Sundeep....This a very good time for me to try to express my answer to this question. For some "unknown" reason, for the past 18 months, anything that could possibly go wrong in my life....has gone wrong. To put it mildly, I have been pushed far beyond my saturation point....which is fairly rare due to my tolerant & peace-loving nature. (Those who do not truly know my heart may choose to disagree with that statement, because I am also vocal and passionate on many fronts) Their "opinions" do not however, change the facts of my very nature.
Coming from a very personal level as opposed to basing my comment in general terms.....I have had to deal with the choice of being happy or unhappy, in spite of all outside influence.
Making the decision to be HAPPY is most often automatic.....quite simply, IMO this is like answering "Do you wish to be ill or well?" So, we can see the choice is an easy, natural one.
Putting this choice into action on a daily basis can be the struggle. I have a little problem with the word, "pretend," since this might indicate putting on a false front or being a "phony."
It's actually quite the OPPOSITE. It is a natural desire to be happy and sane, mature individuals prefer happiness to any and all negative emotion. So, IMHO, being happy, appearing to be happy, expressing happiness is merely maintaining a natural choice of being. We must not "pretend" nor do I believe people can do this convincingly.
To be clear, of course the reason for unhappiness and the level of it as well, are very crucial to understand. There is a time for authentic grief and sorrow, where no amount of "happy," comes into the picture.
Yet, even at that, Sundeep, we are deeply saddened by a particular event.....which does NOTnecessarily cause us to be completely despondent in any and all areas of our lives. (eg...I can sincerely grieve the loss of a loved one yet at the same time, find much joy and comfort in embracing a grandchild)
Per your question? One CAN and should strive to find the positive throughout the most negative of experiences......smile through tears....and continue to love in a world filled with hate.
The advantages are limitless.....and beats the HECK out of being terminally miserable.
Did I answer your question, Sundeep? Peace my friend, Paula