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How can I learn the art of small talk?


Long ago, in my 20s, I realized that I cannot do small talk. I really don't know how...serously. In a family video this Thanksgiving, I realized what happens because I can't DO small talk. The whole family talks right over me because they're not much interested in talking about NPR's Ira Flatow's recent discussion on gene therapy or the psycho-socio aspects of the movie "The Judge". I don't watch daytime TV that might have current references. I don't like talking about new products that are out. Help! My relationships are suffering. How can I learn to do this?

 

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Disillusioned (C.V.Rajan) says

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    Billie Kelpin 2 years ago

    CV, Interesting and helpful approach. Having been near-sighted and not very visually observant all my life, I tend NOT to notice people's facial expressions. I can't even tell you if they wore glasses or not after talking to them-I'm going to try.

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    Billie Kelpin 2 years ago

    Savvy, you might have something there. I might have learned that somewhere along the way, I taught that to myself like I taught myself not to watch TV during the day. I only allow myself to listen to npr or Pacifica radio where I learn something :{

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    Billie Kelpin 2 years ago

    Rae-LeighDawn, I like the talking about the activity a person is presently doing. I often am thinking about 92 other things than what I'm doing. Discussing the present is a good strategy. Thanks

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    Billie Kelpin 2 years ago

    Kathleen, Thank you! I'm trying that more and more. I'll try harder. Your friends must feel very respected because that's what we all want, I guess. Someone to listen to our lives and really hear what we're trying to say.