for your original family, even financially supporting grown younger siblings even paying their bills, much to the detriment/chagrin of your spouse & children? Are you expected to shoulder most, if not all the financial responsibilities while your younger siblings DON'T? Are you your family's constant ATM? In multichild families, adult oldest children are expected to carry their original family financially.It isn't unusual for adult oldest children to FOREGO their, their spouses', & even their children's financial comfort to financially support GROWN siblings. Oldest one, I feel YOUR pain!
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EXACTLY! But this scenario is very common in multichild families. Oldest children oftentimes financially support or assist younger siblings who are QUITE CAPABLE of supporting themselves but they WON'T & even EXPECT to be supported financially!
Doing that makes people dependent & lazy. Why should you sacrifice your life & lifestyle? They should do for themselves period!!
I don't know, Grace. Mum worked hard all her life. My brother too. My Sister is in Houston with cancer type 4 and still works hard. My other brothers and sister are all working hard and helping others. If you're resentful, you will not be happy.
Of course, people ARE resentful. They aren't supposed to SUPPORT GROWN PEOPE who OUGHT to SUPPORT THEMSELVES. That is what wrong w/family. An INBUILT welfare system- EACH TUB SITS ON ITS OWN BOTTOM. If family REFUSE TO WORK, they SHOULD STARVE!!!
Some of your questions seem connected. Of course you have my Love. I do not wish to change, just inspire. Continue with the way of Love, not submission or rejection. Perhaps a whole new kind of inner spring-cleaning is required. I bid you much Peace.