made us decide to only have two children because we knew we couldn't afford more.

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Many children from large families become quite materialistic as adults as a result of NOT having anything as children. It is an overcompensation of sorts.One person I knew from a large family always talked about her new upper middle class lifestyle..

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      NiaLeeposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I understand and see one of my siblings, of course one of the oldest who always had so much responsibility and was overwhelmed with the idea that he has to make a lot of money for our safety!

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Diana, to paraphrase F. Scott Fitzgerald, those in large &very large families are way different from normal society. Attended school w/those children, they were unpolished & NO ONE liked them, even the teachers.They are really from a DIFFEREN

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   Ericdierkerposted 10 years ago

   I reckon that I did grow up in a small town with more dirt roads than paved. I am youngest of six and adopted. If figure I would not change a thing though slept in closets 'til six or so. But they were comfy. I understand year 8mnths to 1.1/2 was in a bureau drawer for a crib in my oldest sisters room. I suppose my hygiene stinks cuz no adult really taught me. But I look and smell good and am clean.
   Bath time was tough fer cold water or dirty tubs except when we bathed in the creek, or under a big metal can in the sun. 110 gallon.
   I did not like the chores of garbage and pumping the water that fell to the youngest but I was proud how I did 'em.
   I was youngest and will always be and that kind of is a two edge sword. Always protected but had to leave my home town to be seen as anything but the youngest. I heard tell Jesus had a similar problem as did Buddha.
   I got beat up, or at least in fights cuz of what my elder siblings did. I was expected to be like them in sports. (all state and all american)
   But that ain't nothin. For the joy I got and the happiness I feel toward family and all that love. Yes we sometimes slept together in one bed, but that was for warmth or security from lightning or thunder storms or sometime boogie men.
   I figure my wife feels the same as youngest of five.
   I would have like to have new basketball shoes. But I made all state with my brothers hand me downs.
   I do declare that life is full of compromise. I will take mine any day.

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      You have proven what I have said & what others know.Kids from large & very large families have  little or no parental training.They raise themselves & each other.They're the wild children so to speak,rough around the edges.Written hubs on

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Large families are bad overall, yes I said it. Little or no parental attention for the most part. Children raise themselves mostly. Some will endure hell while others endure bliss(youngest, mostly). Studied the large family- totally aberrant indeed.

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   NiaLeeposted 10 years ago

   It has benefits and disadvantages depending on the resources, the parents, their views and education, the environment, etc...
   The lack of room, privacy, attention, money, quality time with parents, the difficulty of getting along with a lot of other people constantly, being seen as one of a lot that sometimes may not be well behaved and the overload of chores and stress. Rivalries can also be a big issue for those who feel like they have to shine more than others for the parents, the world or even themselves... the saddest to me!
   ON the other side, I love all my brothers and sisters, pray for them everyday and wish them the best. Some are great, I respect differences of lifestyle and opinions, I just stay away from those who don't.
   One great thing is that they all have taught me and brought me a lot in this life... in a positive or negative way. I still love all of them. Though even with a lot of money, I won't have more than the three I have, because the greatest things in life can't be bought with money.

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      It DOES NOT have benefits. In such families,children aren't valued as much.You're not individuals, but A GROUP.You aren't  seen as special by your parents.Again, GROUP!Children in such families are A MASS,nothing more.They have issues, deep issues!

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