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My First Misdiagnosed Miscarriage at 12 Weeks!

Updated on September 11, 2014
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About Me

Hi. My name is Kay. I am probably best known online for my misdiagnosed blighted ovum story. Since I first shared my story online, hundreds more have shared their misdiagnosed stories as well.

My blighted ovum story was not my first misdiagnosed miscarriage. Now, I'd like to share my miscarriage scare during my first pregnancy. Many women bleed during pregnancy and many of them do carry their pregnancies to term. I hope my story helps gives women hope when they believe they may be losing their pregnancies. Not every miscarriage is diagnosed incorrectly but sometimes just holding on to hope can help us get through a very scary time.

I believe every woman deserves to have no doubt before having her pregnancy ended.

I am not a medical professional. The information I share is meant to supplement the information given you by your doctor. If you feel your doctor is not doing enough for you or not willing to listen to your concerns, I strongly encourage you to take what you've learned here and get a second opinion.

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The Calm Before the Storm

as I prepared to enter the second trimester

My first miscarriage scare began almost eleven years ago to the day that I write this.

My week began as any other week...well, any other week in which I had been getting sick all day long. Oh boy, I remember just having such a case of morning sickness. I seemed to be living on saltine crackers, ginger ale and prenatal vitamins.

That week, I had a routine check up. The doctor and nurse assured me morning sickness does not last forever and should be ending within the next few weeks. I heard at my appointment that now that I had reached the twelfth week, there was almost no chance of miscarriage. Congratulations, I was about to enter the second trimester...yay! I remember feeling such relief that not only would my morning sickness soon ebb but I could cross "miscarriage" off my list of concerns. What is it they say about Murphy's Law?

My Miscarriage Scare Begins

there was just so much blood

Later that week, my husband was at work. It was evening. I was resting comfortably on the sofa watching television. Suddenly, and I remember this part clear as day, while watching ice skating, I felt like my bladder gave out and I had wet myself. I got up to use the bathroom mumbling about how everybody forgot to tell me about this part of pregnancy. I also remember thinking it was slightly humorous. As I walked into the bathroom, for some reason I looked behind me and there was a trail of blood. It seemed like there was blood everywhere. I immediately panicked. I sat on the toilet, looked down and saw I was hemorrhaging. Blood was coming out of me like I had never seen before and it was coming out fast.

The next few minutes were a blur. I remember calling my husband and telling him to come right home and that I needed to go to the hospital. Fortunately, he only worked about ten minutes away. I called my mother right after and she was the first one to use the dreaded "M" word. When I told her I was bleeding heavily, she told me I was miscarrying. I think that is when I lost it. I was a wreck. Until that time, I didn't realize that this might be a miscarriage. I just knew my baby was in trouble. I know I tried to clean myself up in the few minutes before my husband arrived home and put on a maxi pad. My husband arrived home and we took off immediately for the emergency room.

Our ER Experience

one of the worst nights of my life

In the five minutes it took to reach the ER, I bled through that maxi pad, my pants and the front seat of the car. I'm sure I looked pretty scary entering that ER but I didn't care. I was just so scared. The nurse very calmly took my blood pressure and asked a number of questions. She talked about miscarriage and what to expect. I remember just wanting her to hurry so the doctor could stop my miscarriage. I also remember just apologizing over and over to my husband. I really was a basket case. I remember lying there waiting for the doctor just wishing I could disappear. I just wanted to go as far away as possible and not deal with this.

Finally the doctor came in. He examined me and told me this was most likely a miscarriage given all the blood but without an ultrasound, he couldn't be sure. Unfortunately, because it was Super Bowl weekend, they didn't have any technicians scheduled until Monday. They also could not hear a heartbeat despite both the nurse and doctor trying. He said my cervix was still closed but that didn't necessarily mean anything. I didn't care. Once he said the cervix was still closed, I suddenly had a little spot of hope and I was clinging to that. I was told to go home and they'd call me for an ultrasound in a couple days if I hadn't miscarried by then.

I remember going home that night with more of a calmness. I accepted that this might well be a miscarriage but I was going to hold on to that little bit of hope until I was told with all certainty I had lost my baby.

Our Ultrasound Later that Weekend

wait, you mean there is still a baby?

On Sunday, we got a call asking us to come back in for an ultrasound. They had found an ultrasound technician who was willing to come in despite the Super Bowl. We rushed right down to the hospital. By that time, my bleeding had slowed to probably what I would consider a light period flow.

Okay, here is where I get emotional. If you've ever been through this, you'll understand...

I was laying on the ultrasound examination table. The ultrasound tech was a very nice lady but she told us at the onset that she was not allowed to show us the screen or tell us anything about the ultrasound. That was hard. I can't tell you how long she used the probe but it seemed to take an eternity. I just kept looking from her to my husband for any sign of anything. It wasn't there. I remember having tears in my eyes and thinking my pregnancy was really over. I actually have tears in my eyes now as I write this because I remember the feeling so well. I think the ultrasound tech noticed my tears because all of a sudden, she very casually turned up the volume on her machine. THERE WAS A HEARTBEAT and the tech had a huge smile on her face. I immediately broke down AGAIN and then she moved the monitor just enough so my husband could see, when I saw the amazement on my husband's face and I knew our baby was fine.

Not the Only Scare During that Pregnancy

never a dull moment

Over the next few weeks, the bleeding slowed to spotting and finally stopped altogether. However a week or so after it stopped, I woke up bleeding heavily again one morning. Again, a trip to the ER and again, we were warned we might be losing our baby. I had a lot more peace this time since I had been through it already. All in all, I ended up bleeding or spotting the entire second trimester.

We found out at 17 weeks, we were having a boy. We also found out our son most likely had Down Syndrome. After everything we had been through, now the doctor and geneticist were asking me if I wanted to have an abortion. I actually felt pressured to have an abortion but once they realized that was not going to happen, the doctor returned to just monitoring me more frequently. By the third trimester, I was being seen twice a week.

My labor was very difficult. I was in labor 24 hours before they finally did an emergency c-section. By that point, my son's heartbeat had dropped to almost nothing and my blood pressure was out of control.

Our son was an NICU baby. He developed an infection, most likely Strep B. However, he was Down Syndrome free.

They did a pathology report on the placenta and found out that my placenta had actually had 'strokes' and was partially dead. The pathology report also stated that the umbilical cord was too long and partially detached. Our son was truly a miracle baby.

He is now sixteen years old. I cannot even imagine another woman going through these scares and, yet, I know they do because I talk to them almost daily. If you are going through a miscarriage scare, please, visit the Misdiagnosed Miscarriage site for support and to talk to other women going through similar scares.

IMPORTANT New Guidelines for Diagnosing a Miscarriage

The UK is the first to acknowledge that misdiagnosed miscarriages are indeed a problem. The Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists has revised its guidelines. If your gestational sac is more than 25mm and/or the CRL is 7mm or more, you should wait a week to verify (if there are no complications). If the measurements are less, you are too early to diagnose. For more information (and something to take to your doctor), please, see my new page:

New Blighted Ovum Guidelines! You ARE Being Diagnosed Too Soon!

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      Kay 17 months ago

      (((hugs))) and praying for you!

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      chantel 17 months ago

      Hi my name is Chantel and i was told last thursday at my 20wk ultrasound my child had no heartbeat and it had stopped growing at like 17 wks. The perinatalogist told me that i needed to go see my ob and to have a d&c. My ob doesn't do them so he had to find someone to do it for me. Well i tried telling the perinatalogist that I was feeling movements since i was 8 weeks because this is not my first pregnancy he told me i shouldn't have been feeling any movement at all because it was to early to. I did feel the baby move before I went in for the ultrasound that morning. Since they can't do my d&c until Thursday I've been feeling movements all weekend. I have this feeling telling me I need to get a second opinion. I meet with the dr on 1/6/16 and I am going to tell him i want another ultrasound done and to have a follow up before I have the d&c. I just think the one dr is wrong and if so will never be going back to that ultrasound site ever. He totally wasn't listening to me about my own body. I know my body and i know what movemnts are and when my utrrus is stretching. I also have a lil bit of medical background being a cna. Just wish these drs didn't think they know everything and not put every pregnancy as a sterotypical pregnancy cookie cutter. Not every pregnancy is the same for crying out loud. Just praying everything is ok with my lil one. Never had this problem with my first son. Just hoping everything turns out fine and my gut instinct is right.

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      cyn 22 months ago

      Hi, your posts have been very helpful to us.. I just need some advice right now. Im 30 yrs old, my LMP was June 4, 2015 so that makes me 9 wks 2 days now. I had 3 transvaginal ultrasound already, first was July 14 & they dated me 5w 2d only gestational sac 6mm with subchorionic hemorrhage. Second was July 26 dated me 6w 0d still gestational sac w/ SCH. doctor told me to repeat after 10days for the viability and have already told me that t might be a blighted ovum if there's no changes. my 3rd TVS was yesterday Aug 6, & by LMP that would make me 9 wks. during my ultrasound sonographer told me that nothing has changed since my last ultrasound, still only gestational sac.I am losing all hopes that I have. Ive been crying for 2days. Science is telling me Im not pregnant but my body is telling me that am. I did my HCG aug 28 and it was 31000, repeated it after 5 days and has dropped to 29000. I have no bleeding & cramping.. my breasts are sore until now & still tired always and dizzy. Ive been diagnosed last year that I have a tilted uterus. Do I still have a chance that my baby is just hiding & cannot be detected because of my uterus?.. I'm scared to death.. please I need some advice.. thanks everyone.

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      Kay 2 years ago

      You really should go back for a follow-up ultrasound. If anything, they would want to make sure everything is out if this is a miscarriage. You should be able to find out then what is happening.

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      Miranda 2 years ago

      I started bleeding at 8 weeks. I went to the er immediately and after 4 hours they did a pelvic exam and said my cervix was opened so I was having a miscarriage. Levels in my blood and pee were still high though. 10 days later I still tested positive on a home test. Could I still be pregnant?

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