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Aspergers Syndrome and Love. How to thrive in an Aspergers Relationship.

Updated on April 6, 2014
Aspergers Syndrome and Romance. It can be tricky.
Aspergers Syndrome and Romance. It can be tricky.

Aspergers and Relationships

Asperpers Syndrome – Diagnosis and Relationships

It is now commonly acknowledged that there is a definite genetic component to autism. If you have an autistic child or sibling then it is also highly likely that you may have some strong autistic characteristics yourself also. Does this make you on the autistic spectrum though? Who knows? I certainly didn’t until my then three year old son received an diagnosis of Childhood Autism and Developmental Delay. Less than a year after that I finally discovered I myself am ‘an aspie.’

At this point so many things that had never made any sense to me before were suddenly made clear. Most especially it made me look at everyone around me in a new light and wonder who else do I know that is a potential closet Aspie?

Before long the spotlight was thrown on my better half i.e. my husband who has now stayed married to me for the last fourteen years. I am not saying he is on the spectrum or he isn’t but I am just pointing out a few facts that I have observed about my life partner.

The weather is an area that particularly interests him. Now that I am enlightened to certain autistic tendencies I cannot help but think that this is very similar to what is known as an autistic area of special interest. Then there is the additional fact that while I may dream of a two weeks interlude on a sun-kissed beech this is not what my hubby dreams of. Instead he thinks that an adrenalin fueled trip to tornado alley in the presence of ‘a really good tornado,’ is his idea of bliss.

Science Fiction films and documentaries (about the planet, inventions or new breakthroughs) are another big favorite of his?

Then there is the fact that he does in fact think in pictures just like Temple Grandin (very famous autistic woman to those not in the know).

Last summer he decided to put up ranch railing around our humble abode and the guy who erected said railing swore that there he had never before met a customer who had such an obsession with lining the posts up in straight lines?

I will soon rest my case only to briefly add that my better half does concede that he has dyslexia but that’s as far as it goes. When I point out that it is now widely accepted that there is in fact a genetic component to autism whether it is because of the Fragile X gene or perhaps because of other as yet unidentified genes he doesn’t see the connection.

In more unenlightened times my doctor once told me that half the country would be on the spectrum if they all went and had an assessment done. That was when the light bulb first flicked on for me and I went to this link. Result it was bang on and I have since been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome.

So if you think you too might be a closet Aspie why not give it a go.


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    • Denise Handlon profile image

      Denise Handlon 

      6 years ago from North Carolina

      Hi thewritingowl-this is a fascinating article and one that includes personal information and how it affects you, which is always an interesting factor for me. I rated it interesting/up and useful Looking forward to reading more.

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      6 years ago from Minnesota

      The links are a little bit distracting. Only include a link if it is directly related to the hub. Don't use the "suggest links" button. That only leads to obnoxiousness.

      And don't worry. Everyone, and I mean everyone, makes mistakes in the beginning. As you write more you'll learn what works and what doesn't. Reading lots of other hubs helps, especially in your same topic area.

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      Mary Kelly Godley 

      6 years ago from Ireland

      Ahhh yes...I underlined in error but I will go in and underline now.My mistake first entry so am still trying to learn as I go along, thanks for comment too.

    • nochance profile image


      6 years ago from Minnesota

      Interesting hub. I have a ton of friends with Asperpers.

      On another note. Your hub is very difficult to read because everything is underlined. By underlining everything you emphasize nothing.


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