"He who has a 'why' to his existence can bear with any 'how'. (Neitzsche). That got me through a TERRIBLE time in my life. My daughter was my 'why'.
Now, it's not so much what I say, but what I DO to make myself feel better. I try to accomplish one thing, no matter how little - wash the dishes, clean a drawer. If I'm "o.k" enough, I try to do something that will benefit someone else - give a friend a little surprise or make a comment to someone on FB or elsewhere that I sense might make them feel good about themselves - makes me feel better.
Sometimes just answering a question HERE on hubpages or asking one helps.
Oh, sometimes, it helps to just plain CRY! We try to hold back the tears and hold back the tears and hold back the tears. If we just let the tears flow and get it out, it's a great release of the pressure of sorrow. Cuddling with my little dog Scooter comforts me.
Quotes have helped me, "Life breaks everyone and many are strong in the broken places." (Hemingway).
Thinking about what would make my husband happy on that day might do it for me.
Essentially MOVING and also getting "out of myself" is what works the most for me along with embracing the phrase " the audacity of hope". To be audacious in hoping is essential.