ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Failed Dreams And Rude Awakenings

Updated on March 21, 2011

Behind The Dragon Is A Failed Dream

Wherever and whenever there is something in your life that has dragged on for too long you can be rest assured that behind the drag on is a dream, a failed dream. When you cannot produce a change to a particular situation or find a solution to a certain problem and life you feel powerless or despondent or even worse, depressed you have come across an area of your life where a dream or a goal has failed and failed miserably. Your failed goal or dream is counter to what you really, really want to be, do and have and you are left sitting in a tremendous loss.

Failed Dreams Are Always Followed By Rude Awakenings

The only way out of your dilemma is to find that dream or goal that was prevented from arriving.  This ought to be a simple thing but it is not.  The reason it is no easy undertaking is that when you have a failed dream or goal you will have made a decision about yourself and that decision will prevent you from examining the area.  The loss of a dream or goal is no trivial thing.  Rather, your dreams and aspirations are of extreme value and importance to you. 

The key then is to identify the decision you made that is in all likelihood now firmly ensconced in your sub-conscious operating in your life below your conscious awareness.  It impinges on and influences you, your moods, your actions, your behaviors and your ability to be what you want to be, do what you want to do and have what you want to have. 

When you lose your dream, your goal in life you lose your vision.  Very often, too often the solution to that problem is to grab on like a limpet to the first vision that seems remotely plausible.  However, it is somebody else’s dream or goal, not your own.  You have then lost control of you and your life and are now under the control of others, parents, teachers, peers, politicians, and the like.  It is a relatively simple thing to control people, just quash their dreams or sabotage their goals. 

What I and others that I work with do is to facilitate your finding the decision you made about yourself when your dream or goal failed.  We then work with you to re-establish your dream, your goal which puts you back at cause and in control of Your Own Universe – YOU.

To give you an example of how this works I will share my story with you.  Love, Forgiveness and Responsibility definitely come into play here and having those three abilities restored allowed me to get to the source of my dream.  This turned out, wonder of wonders to be me – I was the Source of My Dream.  The decision I had made was that “I can never have what I want.”  Never being a long time, I was definitely hooped until, with assistance, I identified the decision that I had made.

This decision played in the background of my life much to my detriment.  While I could readily help others to achieve their dreams and goals I was often left feeling bitter and resentful as they left me in the dust as they went on to bigger and better things in life.  But, with “I can never have what I want” droning in the background it is little wonder.

The dream I grabbed onto, I was not the source of, in my universe, Walt Disney was the source of my dream.  Happily ever after they walk off into the sunset hand in hand, end of story.  My pursuit of that dream did not include the children of which Disney made no mention.  The movie stops before the glassy eyed pair ‘go forth and multiply’.  Even if the movie had continued to that point I now know with a great deal of certainty that no woman ever gave her partner that come hither look and whispered in his ear, “I want to have your teenager”.  There is no mention of a 9 to 5 job, a mortgage, taxes, car repairs and the like.   

I cannot lay all of it and the feet of Mr. Disney, there was also Dick and Jane...I was just learning to read for heaven's sake....See Dick run. See Jane run.  See Dick and Jane run.  See Spot jump.  How freaking innocent is that?  See mother, see father.  Ooohhh and dimpled little baby Sally.  The rub is that in my learning to read....which I really, really wanted to do, I unknowingly and without inspection adopted this make believe "family" as the model for how life was SUPPOSED TO WORK.  And, then I set about fighting and punching and kneading and kneedling my "reality" into the Dick and Jane box.  I even worked tirelessly on my parent's for years to get my own version of "Spot".  And P I double SS ed I was, though under the surface, cause in the Dick and Jane world nobody got P I double SS ed, that I got a set of parents who obviously did not know how they were supposed to behave. 

My mum has always maintained that things went along in our family quite nicely up until we went to school.  I know from having my own children that they adopted things the "teacher said" and I was relegated to the back seat in the knowledge someone who "just doesn't know" and school became a surrogate parent with teachers who knew everything.  This was very frustrating at times.  My youngest came home from school one day in grade two and announced that her brain made her do everything.  When I tried to point out to her in simplistic terms that her brain responds to her, I got back, "Nope mummy, you're wrong.  Mrs. Woo says.............................."  Aaaarrgghh!  Mayhap it was Karma? 

"The World is divided into armed camps ready

to commit genocide just because we can't agree

on whose fairy tales to believe."

-Ed Krebs, photographer (b. 1951)

The bottom line here is that I became acutely aware of when I am the Source and when I am not the Source and am instead, just running a program.  I do remember that as a child, I did try to convince others that we were just dreaming and that when we were awake we were actually asleep and that when we were asleep we were actually awake.  That got me nowhere fast......I could hear the thoughts of others loud and clear.  Things like "note to self, don't play with the weird kid." 

Well, I am getting a great deal more articulate and I am absolutely dedicated to the art of being present and having the skill to move up and down the mood scale at's music.  The dream that was restored to me was one I had as a child.  The vision that went with the dream was my leading hoards of people out of a dark, forested and narrow valley into a fresh, open, flowered, sundrenched meadow.  In my dream I rode a beautiful horse, sometimes I was a lone rider and other times there were others who rode with me but there were always hoards of "people" following out of the darkness.  It was my dream and in it I was not a child.  Snow White, Cinderella, Dick, Jane, Baby Sally, Spot and their fictitious Mother and Father were not in that dream.

In an optimum paradigm the outcome matches the vision and it is extremely difficult, if not impossible to get an outcome to match a vision when it is not your vision. It took some work for me to forgive myself and others and to take responsibility for mistaking a yellow road for a golden one.  My dream, my big fat worthwhile dream is to be an inspiration.  That is what I want to be, it is what I want to do and it is what I want to have.  In order for me to make my dream come true I must be an inspiration, I must expand my reach and communicate effectively with others (do) and from those others I in turn, receive (have) inspiration. 


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • raisingme profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia

      Thank You for taking the time to read and comment

    • Emanate Presence profile image

      Gary R. Smith 

      5 years ago from the Head to the Heart

      Marvelous insights! And a friendly read.... Thanks.

    • raisingme profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia

      That makes two of us Nellieanna - I was pleasantly surprised when I heard it. A dear friend posted it to facebook just as I was writing this hub - had to share it! Thank you for the visit.

    • Nellieanna profile image

      Nellieanna Hay 

      8 years ago from TEXAS

      I didn't realize how akin I am with Will Smith! :-)

    • raisingme profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia

      Hugs across the ocean!

    • Nell Rose profile image

      Nell Rose 

      8 years ago from England

      Hi, thank you so much for your kind words, I think the only thing I ever really wanted to do really was write! so there it is probably! you know me better than i know myself! lol

    • raisingme profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia

      Any sentence beginning with I am is a very powerful one. 'Tis not your brain what trips you up sweet Nell. Your big dream will not be a physical thing, it is a spiritual thing and if, for instance, your spiritual dream was to uplift yourself and others then from my perspective you have and are doing that through your delightful hubs. Nothing Oh Hum or Ho Hum about your writing, nothing at all!

    • Nell Rose profile image

      Nell Rose 

      8 years ago from England

      Hi, I am useless! there I said it. I have always had all these ideas floating around my head, and one day I want this, the next, that. I think I do want unobtainable things, the trouble with me is that if I want to do something or become something, I always blame it on someone else, for example, I want to travel, but I have no one to travel with, and I don't want to go on my own. so i don't go. I want to learn to drive, believe it or not I never got around to it, oh I have had lessons but I always gave up. Why? I have no idea! and i always say, oh I will do it tomorrow! yeah right, go on then! ha. So you are of course totally right, but my brain is deliberately trying to trip me up at every turn. Oh Hum! lol cheers nell

    • raisingme profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia

      Yes to all of the above. And comment about Snow White made me laugh out loud. I am so blessed that you are following me - delighted in fact.

    • Merlin Fraser profile image

      Merlin Fraser 

      8 years ago from Cotswold Hills

      Wise council as always although isn't it a pity how we have to live a long life to gain so much experience that is already known.

      How infuriating it must be to parents when their offspring start spouting the philosophy according to Miss Woo.... or even worse go around the house switching things off to save the Planet ‘cos Miss. Woo says.....

      We all have dreams, I think I may have been in love with Snow White, however in hindsight what state she would have been in after living in the woods with seven deformed men is anybody’s guess.

      I suppose the greatest lesson we can try and teach the younger generations is that it is natural to dream and to set your sights high but life is not like the TV or the movies, the good guys don’t always win and life’s script doesn’t always give you what you want and above all life does go on the other side of that sunset .


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)