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Preparing Our Children for the Death of Our Dog: Saying Goodbye to Sam

Updated on September 17, 2013
Dogs are not our whole lives but they make our lives whole - Roger Caras
Dogs are not our whole lives but they make our lives whole - Roger Caras | Source

The Death of a Beloved Pet is Never Easy

We have an amazing dog. All dog owners say that, but in our case I know it’s true. Sadly he is going to die soon. He has way outlived his life expectancy and is in a lot of pain, it is his time to go. Our children are heartbroken by the impending death of our dig. Sam is more then a pet to them, he is a companion, a playmate and a beloved member of our family. We acknowledge that preparing for the death of a pet is not easy, but it is a valuable life lesson that can be dealt with in a loving way. So instead of shielding our children from the pain and sadness that they will experience from the death of our dog we are choosing to be upfront about it.

So now, as we prepare for the death of our dog, our sweet Sam, Here are some of the steps we are taking to prepare our girls for his passing.

Talk About the Death of Your Dog

Rather than pretend it’s not happening we’ve decided to be open about the ticking clock that hangs around Sam’s neck. At twelve he has far outlived the normal life span for a dog his size and we know we are talking months not years left with him. The impending death of our dog is not a secret. Talking about his impending death allows us to address any questions or feelings the girls might have and encourages them to savor their remaining time with him. So when we brush him we talk about how we won't get to do this much longer. And when we go for a slow wander we talk about how this may be one of our last times to do this with him. And when my children see Sam struggle up the stairs with his arthritic hips we give him an extra nudge and explain that he is nearing the end of a long and happy life. We talk about how sad we will be when he’s gone and then we give him an extra snuggle and maybe a treat or two. Seeing Sam at the end of his life and preparing for the death of our dog helps our children understand the seasons of life.

Read Books About Pet Loss

There is a book for everything, even the death of a pet. (Seriously, you name the difficult or uncomfortable situation and I am willing to bet you can track down a book to help you explain it to your child.) In the case of the death of a family pet there are a number of great titles out there. My favorite is “I’ll Always Love You,” by Hans Wilhelm. It is a simple,beautiful story about a boy and his dog who spend their life together until one day the dog doesn't wake up. The pictures are lovely and make it so that even the very young get the gist of what is going on. Another great book is "When a Pet Dies," by Fred Rogers. Yup, that's right the Fred Rogers of "Mr. Roger's Neighborhood." It is especially good for the very young and helps them understand the grieving process in language that they can understand.

Watch Movies That Deal With the Death of a Beloved Pet

Obviously I adore dogs, so the book and movie “Marley and Me,” rated pretty high on my list, despite the inevitable conclusion. Our girls are between the ages of nine and twelve and are moving beyond the fairytale stage so this movie seemed like a really good fit to explain the death of our dog. Despite the fact that it reduced some of us to a bucket of tears, it helped all of us prepare for how we might feel when Sam dies.

Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakended - Anatole France
Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakended - Anatole France | Source

Have a Family Portrait Done with Your Dog

Although he’s a little plumper and greyer around the muzzle, Sam is still our handsome boy and we wanted to have something that our girls can look at as a reminder of what an integral part of our family he was. So we are having a family portrait done, nothing fancy or costly, just a friend with a camera and all of us.

“D” Day

We are choosing a humane end for our beloved dog. When we see that his bad days out number his good that will be the end. In some ways it seems cruel to be planning the death of our dog, but it would be far more cruel to let him suffer. Our children understand that now and we are letting our daughters decide whether they feel they need to be with Sam at the very end. It will be hard. I am crying right now as I type this, but I want my children to choose how and when they say goodbye. The death of a loved one is an unavoidable experience in life, allowing my children to fully understand and express their sadness over their dogs death will prepare them future losses and let them move on.

A dog is the only thing on the earth that loves you more that you love yourself - Josh Billings
A dog is the only thing on the earth that loves you more that you love yourself - Josh Billings | Source

Hold a Memorial Service for Your Dog

Closure is important…even for a dog and especially for children. So we will put on our Sunday best and gather up those who knew and loved our Sam. We will stand around holding hands sharing stories about the dog that made our house a home and made us all feel so loved. We will celebrate his life and we will cry because he will be missed.

I know Sam’s goodbye is not far away, but I am comforted by thinking of the happy life he has lead with us and knowing that my children have been prepared for his passing in the best way possible.

I'll Always Love You


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      Catherine Taylor 

      6 years ago from Canada

      AliciaC, thank you so much for your kind words of support. Sam is still with us and we are celebrating each day we have with him. I am sorry for your loss. Dogs give us so much and ask for so little in return.

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      Linda Crampton 

      6 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I am so sorry for what you and your family are going through, Thundermama. I had to read this hub when I saw that it was about Sam, because that was the name of my last dog. His life was ended at twelve by lymphoma. I had to make the very, very difficult decision to say goodbye to him. Sam was a golden retriever and a special boy in my life. I hope that your Sam stays happy for as long as possible. I will be thinking about him.

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      Catherine Taylor 

      6 years ago from Canada

      Thanks so much for the lovely feedback. I know our Sam can feel the good mojo.

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      6 years ago from Bowling Green Ohio

      Beautifully done. I have been down this road, 3 times in 18 months but all pets were teenagers so it was time but stil difficult. My heart goes out to you and your family. Now I'll read about your booby wars hub and dry these tears!

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      Bill De Giulio 

      6 years ago from Massachusetts

      As the owners of a 10 year old ShihTzu we have thought about this subject often. You made me cry. Our pets become such an integral part of our lives that we do lose a member of our family when it is their time. Thanks for a great Hub.


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