My partner has a friend who is a horrible alcholic. He will bring a 5th of wisky to our house at 8 p.m. and it will be gone before midnight. He stumbles around, and my partner follows him around all night, because he keeps insisting that he is going to get in his car and go to the bar.
Last winter there was a horrible blizzard, and he didn't have any alcohol, he asked me to go to the store and by him some. I said hell no! Come to find out, he left in the middle of the night saying he was going to walk to the 24 hour grocery down the road and get soame. Well, he didn't come back.
I spent all night out looking for him, I eventually filed a missing person report. So, he comes rolling in at 6:30 in the morning, not a speck of snow on him in a blizzard, saying he had been out walking all night, and he was drunk. My partner believed him! I looked right at him and said you fricking liar!
If he had been out walking in a blizzard all night he would have been soaking wet. he was totally dry. Well, he finally caved, and told us he went to the bar until close, and stayed over at some guys house, and he had just dropped him off on his way to work.
Well, because I was out looking for him all night, I was too tired to go to work, and had to call in. I lost $86.00 in wages! But, did I leave my partner? No. Even though I seriously thought about it.
Because he never puts his foot down, and lets him drink all night until he passes out. If I say anything, I am told to shut the hell up. So I know exactly how you feel.
I only told you this, hoping that you will understand that you
are not alone. I would worry about the 3 day thing. Does he say where he has been when he's been gone that long?
I would certainly ask him. But, only if you think he might give you an honest answer, and isn't the violent type. Otherwise seek counceling. Talk to a relative, get some kind of help.