My son has Tourette Syndrome and anxiety. He has had a low self-esteem since about the age of 4. He is bright and does well in school, but has social skills deficits. He loves being with friends, but tries to control situations. He is not a big fan of the sports actitivites as we have tried many, and he fights us on going to them. He hates being watched in any type of activity and doesn't want us to stay during the events (soccer games, wrestling, etc.). He is extremely clever and hilarious, but hates getting compliments. I need creative ways of how to boost this unique child's self-image.
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I wish it was true that he didn't have a low self-esteem. His self-deprivating comments are very frequent, especially in school. He will only accept compliments if they are specific and in the moment, and I do my best to accommodate this need at home
He is starting an instrument next year.However, the struggle will be the concerts as he hates being watched/the center of attention.He had an anxiety attack yesterday as I went to watch his soccer game.If he feels he will fail, he won't attempt it.
The significant aspect about an orchestra is he does not have to stand out; he can simply blend in...
It is hoped. However, that didn't go over well for soccer. Maybe the instrument will be better, but I am pretty sure he still won't let his dad or I watch him in concerts. He says when family watches him, it makes him more anxious and nervous.
You are correct. He focuses on the negatives. His dad and I are trying to find ways for him to interact with kids his age more often where there is little pressure on him to perform or compete which would cause anxiety.
His father and I did try that when he was 5. He didn't like it and doesn't want to try it again. I really wish he would as I know it could help him in that area. Pushing him to do it just raises his anxiety. :(
Art can also be a great avenue. Playing a musical instrument, drawing, painting, or writing is something he can practice alone in his room as well as be taught by an instructor.