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Depression, Banbury & Bicester

Updated on January 23, 2015

Therapy for Depression in Banbury

We have been providing therapy in the community for depression for many years here at The Paloma Centre situated between Banbury and Bicester. A paper comparing depression between the genders can be found on our website. Extracts from that paper on depression on men and depression in women and the differences are reproduced below.Our aim has always been to help clients find their own way of living their life with depression in a more complete, satisfying and resourceful manner through the use of a variety of life enhancing and personal performance improving therapies.

The Paloma Centre is a personal growth and therapy centre which provides an holistic approach to emotional healing and personal development, CBT which is part of our srvices is also effective with depressive states and is much in demand. Keeping abreast of developments in therapy we offer a range of Meridian Energy Therapies which deal very effectively with the negative emotions surrounding Depression. Further training has been undertaken in a more recent development in the treatment of depression and that is in the field of Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy which is an interesting blend of Eastern meditative practises and Western Cognitive Therapy techniques.Want to know more? Why not visit our website at or call David on 01295 812138.

Don't put up with depression, you don't have to, call us now and let's start working on making you feel better. Extracts from a paper written on Depression by David are shown below; the full paper is available as a PDF download from our website.

Why Depression isn't just a "woman's problem".

The reality behind the statistics on Depression.

"Depression" is a much misunderstood condition and one which in modern times has become devalued through the common application of this term to a wide range of conditions, not all of which are true depressive states. It has become almost a medical fashion-label to be attached to a wide variety of conditions which has consequently led those people with genuine depressive states to be misunderstood and devalued. Additionally, Depression is often seen as a "female" condition and made the butt of jokes about PMT for example which, again, tend to devalue the real impact that a genuine depressive state has on the sufferers - male and female.

Depression is common to all genders; it is thought that about 15 percent of all people in the UK will have a significant occurrence of a depressive state at some point in their lives and it is considered to be the fourth most common cause of disability worldwide. The number of people with depression is hard to estimate for many reasons e.g. because many do not seek help or are not formally diagnosed.

Some perspective at this point may be useful. Many, if not most of the 4,000 suicides committed each year in England are linked, directly or indirectly, to depression. On average, 15% of people with recurrent depression (repeated attacks) have an increased risk of suicide. Depression can appear at any age and occurs in every "Western" country. There is some debate about whether it is common in or to every culture across the world, although it now seems likely that depression is a universal human condition.

In reality, depression affects both sexes, disrupting relationships and interfering with work and daily activities. The symptoms of depression are similar for both men and women, but they tend to be expressed differently. The most common symptoms of depression include low self-esteem, suicidal thoughts, loss of interest in usually pleasurable activities, fatigue, changes in appetite, sleep disturbances, apathy and sexual problems, including reduced sex drive.

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Good Reading on Depression

Male Orientated Depression

There are several reasons why the symptoms of depression in men are not commonly recognized:

Men tend to deny having problems because they are supposed to "be strong."

Western culture suggests that expressing emotion is largely a feminine trait. As a result, men who are depressed are more likely to talk about the physical symptoms of their depression, such as feeling tired, rather than those related to emotions.

Depression can affect sexual desire and performance. Men often are unwilling to admit to problems with their sexuality mistakenly feeling that the problems are related to their manhood, when in fact they are caused by a medical problem such as depression.

The observable symptoms of male depression are not as well understood as those in women. Men are less likely to show "typical" signs of depression, such as crying, sadness, loss of interest in previously enjoyable activities, or verbally expressing thoughts of suicide. Instead, men are more likely to keep their feelings hidden, but may become more irritable and aggressive.

For these reasons, many men, as well as doctors and other healthcare professionals, fail to recognize the problem as depression. Some mental healthcare professionals suggest that if the symptoms of depression were expanded to include anger, blame, violence and abuse of alcohol, more men might be diagnosed with depression and treated more appropriately.

Depression in men can have devastating consequences. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report that men in the U.S. are about four times more likely than women to commit suicide. An amazing 75-80% of all people who commit suicide in the U.S. are men. Though more women attempt suicide, more men are successful at actually ending their lives. This may be due to the fact that men tend to use more lethal methods of committing suicide, for example using a gun rather than taking an overdose.

Depression in men can often be traced to cultural expectations. Western male stereotypes still demand that men are supposed to be successful, that they should restrain their emotions and that they must remain in control. These cultural expectations can mask some of the true symptoms of depression, forcing men to express aggression and anger instead and thereby be referred for "anger management" or Counselling rather than treated for the underlying depression.

In addition, men generally seem to have greater difficulty in dealing with the "stigma" of depression. They tend to deal with their symptoms with a macho attitude or by drinking alcohol. This attitude still pervades society generally but particularly within many male dominated institutions, such as the military and athletics, where men are taught that "toughness" means putting up with physical pain and admitting to emotional distress is taboo.

Rather than seek help, which means admitting to what they perceive as a (female) weakness, men are more likely to deal with their depression by drinking heavily or committing suicide thereby totally avoiding possible reportage.

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Female Orientated Depression

Female Specific Depression

In addition to the general experience of depression and the difference in the ways that male oriented depression is reported there are significant areas that are unique to women. Rates of depression appear to be similar in girls and boys before adolescence. However, with the onset of puberty, a female's risk of developing depression increases dramatically, to twice that of males. It is believed that women may be more prone to depression because of changes in hormone levels that occur throughout a woman's life such as during puberty, pregnancy and menopause, as well as after giving birth, having a hysterectomy, or experiencing a miscarriage. In addition, the hormone fluctuations that occur with each month's menstrual cycle increase the risk for premenstrual syndrome, or PMS. In addition, for women trying to balance a home, a family and a career, unique stresses are experienced that may lead on to wider health and social problems.

As would be expected, there are also various aspects of everyday life that have been identified as tending to increase the likelihood of depression in women occurring and some of these are:

Loss of a parent before age 10

Physical or sexual abuse as a child.

History of mood disorders in early reproductive years.

Family history of mood disorders.

Use of certain oral contraceptives.

Use of certain infertility treatments.

Ongoing psychological and social stress (e.g., loss of job, relationship stress, separation or divorce).

Loss of social support system or the threat of such a loss

Up to 75% of menstruating women experience premenstrual syndrome (PMS), a disorder characterized by emotional and physical symptoms that fluctuate in intensity from one menstrual cycle to the next. Women in their 20's or 30's are those most affected.About 3-5% of menstruating women experience premenstrual dysphoric disorder, or PMDD, a severe form of PMS, marked by highly emotional and physical symptoms that usually become more severe 7 to 10 days before the onset of menstruation. It is now recognised and accepted that these fluctuations in hormone levels are important causes of discomfort and behavioural change in women.

While the precise link between PMS, PMDD and depression is still unknown, chemical changes in the brain and fluctuating hormone levels are both thought to be contributing factors.

Of course, the most obvious "unique" experience for women is that of childbirth and, not unnaturally, this brings with it a whole range of complex emotional issues to deal with, particularly for the first birth experience, which if not recognised and dealt with can give rise to depressive states.

In one way, pregnancy is often viewed as a period of well-being that protects women against depressive or emotional disorders given the level of care and attention given to her at this time. But depression appears to occur almost as commonly in pregnant women as it does in those who are not pregnant.

The factors which appear to increase the risk of depression during pregnancy are:

Having a history of depression or PMDD.

Age at time of pregnancy, the younger the woman, the higher the risk.

Living alone.

Having limited social support from family and friends.

Marital conflict.

Uncertainty about the pregnancy.

The stresses of pregnancy can cause depression or a recurrence or worsening of depression symptoms and depression during pregnancy can increase the risk for having depression after delivery (post natal depression, see below). The potential impact of depression on a pregnancy is particularly important as it can interfere with a woman's ability to care for herself during pregnancy. She may be less able to follow medical recommendations, and sleep and eat properly. Depression can also cause a woman to use substances such as tobacco, alcohol, and/or illegal drugs, which could harm the baby and the depressive state may make bonding with the baby difficult.

Having a baby is a life-changing experience. Pregnancy and the first year after the birth are periods that many parents find quite stressful. The birth of a baby is an emotional experience and, for many new mothers, feeling tearful and depressed is also common. However, sometimes longer periods of depression, known as post-natal depression (PND), can occur during the first few weeks and months of the baby's life.

PND can have a variety of physical and emotional symptoms, and many mothers are unaware that they have the condition. It is therefore important for partners, family, friends and healthcare professionals to recognise the signs of PND as early as possible so that the appropriate treatment can be given. Following childbirth, there are three generally recognised forms of this type of depression:

So called 'Baby blues' is a common type of depression, and it is the least severe. It does not usually last very long, starting from around the third day after birth and lasting until around the tenth day. During this time, the mother may feel tearful and irritable, but no longer-term affect occurs.

Postnatal depression affects about I in 10 mothers in the UK, and usually develops in the first 4-6 weeks after childbirth. However, in some cases it may take several months to develop. The mother may feel depressed for most of the time, and the feelings remain for an extensive period of time, months.

Postnatal psychosis is a rare, but severe, form of depression. It develops in about I in 1,000 mothers. Symptoms can include irrational behaviour, confusion, and suicidal thoughts. Women with postnatal psychosis often need specialist psychiatric treatment.

Although postnatal depression is more common in women, men can be affected too. As the birth of a new baby can be a stressful time for both parents, some fathers feel unable to cope, or feel that they are not giving their partner all the support she needs. They can also find it upsetting if the new baby is getting all of their partner's attention, giving rise to resentment, feelings of loss and depression. PND can put a strain on a relationship. This can cause the break up of some relationships, which is why it is important to recognise the symptoms of PND at an stage early and take steps to get treatment for either or both partners.

Further types of depression that are unique to women are perimenopausal and menopausal depression. The perimenopause is the stage of a woman's reproductive life that begins 8 to 10 years before menopause itself. During this time the ovaries gradually begin to produce less oestrogen. Perimenopause lasts up until menopause, the point when the ovaries stop releasing eggs. In the last one to two years of perimenopause, the decrease in oestrogen accelerates. At this stage, many women experience menopausal symptoms.

The menopause is period of time when a woman stops having her monthly period and experiences symptoms related to the lack of oestrogen production. By definition, a woman is in menopause after her periods have stopped for one year. It is a normal part of ageing and marks the end of a woman's reproductive years. Menopause typically occurs in a woman's late 40's to early 50's. However, women who have their ovaries surgically removed undergo a similar condition known as "sudden" menopause.

The drop in oestrogen levels during perimenopause and menopause triggers physical, as well as emotional changes -- such as depression or anxiety and changes in memory. Like any other point in a woman's life, there is a relationship between hormone levels and physical and emotional symptoms. Some physical changes include irregular or missed periods, heavier or lighter periods, and hot flushes.

All of these "unique to women" conditions have a significant effect on reported cases of depression, the more possible causes the greater likelihood of reportage.

An additional depressive state that is biased towards women but for less well known reasons is Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). SAD is a type of depression or mood disorder with a seasonal pattern. The most common form of SAD is also called winter depression or winter blues, because symptoms are worst in the winter months. They tend to start from around September, are worse when the days are shortest (in December, January and February) and improve in the spring. There is also a summer version of seasonal affective disorder, but this is far less common and has different symptoms.

Around I in 50 people in the UK have SAD. It is more common in women than in men and most commonly starts between the ages of 18 and 40. Up to I in 8 people in the UK experience milder symptoms of winter 'blues' (sub-syndromal SAD). Studies around the world have shown that SAD becomes more common the further you are away from the equator.

An explanation emerges

Some of the other ways in which depression may be experienced differently by men and women are:

Depression in women may occur earlier, last longer, be more likely to recur, be more likely to be associated with stressful life events, and be more sensitive to seasonal changes.

Women are more likely to experience guilty feelings and attempt suicide, although they are successful less often than men.

Depression in women is more likely to be associated with anxiety disorders, especially panic and phobic symptoms, and eating disorders.

Depressed women are less likely to abuse alcohol and other drugs.

From this it can be seen that men may be experiencing or dealing with depression differently or, because of social stereotyping, be reported and/or diagnosed differently thereby significantly altering the statistics.

It is interesting to compare the male attitude, and resultant lower reportage, with a survey of female attitudes towards depression conducted by Mental Health America on public attitudes and beliefs about clinical depression:

More than one-half of women believe it is "normal" for a woman to be depressed during menopause and that treatment is not necessary.

Approximately 10%- 15% of all new mothers get post natal depression which most frequently occurs within the first year after the birth of a child

More than one-half of women believe depression is a "normal part of ageing."

More than one-half believe it is normal for a mother to feel depressed for at least two weeks after giving birth.

More than one-half of women cited denial as a barrier to treatment while 41 % of women surveyed cited embarrassment or shame as barriers to treatment.

In general, over one-half of the women said they think they "know" more about depression than men do.

From this it will be seen that the more "open" attitude towards recognising, accepting and dealing with depression among the female population will influence the statistical reporting of the complaint.

All of these various types of depression need careful attention and here at The Paloma Centre we create individual treatment programmes specific to the individual. These may use various aspects of psychotherapy, CBT for example, supported by hypnosis and meridian energy therapies along with Counselling and Life Coaching where appropriate.

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      goo2eyes lm 5 years ago

      winter add to depression. one should go to warm countries during winter just like the canadian geese.

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      sousababy 6 years ago

      Came back to google +1 this gem.

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      sousababy 6 years ago

      I so agree with you Dr. Dove that men feel the need to be brave and tough it out - societal pressure and all. Losing a job for a man is more damaging too, since he may have been raised that men are the breadwinners. Sadly, men take their own lives far more often than women, if left untreated. And so, we need to dispel the myth that only women get depressed or that it is a sign of weakness in a man. Thank you for such a comprehensive overview. I feel, especially for men, that therapy does wonders (men sometimes bottle things up, again societal stereotypes). It is a sign of courage to seek help, not anything to be ashamed of (whether male or female).

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Depression seems to touch everyone's life. I like how you differentiate between male and female depression here, it makes sense. Thank you for being a help to many....

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      DeanTurner 6 years ago

      very interesting, thank you

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      lisasboutique 8 years ago

      i had post natal depression with my second baby and it hit me like a out of control train so it is good to see other information out there about depression. Thank you for your lens, I wrote a lens about my experience with post natal depression so other mothers out there will know that they are not alone. 5 Stars for your lens.

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      Depression is a common psychiatric disorder in the modern world and a growing cause of concern for health agencies. You can be used to assess the presence and severity of mild degrees of mood disorder. Take the test here : Depression Rating Scale.