Small Steps Equal Big Results
Anxiety is a scary thing. While everyone experiences some level of stress, there are many individuals that experience a much higher amount. Unfortunately, while the sufferer knows that the way they feel can be a very difficult thing to deal with, others do not always empathize.
Anxiety is a very real feeling. While many fears are irrational, they arise for very sensible reasons. Having anxiety does not make a person weak or pathetic, but rather simply means that the individual must work even harder to overcome any fears and/or insecurities that he or she may have.
What many who do not suffer with anxiety don’t understand is that while something may not cause them fear, it does not mean it does not cause someone else a great deal of worry. Additionally, while some people can encounter a stressful situation and simply shrug it off, others simply feel as if they cannot get through the moment in which fear takes over. Anxiety can seem paralyzing, but this does not mean there is no way to get through it.
For years, I have struggled with anxiety. I have gone to several psychologists and am happy to say that I have finally found one that I feel truly comfortable with. Having a good support system is essential to managing ones’ anxiety. Though there may be many people that are not sympathetic to the fears of others, there are those who we can trust to be by our sides. Do not be afraid to seek help from family, friends, and a therapist that you trust.
Asking for help and knowing that there are others with similar issues is important. However, it is even more important to learn to have trust in yourself and know that you can depend on your own strength to overcome your fears. So, how do you do that? You practice.
Now the first thing you might be thinking is, “How do I practice facing my fears if I’m so terrified that even thinking about them makes me feel out of control?” I too have asked myself this question and the answer is simple. Instead of just leaping into your biggest fears, you take small steps that you feel comfortable with. By taking small steps that are manageable but helpful, you teach yourself that you can face your fears and not allow them to take over.
Let us say that you are afraid of speaking in public. To begin to overcome your fear, you can begin by speaking to someone you know and increasing the amount of people you speak to or present to. By starting out with people you feel comfortable around, you can see in what areas you are good at public speaking and what areas you may need to work on. Family and friends may be kinder when expressing their thoughts than strangers and you can learn from them where you need to improve. Once you are better speaking in front of those you know, you can begin speaking to small groups of those you do not know. Perhaps you can also add in the mixture of strangers a few people that you are familiar with to help you feel more confident. Over time, you will come to see that you can speak in public successfully no matter who is in the audience.
Stating what to do may be simple, but following through isn’t always as easy. A person can’t just practice once and then stop, it must be done constantly. By practicing, you are exercising the mind and strengthening it as well.
So remember, no one has to go through their anxiety alone. Also, remember that there is hope and that as long as you continue to try to get better, you will succeed at conquering your fears! Don’t lose faith and you will learn just how much you can accomplish!
Have you tried practicing facing your fears in small steps? What were the results?
Tips on Managing Anxiety
Remind yourself of times when you were successful.
Practice walking around your house or outside.
Each day, practice facing your fears in small steps.
Remind yourself that you are strong..
Walk up stairs.
If needed, ask someone you trust to help you practice.
Recall that physical symptoms of stress are most likely due to your mind playing games.
Do other simple exercises to build self-confidence
Make a list of goals and follow through.
Things to Remember...
1.) Anxiety is sometimes very difficult to get through but it is possible to overcome and manage.
2.) If you want to succeed in overcoming your fears, giving up is not an option.
3.) Sadly, not everyone will understand the depth of your fears. However, there are people that care and that you can trust. You still must be careful in choosing who you look to for support.
4.) There is absolutely nothing wrong with going to a therapist or even a psychiatrist. Just be sure that you feel safe with them.
5.) Practice, exercise, and positive thinking are all essential in getting through anxiety. Don't shut out those who you can trust who want to help.