Coping With Anger
Everyone experiences stressful situations from time to time. How we cope with demanding circumstances can often affect our emotional and physical well-being. If anger is your most common response to stress, chances are you may be looking for alternative ways to react.
While a certain amount of anger can be beneficial - anger can motivate us to make necessary changes in our lives - constant feelings and displays of anger can have negative consequences on relationships, and on our mental and physical health. Actions and words spoken in anger can be damaging to our personal and professional relationships.
What can we do if we find ourselves reacting in anger more often than we’d like? As an alternative to often-costly therapy, there are several things we can do to free ourselves from anger.
Meditation or Yoga
Meditation and yoga can be calming to the mind, body and soul. Consider enrolling in a course or buying an instructional CD. Laughter Yoga is particularly helpful. Local YMCA centers often offer yoga and meditation classes, making it affordable for almost anyone. Many students go on to become certified instructors, so the added benefit of finding a full or part-time career is possible.
Keep a Journal
Documenting anger outbursts can be helpful for tracking your anger triggers. If you see a pattern developing, you'll have a deeper knowledge of your individual anger-producers. This can be of enormous help in redirecting, if not avoiding altogether, these scenarios.
Take a Class
Conflict resolution and anger management training can be beneficial in helping to control anger. Classes are often available at local adult education centers and community colleges. Some are also available online. If you find yourself going through a particularly trying period in your life, conflict resolution training can be enormously beneficial.
Counting to Ten
We often think of this technique only when dealing with children, but the truth is that it can give you enough time to pause and reconsider a situation more rationally. Sometimes this is all you need to step back and allow yourself some time to cool down.
Go for a Walk
Just like counting to ten, going for a walk allows you a chance to clear your head and remove yourself from a volatile situation. Fresh air and a bit of sunshine are known mood enhancers. The sun helps us release endorphins (those happy hormones), increases circulation, and lowers cholesterol and blood pressure.
Read a Self-Help Book
There are many books on the market that teach anger management techniques. However, anger management requires the user to refer consistently to a list of techniques on a regular basis. My personal favorite is Transcending Anger, by Charles Dittell. This book teaches readers how to rid themselves of anger and its destructive effects effectively and finally. At the time of this writing, Charles Dittell is hosting a signed Transcending Anger book giveaway.
Constant feelings of anger can result in damaged personal and professional relationships, physical and emotional ailments - such as stomach ulcers, chronic headaches and depression- and even job loss. With some consistent management and coping skills, most people can live happier, healthier lives, free of destructive anger.