Speaking for myself, I would say first to get over the shock! I have this reality going on that I am constantly finding new things that have something to do with my thinking, loving, acting, etc.... I question the motives of these finding as if they were actually out to get me. That is probably just a myth because in reasoning out my feelings, hurt or in awe, I finally realized that everybody has to make a way if given the chance to be all they can be, even if it hurts someone. The better part of this analysis is that finding a common ground where we both can see eye to eye is part of winning the battle. I can enjoy then, I can let go, I can expect the unexpected.