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How to Tell if Your Man is Depressed

Updated on December 30, 2010

How to Tell if Your Man is Depressed

Depression is very serious. Like any serious medical condition, depression needs to be treated. If left untreated, depression can lead to suicide. Although depression affects both sexes, men are less likely to talk about their depression and to seek help. Men are also four times more likely to commit suicide than women so it is important to know the warning signs and triggers of depression so you can help your loved one seek help.

Cycle of Depression

Cycle of Depression
Cycle of Depression

Men Commit Suicide Four Times More Often Than Women!

Depressed men tend to hide their feelings of sadness. They rarely complain of feeling hopeless and depressed. If depression is not caught and treated it can have lethal consequences. Men commit suicide four times more often than women.

Danger Signs of Suicide:

1. Talking about suicide, or killing oneself, even in a joking manner

2. Talk about hopelessness, helplessness, or worthlessness

3. Preoccupation with death

4. Sudden shift in mood, happier, calmer

5. Loss of interest in things one cares about

6. Visiting or calling people one cares about

7. Making arrangements; setting one's affairs in order

8. Giving things away

12 Depression Triggers

1. Interpersonal friction

2. Feeling overwhelmed or having too much to do

3. Being judged or criticized

4. Ending a relationship/divorce

5. Physical illness

6. A death of a family member or close friend

7. A painful mental, or emotional event

8. Constant physical, mental, or emotional pain that goes on for a length of time.

9. A disease or illness that will not get better.

10. Major Financial setback.

11. Substance abuse.

12. Lack of exercise/weight gain.

Signs That Your Man May Be Depressed

Look for signs of withdrawal and isolation from other people. Depressed men tend to spend more time alone, watching TV, playing computer games, and pursuing solitary activities.

Look for signs of increased drinking and/or mood altering medications. Depressed men tend to drink alcohol more to help alleviate emotional pain.

Look for signs of disturbed sleeping patterns. Is he waking up at all hours of the night and having trouble getting back to sleep?

Look for signs of irritability and bad temper. Depressed men typically don't express their feelings. This leaves them feeling irritable and short-tempered.

Look for signs of him having difficulty making decisions.

Look for signs in a change of eating habits. Do you notice a significant weight loss or weight gain? Depressed men tent to exercise less too, which can lead to weigh gain.

Look for signs in a change of sexual behavior. Is he losing interest in sex or becoming more sexually aggressive? Look for signs of an affair.

Look for signs of addiction and sudden interests in things like gambling.

If you are convinced that your man is depressed, ask him to seek help. Depression can be helped with medications, psychotherapy, and a exercise and nutritional diet plan.

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The Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for Depression: A Step-by-step Program (Workbook)

In the 1950s, Albert Ellis pioneered a form of psychotherapy that combined ways of detecting and changing irrational thoughts with techniques for replacing negative behaviors with positive ones. This type of cognitive behavioral therapy, called rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT) by Ellis, proved especially effective at relieving problems like anger, anxiety, and depression. In this book author William Knaus, a close associate of Ellis, develops the best REBT techniques into a powerful and comprehensive self-help workbook for the treatment of depression.

Following in New Harbinger's tradition, this workbook is written in an easy-to-use, step-by-step format. It offers you powerful strategies for overcoming depression in simple, direct language, amply illustrated with stories and reinforced by techniques you can practice right away. Along with other New Harbinger titles like The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook and The Anger Control Workbook, this major CBT/REBT workbook for depression is destined to become a trusted resource for people with depression, recommended by therapists and sought out by people like you who are inspired to change their own lives for the better.

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      7 years ago

      Excellent lens - my girlfriend was really worried about me when I was suffering badly last year. This was really hard on me as well as my girlfriend but we got through it. Thanks for sharing your experience.

    • choosehappy profile image


      8 years ago from US

      Lots of experience with this situation with some of my male relatives. Difficult. *Blessed by a Squid angel*

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      8 years ago

      Hello, TeeZazzle.Thank you so much for featuring my card "A brighter day is coming. Just have faith." I truly appreciate it!Keep up the good work with your lense. Best of luck!


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