In small families, children are given individualized parental time, love, & attention. Parents have more time to spend more child. Parents have a span of control in small families. Children in small families do not have to raise themselves & each other. They also are not left to their own devices. Their parents are THERE FOR THEM. Children in small families are viewed & treated as unique individuals. In fact, they are encouraged & expected to be individuals. Children in small families are seen as special. They are loved & adored by their parents. Children in small families have their needs met.
In contrast, in large/very large families, children are not given individualized parental time, love, & attention. They oftentimes are left to their own devices. It is not unusual for children in large/very large families to raise themselves & each others as their parents find it humanly impossible or near it to raise a large number of children effectively by themselves. Children in large/very large families are viewed as numbers, never as individuals. They are seen as part of a group & are expected to adopt a group psychology.
In large/very large families, children are more disposable, especially the oldest/older ones who are expected to look after themselves. Parents in large/very large families oftentimes give the most care & attention to the younger/youngest children. The large/very large family environment is not a nurturing one, it is a precarious one where children must learn to sink or swim as no parent will be there for them. In large/very large families, parents do not have a span of control so they enlist the oldest/older children to raise the younger siblings. The large/very large family environment is stressful & parents are stretched thin, trying to raise their children. Niceties such as affection & hugging are rare in large/very large families. Because of the sheer number of children in the family, parental interaction is harsh, no-nonsense. It is not unusual for parents of large/very large families to use more cursory forms of discipline regarding their children. Children in large/very large families oftentimes have unmet needs. Many are attention deprived which causes them to seek attention, oftentimes from negative sources.