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My First Misdiagnosed Miscarriage at 12 Weeks!

Updated on September 11, 2014
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About Me

Hi. My name is Kay. I am probably best known online for my misdiagnosed blighted ovum story. Since I first shared my story online, hundreds more have shared their misdiagnosed stories as well.

My blighted ovum story was not my first misdiagnosed miscarriage. Now, I'd like to share my miscarriage scare during my first pregnancy. Many women bleed during pregnancy and many of them do carry their pregnancies to term. I hope my story helps gives women hope when they believe they may be losing their pregnancies. Not every miscarriage is diagnosed incorrectly but sometimes just holding on to hope can help us get through a very scary time.

I believe every woman deserves to have no doubt before having her pregnancy ended.

I am not a medical professional. The information I share is meant to supplement the information given you by your doctor. If you feel your doctor is not doing enough for you or not willing to listen to your concerns, I strongly encourage you to take what you've learned here and get a second opinion.

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The Calm Before the Storm

as I prepared to enter the second trimester

My first miscarriage scare began almost eleven years ago to the day that I write this.

My week began as any other week...well, any other week in which I had been getting sick all day long. Oh boy, I remember just having such a case of morning sickness. I seemed to be living on saltine crackers, ginger ale and prenatal vitamins.

That week, I had a routine check up. The doctor and nurse assured me morning sickness does not last forever and should be ending within the next few weeks. I heard at my appointment that now that I had reached the twelfth week, there was almost no chance of miscarriage. Congratulations, I was about to enter the second trimester...yay! I remember feeling such relief that not only would my morning sickness soon ebb but I could cross "miscarriage" off my list of concerns. What is it they say about Murphy's Law?

My Miscarriage Scare Begins

there was just so much blood

Later that week, my husband was at work. It was evening. I was resting comfortably on the sofa watching television. Suddenly, and I remember this part clear as day, while watching ice skating, I felt like my bladder gave out and I had wet myself. I got up to use the bathroom mumbling about how everybody forgot to tell me about this part of pregnancy. I also remember thinking it was slightly humorous. As I walked into the bathroom, for some reason I looked behind me and there was a trail of blood. It seemed like there was blood everywhere. I immediately panicked. I sat on the toilet, looked down and saw I was hemorrhaging. Blood was coming out of me like I had never seen before and it was coming out fast.

The next few minutes were a blur. I remember calling my husband and telling him to come right home and that I needed to go to the hospital. Fortunately, he only worked about ten minutes away. I called my mother right after and she was the first one to use the dreaded "M" word. When I told her I was bleeding heavily, she told me I was miscarrying. I think that is when I lost it. I was a wreck. Until that time, I didn't realize that this might be a miscarriage. I just knew my baby was in trouble. I know I tried to clean myself up in the few minutes before my husband arrived home and put on a maxi pad. My husband arrived home and we took off immediately for the emergency room.

Our ER Experience

one of the worst nights of my life

In the five minutes it took to reach the ER, I bled through that maxi pad, my pants and the front seat of the car. I'm sure I looked pretty scary entering that ER but I didn't care. I was just so scared. The nurse very calmly took my blood pressure and asked a number of questions. She talked about miscarriage and what to expect. I remember just wanting her to hurry so the doctor could stop my miscarriage. I also remember just apologizing over and over to my husband. I really was a basket case. I remember lying there waiting for the doctor just wishing I could disappear. I just wanted to go as far away as possible and not deal with this.

Finally the doctor came in. He examined me and told me this was most likely a miscarriage given all the blood but without an ultrasound, he couldn't be sure. Unfortunately, because it was Super Bowl weekend, they didn't have any technicians scheduled until Monday. They also could not hear a heartbeat despite both the nurse and doctor trying. He said my cervix was still closed but that didn't necessarily mean anything. I didn't care. Once he said the cervix was still closed, I suddenly had a little spot of hope and I was clinging to that. I was told to go home and they'd call me for an ultrasound in a couple days if I hadn't miscarried by then.

I remember going home that night with more of a calmness. I accepted that this might well be a miscarriage but I was going to hold on to that little bit of hope until I was told with all certainty I had lost my baby.

Our Ultrasound Later that Weekend

wait, you mean there is still a baby?

On Sunday, we got a call asking us to come back in for an ultrasound. They had found an ultrasound technician who was willing to come in despite the Super Bowl. We rushed right down to the hospital. By that time, my bleeding had slowed to probably what I would consider a light period flow.

Okay, here is where I get emotional. If you've ever been through this, you'll understand...

I was laying on the ultrasound examination table. The ultrasound tech was a very nice lady but she told us at the onset that she was not allowed to show us the screen or tell us anything about the ultrasound. That was hard. I can't tell you how long she used the probe but it seemed to take an eternity. I just kept looking from her to my husband for any sign of anything. It wasn't there. I remember having tears in my eyes and thinking my pregnancy was really over. I actually have tears in my eyes now as I write this because I remember the feeling so well. I think the ultrasound tech noticed my tears because all of a sudden, she very casually turned up the volume on her machine. THERE WAS A HEARTBEAT and the tech had a huge smile on her face. I immediately broke down AGAIN and then she moved the monitor just enough so my husband could see, when I saw the amazement on my husband's face and I knew our baby was fine.

Not the Only Scare During that Pregnancy

never a dull moment

Over the next few weeks, the bleeding slowed to spotting and finally stopped altogether. However a week or so after it stopped, I woke up bleeding heavily again one morning. Again, a trip to the ER and again, we were warned we might be losing our baby. I had a lot more peace this time since I had been through it already. All in all, I ended up bleeding or spotting the entire second trimester.

We found out at 17 weeks, we were having a boy. We also found out our son most likely had Down Syndrome. After everything we had been through, now the doctor and geneticist were asking me if I wanted to have an abortion. I actually felt pressured to have an abortion but once they realized that was not going to happen, the doctor returned to just monitoring me more frequently. By the third trimester, I was being seen twice a week.

My labor was very difficult. I was in labor 24 hours before they finally did an emergency c-section. By that point, my son's heartbeat had dropped to almost nothing and my blood pressure was out of control.

Our son was an NICU baby. He developed an infection, most likely Strep B. However, he was Down Syndrome free.

They did a pathology report on the placenta and found out that my placenta had actually had 'strokes' and was partially dead. The pathology report also stated that the umbilical cord was too long and partially detached. Our son was truly a miracle baby.

He is now sixteen years old. I cannot even imagine another woman going through these scares and, yet, I know they do because I talk to them almost daily. If you are going through a miscarriage scare, please, visit the Misdiagnosed Miscarriage site for support and to talk to other women going through similar scares.

IMPORTANT New Guidelines for Diagnosing a Miscarriage

The UK is the first to acknowledge that misdiagnosed miscarriages are indeed a problem. The Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists has revised its guidelines. If your gestational sac is more than 25mm and/or the CRL is 7mm or more, you should wait a week to verify (if there are no complications). If the measurements are less, you are too early to diagnose. For more information (and something to take to your doctor), please, see my new page:

New Blighted Ovum Guidelines! You ARE Being Diagnosed Too Soon!

Need to contact the author? You may e-mail Cari_Kay at misdiagnosedmiscarriage@gmail.com

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      Jasmine 8 weeks ago

      Hello my name is Jasmine and this is my first pregnancy. I had my first ultrasound yesterday thinking 8 weeks when I had my ultrasound I was only 5.6 weeks and I was told from my doctor that my yolk sac was larger then normal. She said they eyeballed my yolk sac and it was 25mm and I will miscarry soon. Has anyone heard of a yolk sac being 25mm? I have seen online the highest was 10-12mm? I have another ultrasound next week and just praying for the best.

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      Kay 20 months ago

      (((hugs))) and praying for you!

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      chantel 20 months ago

      Hi my name is Chantel and i was told last thursday at my 20wk ultrasound my child had no heartbeat and it had stopped growing at like 17 wks. The perinatalogist told me that i needed to go see my ob and to have a d&c. My ob doesn't do them so he had to find someone to do it for me. Well i tried telling the perinatalogist that I was feeling movements since i was 8 weeks because this is not my first pregnancy he told me i shouldn't have been feeling any movement at all because it was to early to. I did feel the baby move before I went in for the ultrasound that morning. Since they can't do my d&c until Thursday I've been feeling movements all weekend. I have this feeling telling me I need to get a second opinion. I meet with the dr on 1/6/16 and I am going to tell him i want another ultrasound done and to have a follow up before I have the d&c. I just think the one dr is wrong and if so will never be going back to that ultrasound site ever. He totally wasn't listening to me about my own body. I know my body and i know what movemnts are and when my utrrus is stretching. I also have a lil bit of medical background being a cna. Just wish these drs didn't think they know everything and not put every pregnancy as a sterotypical pregnancy cookie cutter. Not every pregnancy is the same for crying out loud. Just praying everything is ok with my lil one. Never had this problem with my first son. Just hoping everything turns out fine and my gut instinct is right.

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      cyn 2 years ago

      Hi, your posts have been very helpful to us.. I just need some advice right now. Im 30 yrs old, my LMP was June 4, 2015 so that makes me 9 wks 2 days now. I had 3 transvaginal ultrasound already, first was July 14 & they dated me 5w 2d only gestational sac 6mm with subchorionic hemorrhage. Second was July 26 dated me 6w 0d still gestational sac w/ SCH. doctor told me to repeat after 10days for the viability and have already told me that t might be a blighted ovum if there's no changes. my 3rd TVS was yesterday Aug 6, & by LMP that would make me 9 wks. during my ultrasound sonographer told me that nothing has changed since my last ultrasound, still only gestational sac.I am losing all hopes that I have. Ive been crying for 2days. Science is telling me Im not pregnant but my body is telling me that am. I did my HCG aug 28 and it was 31000, repeated it after 5 days and has dropped to 29000. I have no bleeding & cramping.. my breasts are sore until now & still tired always and dizzy. Ive been diagnosed last year that I have a tilted uterus. Do I still have a chance that my baby is just hiding & cannot be detected because of my uterus?.. I'm scared to death.. please I need some advice.. thanks everyone.

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      Kay 2 years ago

      You really should go back for a follow-up ultrasound. If anything, they would want to make sure everything is out if this is a miscarriage. You should be able to find out then what is happening.

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      Miranda 2 years ago

      I started bleeding at 8 weeks. I went to the er immediately and after 4 hours they did a pelvic exam and said my cervix was opened so I was having a miscarriage. Levels in my blood and pee were still high though. 10 days later I still tested positive on a home test. Could I still be pregnant?

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      Kay 3 years ago

      I am so very sorry. It all seems so surreal when you are going through it too. That's an experience I wish no woman would ever have to go through.

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      Anne Gillingham 3 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      I lost a pregnancy at 9.5 weeks. I was 38 years old at the time. I had some brown spotting and my doctor said go to the ER. I was like "whut?" It was thanksgiving weekend and I was like "whatever." I did what the doctor told me.

      I had had this deep tearing sensation in my uterus, which I thought was normal. Apparently it isn't.

      I had all the first trimester fatigue crap --- it was awful. Worse than this time around. I felt like I had the flu for weeks.

      Well anyway, at the hospital the ultrasonagrapher couldn't find a heartbeat. It wasn't a good sign when he wasn't talking.

      The radiologist came in and looked at the screen and said "sorry, no heartbeat detected.

      I then looked at my husband and said "is this a dream? Who the hell are these people?" He said "no this is not a dream ... he is a radiologist" and I snapped out of it.

      Anyway, I cried and cried and when we went home the house felt so empty. We cried some more.

      But then the next day, all I could think about was getting it removed. It was a "missed abortion" (horrible term) but then I had to go through the pure Hell of removing the "missed" part of it. I did not want to wait to miscarry naturally, because the pregnancy for some reason was making me sick. If I am not going to produce a living baby, I did not want to go through the first trimester of a pregnancy, until nature takes its course ... aka indefinitely.

      Call up clinics who perform this procedure ... not a joyous experience. I was living in San Diego at the time, and you can count them on one hand.

      Believe me, being Catholic, sitting at an abortion clinic waiting room a month before Christmas, listening to "Jesus" holiday music, is an eerie and aggravating experience.

      Some women were literally skipping and jumping into their appointments.

      Others knew exactly where the lockers were, etc.

      Others were crying ...

      Awful place, awful experience.

      I was so scared. They put me on my back and my legs were up in stirrups that brought my knees up so high that my legs swung. I had a 30 second introduction to the doctor, and the nurse was talking to me and I said I was scared and told her to put that needle in my arm so we could just get it over with.

      darkness. literally.

      Anyway I woke up to the sound of the vacuum going off multiple times, it sounded like a carwash.

      The gal next to me asked me if this was my "first abortion" because I looked upset.

      "naw ... this is my fifth ... I just get a bit teary-eyed sometimes."

      Geez.

      Anyway, yeah, this is an experience that I would prefer to not have lived through but in my case I got three opinions about the heartbeat and the consensus was the same.

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      kai_mom27 3 years ago

      I am freaking out while trying to remain hopeful. I was told to go into the ER 5/20/2014 due to a small brown discharge noticed after wiping and I went as told,during my visit I was told that there was an intrauterine gestational sac containing a fetal pole with mean CRL (CROWN-RUMP LENGTH) of 7.9 mm which corresponds to 6 weeks 5 days. I immediately became concerned because my LMP (LAST MENSTRUAL PERIOD) was 03/03/2014 which would place my pregnancy at 11 weeks 1 day and as if that wasn't enough they went on to tell me that there was NO FETAL CARDIAC ACTIVITY IDENTIFIED (My baby has NO HEARTBEAT) They went on to say there is a hypoechoic area adjacent to the gestational sac consistent with subchorionic hemorrhage. I was told to follow-up with an OB\GYN, which being very concerned I did the very next day ( 05/21/2014) they gave me 3 options - 1 being a medication which would allow me to miscarry within 24 hours, I refused & decided to go to a different ER. On ( 05/22/2014) the second ER found that there is a gestational sac in the central uterus, but it is irregularly marginated. It measures 3.9 x 0.62 x 2.2 cm suggestive of 7 weeks and 2 days gestation. A beating fetal heart was still not identified. The adnexal regions were evaluated. On the left, the ovary is identified measuring 2.7 x 1.7 x 1.6 cm. On the right, the ovary is identified measuring 2.9 x 1.6 x 1.2 cm.No cyst or mass or abnormal fluid collcetion. The cervix is closed. The fetal pole is thought to be identified centrally with a measurement suggestive of 5 week gestation. Now i'm really freaking out while trying to remain optimistic

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      thank u that gave me alot of hope in my pregnancy

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      Kay 4 years ago

      @anonymous: Please, when you find out what is happening, give an update if you can. (((hugs)))

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      6/22/13: On wensday I found out I was pregnant by doing a test. later that afternoon I started to bleed. I was only 3 days past my missed period maybe it was a false positive, ill check the next morning. Still positive. went to my obgyn that morning who tested me and then gave me a ultrasound the couldn't find an embryo fetus or baby on the monitor. Fearing im might be having a tubal pregnancy they sent me to the hospital for another ultra sound that afternoon. They released me at the hospital telling me that the tech cant cant read the results. I was scared as my obgyn said that they would treat a tubal pregnancy as cancer and id get a chemo shot. Yet I was released. I did blood work. and went home exhausted. I couldn't make the apt in the am to my obgyn due to prior commitments to my 21 month old son. I asked to reschedual. They close early and advised me to go to the Er as Friday morning I was still bleeding. Er was a total waste of a trip. They gave me an unneeded iv incert gave me yet another pregnancy test and an internal exam. I learned that my cervix is closed and my Hcg levels went up 3 points. No one will confirm or deny a misscarrage. I was relased with orders of bed rest and to return to my obgyn on Monday. I am not in any kind of pain just tiredness and yesterday my entire body's muscels were sore and some mild crampig. Today my bleed is a light flow. Im unsure if this is an inception bleed or an actual miscarriage. so im being labled pregnancy of unknown origin. The er doctor did a follow up asking me to return to the er tomorrow for more blood work. Does anyone else have anything similar happening or have happened to? Im a bit of a control freak and not knowing whats going on with my body or the pregnancy is killing me as is the wait.Thanks Gena from Pa

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      Kay 4 years ago

      @anonymous: You are still early and, honestly, with bleeding levels can sometimes plateau or decline temporarily. If there are no complications, set an appointment with your OB and he can monitor them for you. (((hugs))) and, please, keep me updated.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Hi, I am currently 5 weeks pregnant and just a couple days ago I noticed a brown discharge when I wiped so I went to the ER and they told me everything was fine but they weren't going to rule out miscarriage just yet then I started to have some bleeding but no clots and nothing serious. But I choose to return to the ER anyway they checked again and told me it was just old discharge. They took my blood and my level was 179 I don't know anything about blood levels. They had me come in yesterday and told me today I was losing my baby. I highly believe this is wrong due to the fact I have no pain and have not passed any type of blood clots. My bleeding is off and on and is light. I have one child already and he will be 2 in august and I went full term with him.......any thoughts

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Hi, I am currently 5 weeks pregnant and just a couple days ago I had some brown blood when I wiped, this had me concerned so I went to the ER, they told me everything was fine but they weren't going to rule out misscariage just yet. I went home and the next day I started bleeding a little more but no clots and no pain. They had me come in and do blood work my level was 179 ( I don't know anything about blood levels when you pregnant) so they sent me home I am now spotting on and off but still no pain. I went in yesterday to get more blood work done and they told me today that I was losing my baby. I highly believe this is wrong due to the fact I am in no pain and I am not passing clots and haven't been. They won't do an ultrasound because I'm so early. I currently already have a son who will be 2 in august and I went full term with little to no problems with that pregnancy..........what do you think?

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Hi, I am currently 5 weeks pregnant and just a couple days ago I had some brown blood when I wiped, this had me concerned so I went to the ER, they told me everything was fine but they weren't going to rule out misscariage just yet. I went home and the next day I started bleeding a little more but no clots and no pain. They had me come in and do blood work my level was 179 ( I don't know anything about blood levels when you pregnant) so they sent me home I am now spotting on and off but still no pain. I went in yesterday to get more blood work done and they told me today that I was losing my baby. I highly believe this is wrong due to the fact I am in no pain and I am not passing clots and haven't been. They won't do an ultrasound because I'm so early. I currently already have a son who will be 2 in august and I went full term with little to no problems with that pregnancy..........what do you think?

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      @anonymous: Hi Pam , Your situation sounds similar to mines. According to my lmp I should be almost 11 wks but when I went in for my u/s I was measuring 6 wks with no heartbeat. I hope all works out for you.

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      Kay 4 years ago

      @anonymous: So hard to know but, you could be off on your dates. It happens often enough. Thankfully you are having another ultrasound at least a week out. If the sac is growing, there is hope. Please, keep me updated. Saying a prayer for you!

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Hi, I am an American living in the UK. I only say this because I am experiencing pre-natal care in a different way here. I am 45 and have two children, a daughter (20) and a son (18). I am remarried and we have found ourselves pregnant. Yes, it was planned, but neither of us thought it could actually happen (he is 47). I took a pregnancy test mid January (I think the 12th but can't be positive), which came up positive. We went in for our first ultrasound on Monday (Feb 25th). By the dates that I gave for my last period, it would have put me at 12 weeks on the 25th (including the two weeks before conception). I did have a one day period in January so didn't count that, but maybe I should have. Anyway, when I went in for the ultrasound they asked me if I could possibly be wrong on my dates, for which I said no. They then told me that my baby was only showing at about 5 weeks, so must have died. What they called a missed miscarriage. They did say that I would have to wait a week to have another ultrasound to see for sure, but not to be too hopeful. They acknowledged that some babies are slow starters and some women are way off on their dates. This was a devastating blow to myself and my husband. I am eternally grateful that the NHS has this rule. They will not do a d and c without back up evidence. In the moment I was so upset and wanted one right then and there. I couldn't understand it because I was having all the symptoms including a growing bump, nausea, sleepless nights, etc. Once the doctor told me, I feel like those have started to subside, and it scares me. They still come and go some, but it feels different. I felt so sure that they must be right, until my sister in California started researching a bit. I then joined in and found misdiagnosedmiscarriages.com, and your skidoo site. There are so many women who have experienced the same thing. It gives me hope, but I am scared that it will be false hope. Has anyone ever had a misdiagnosed "missed miscarriage"? And can it be possible that I am just way off on my calculations. I keep looking at the calendar and am now completely confused. I've realized that if I detected it way early with a pregnancy test, then I may have been a ways off on my calculations. I was on the pill for 18 years and only off for two months before I became pregnant. I feel very sad and confused, and am scared to go to my next ultrasound on Tuesday of next week.

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      Melissa Miotke 4 years ago from Arizona

      I'm so glad it worked out for you. I would have thought there was no hope at the time. There's nothing in the world worse than losing a baby. I'm grateful you shared your story.

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      theallin1writer 4 years ago

      What a powerful story! Thank you for having the courage to share!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      @anonymous: Hi I was wondering what happened? I was in the ER last night and the same thing is happening to me. .. I just want some hope.

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      Srena44 5 years ago

      nice lens

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Wow, that is quite a story. I am lightheaded after reading it. I had 2 miscarriages in between my 2 children. They were miscarriages and I did not have to have a D&C. I am so glad that your story turned out well and that you shared it. Thanks.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      @anonymous: I guess in telling this, I wanted to see if there were any others out there who were told that their hCG count was going down and then were still pregnant in the end. Because I know there is such a thing as human error... the lab techs could've been wrong. (this is my hope)

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      nicole-kaminsky 5 years ago

      @anonymous: Well I haven't been on in a while......Our worse fear came true. On March 22nd, I ultimately miscarried our son. Although the last month and a half has been quite hard for us, God has surely blessed us. We have 6 healthy wonderful children to be grateful for. I still cry at night when I think about how I never got to hold my son and have all the memories I had with my other children. We will be reunited again in heaven one day and oh what a day that will be! He is in God's loving care until that time comes. I pray that all of you have peace in knowing that if you have lost your little one and I pray that the ones who haven't and our waiting things out, that your outcome is better for you. God Bless you all!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      I emailed you at your gmail. but I would like to add to what I had emailed earlier. My name is Arvella. I'm 44 and pregnant. When I went for my first ultrasound I was told it was a blighted ovum(was about 8 weeks). My sac looks normal, not misshaped at all. There was even a faint shadow of something there but the dr. didn't linger on it long to investigate it. He just declared that I had a blighted ovum. He then had me do lab work to check my hCG levels. Friday-12000 Monday-8850. He offered the D&C or said I could wait a week to see if I miscarry. Here it is 10 days later and I still feel pregnant, mood swings, fatigue, heightened sense of smell and sore breasts. I'm committed to waiting this out for as long as I can. I have hope and faith in God that He will do what is best for me. I just have to trust.

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      blessedmomto7 5 years ago

      Wow, what a story. I gushed red blood at 7 weeks with my firstborn. Turned out to be a polyp on my cervix that was removed and although I went into labor at 30 weeks with him, they delayed it and he was born at 37 weeks. I bled on and off for the first 15 weeks of my second pregnancy. Then at 16 weeks it stopped and my daughter was born on her due date. My third pregnancy I had placenta previa and was at risk for bleeding, but never did. That guy was born by section at 36 weeks. I went on to have 4 more children and now I have 7 precious blessings. (Although I did lose one baby at 10 weeks--truly a blighted ovum). Blessings to you for sharing your story.

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      Kay 5 years ago

      @anonymous: How awful. I am so very sorry. I bled so heavily and my son was fine. I can't believe they didn't do an ultrasound. (((hugs)))

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      i was 9 weeks pregnant when i was rushed to the hospital by my cousin and my partner at around 2:30 to 3:00 in the morning on March 19, 2012 because of heavy bleeding. i was immediately brought to the delivery room by the nurses. they took my blood pressure, the doctor came in and told be that he is just an admitting doctor and i have to wait for the obstetrician to examine me. they told me that my doctor, which is really my doctor is on leave and they offered me another doctor which is the reliever or my doctor. and they told me that they already called the doctor and will be coming soon. after an hour they transferred me to my room because they told me that the doctor is not coming yet. i asked for another doctor, and they told me that the doctor they were calling is the only one available. my cousin, which is a nurse graduate asked the nurses if they can already perform the ultrasound so that we'll be able to know if the baby is still alive, but the nurse said that the ultrasound section will open at 9 in the morning so we'll have to wait.. i told my cousin to tell the nurses that i am bleeding heavily and to call the doctor immediately. my cousin was very angry because my clothes are wet with blood and the nurses is doing nothing. i was transferred back again at the delivery room, they let me wore an adult diaper. again i asked for another doctor, because of course i want to save my baby. they took off my diaper to see if i'm still bleeding, and i heard one of the nurses said "she's not bleeding heavy anymore." what do they mean by that?..at 5:00 in the morning the nurse asked me if i can pee because they need to do urinalysis. i stood up, walked to the comfort room inside the delivery room and pee. after i pee, i walked alone back on the bed, pushing the dextrose stand all by myself, i felt like i was going to faint and no one ever assisted me. the nurse even asked me if why i didn't flush the toilet! i fell asleep at around 6:30 and woke up at around 7:00. the nurse told me that i need to go back to my room because the doctor is still not coming. when i got to my room, the nurse told my cousin that they can perform ultrasound without waiting until 9:00am but we need to pay additional fee. my cousin was very angry because we were there before 3:00 in the morning and they offered it at past 7:00am!!! my cousin said no, because she already knew that the baby will never be able to survive that kind of heavy bleeding. she also had a miscarriage two times...at 9:00 in the morning the doctor came, had an IE,and told me that it was already an abortion and i need to undergo D&C. i was shocked and confused. she didn't even perform an ultrasound to see if the the baby is still alive or whatever! i was again brought to the delivery room, and i wasn't asleep yet, she already performed the D&C. i totally felt the pain...i was asleep for over 8 hours after the procedure.. the doctor visited me only once, she told me to drink the medicine she gave me and can go home.. that was it..they never struggle to save my baby. they just watch me bled for 7hours thinking it was just okay. i tried to talk to the OB Dept Head, but they always tell me that they will make me an appointment. til now they haven't call me back..

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Kay, I felt frightened for you as I read your story. I'm so glad everything worked out in the end. I can't imagine the emotions you had to deal with while it was going on. Thank you for sharing your story and I wish you and your family all the best.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      We are expecting our 7th child and because I was unsure of my last period date, we were unsure of exactly when we conceived. I was unable to go to the doctor immediately because of insurance reasons but when I went, I was believe to be about 13 weeks pregnant. That same day, they sent us in for an ultrasound because we were unsure of the date only to find out that they could not find the heartbeat. My husband and I were devastated. Very upset on our way home and for that entire day, we decided to pray about it and would go back for a 2nd opinion. This past Friday we had our second opinion, this time performing a vaginal ultrasound, they still have not found a heartbeat. Both times the baby was measuring at 11 weeks. I have no signs of miscarriage however, they have diagnosed it is a missed miscarriage. If my worst fear is true, I rather it happen naturally and I definitely do not want to have a D & C done.Has anyone had a similar experience with not being able to find the heartbeat so late in the pregnancy? Since I haven't had the ultrasound earlier on, I never had a chance to hear that little one's heartbeat. Do you think or suggest I request my doctor to order bloodwork to check my HCG levels? I just want to verify everything before we conclude the worst. My husband and I are praying and crying out to God everyday that he will intervene and give us our miracle baby. I never had any complications with any of my other pregnancies so this is so hard to grasp the idea that something like this could happen to me. Any advice or encouragement you can give is greatly appreciated. We are supposed to see the doctor on Monday and I am sure she will advise us of our options again. No matter what we are waiting this out to see what happens. Thank you so much!

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      Everyday-Miracles 5 years ago

      I have a lens about my pregnancy and birth with my little girl. I know so well the feeling of laying there waiting to be told your baby's gone, only to hear that heartbeat. It went a bit differently for me, but it was WONDERFUL to know that I hadn't lost my pregnancy after all. I had two threats during that pregnancy, so I know well how you feel!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Woke up bleeding and cramping this morning at 9 weeks pregnant. I was terrifed to go to the er scared they would tell me what i already knew...i miscarried. Got there, they got out the ultrasound and i saw the little heart beating away! I have been home googling to see ehat info i can find out why this happened.....your website is amazing and so helpful. Thank you!

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Years before we met and married (both at almost 40), husband and I were both told we wouldn't be able to have children. So we didn't worry when exactly 6 months after our marriage I had a bad stomach bug which made me sick 24/7 for 2 weeks. I was actually angry with the GP to suggest I might be pregnant (how insensitive!) but blood tests showed I was 2 weeks pregnant! Tests at 12 weeks showed our son has 1/11 instead of 1/240000 chance for BOTH trisomy 13 and 18. We asked God to let us miscarriage if amnio test at 17 weeks is positive, we would not be able to terminate. The tests were negative. Bleeding at 21 & 25 weeks, and I had pneumonia from week 35. But baby fought back and we had a perfectly normal son born at 37 weeks. By 3 Dec.2010 my period was 2 weeks late and I felt pregnant. We planned to do a pregnancy test the next day, when we would arrive at our holiday destination. But on our way, I started bleeding heavily and it lasted for 5 days, and stopped feeling pregnant. GP said it was possibly a miscarriage. On 21 Jan.2011 blood tests confirmed I'm 6 weeks pregnant. 3 days later I bled heavily and specialist could not find a heartbeat, so pronounced we had a miscarriage and gave me pills to clean my womb. (I could not get a D&C for various reasons.) It was hell to put that pill in my mouth, but I had no reason not to trust this specialist, and had never heard about a misdiagnosed pregnancy, so accepted that nature stopped this pregnancy because something was wrong with the baby. I put in effort to be more healthy, just in case we fall pregnant again. On 16 Aug. 2011 (aged 42,5) bloodtests confirmed we're 2-3 weeks pregnant. I was in excellent health and went with great anticipation for the 8 week scan. But the baby measured 2,3mm and the emryo sac was massive, and the specialist could not find a heartbeat. We all checked the dates a million times, and all showed that we should be 8 weeks pregnant. Doc sent me for blood test to make doubly sure. The HSg count showed an increase but not sufficient for a baby of 8 weeks. Two days later he did another sonar, and used various methods to find a heartbeat. But there was nothing. In those 72 hours the baby had grown to 2,8mm but that was still 10% of what it should be. We agreed that our baby is dead in uterus. I was devastated, and confused because I still felt so very pregnant. But the clinical facts showed our baby is dead, I had to accept it. So we went through the D&C process on 9 Sept.2011. Since then the idea that our baby wasn't dead until I signed the papers and went through the D&C, flashed through my mind a million times. A friend e-mailed me about your website and I hoped it would give me peace, but now I've read about misdiagnosed miscarriages... I know and have accepted that our baby really did die in uterus, but would urge any parent in a remotely similar situation to wait just a week longer if they have any doubts, just for absolute peace of mind. If the baby really is dead in uterus, surely another week won't matter. But if the baby is alive ...!

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      SIMULAR TO THIS LADY ABOVE LINA AND I WERE EXPECTING OUR 1ST BABY FOR DECEMBER SOMETIME HAVING CONCEIVED IN MARCH. HER LZST P[ERIOD WAS ON FEB 20 AND ONLY LASTED 3-4 DAYS, BUT I WAS NOT WITH HER SINCE I LIVE ABROAD. WHEN I UNITED WITH LINA ON MARCH 5TH WE DID OUR THING DILIGENTLY TRYING TO CONCEIVE. ON MARCH 13 WHEN HER PEIROD DID NOT COME WE DECIDED TO TAKE A PREGNANCY TEST 3 WEEKENDS IN A ROW ONLY TO DISCOVER IT NEGATIVE. A WEEK AFTER THAT ANOTHER TEST PROVED TO BE POSITIVE AND TO CONFIRM THIS THE FOLLOWING WEEK ANOTHER ONE WAS ADMINISTERED AND IT WAS POSITIVE AND A BLOOD TST WAS REQUESTED TO CONFIRM THIS. WHEN I RETURN TO LINA ON MARCH 4TH WE WERE 12 WEEKS. ON THE 17TH OF MARCH WITH ALMOST 14 WEEKS SHE BEGAN TO BLEED AND DISCHARGE, I TOOK HER TO THE CLINCI AND THEY SENT HER TO HAVE AN ULTRASOUND OF THE FETUS. THERE THEY SAID IT WAS OK AND WEEK COULD SEE AND HEAR THE HEART BEAT, THEY ESTIMATED THE WEIGHT, LENGHT AND INCUBATION PERIOD WHCIH DID NOT COINCIDE WITH OUR CALCULATIONS SINCE I WAS NO T PRESENT DURING THAT TIME PERIOD AND THE PREGNANCY TEST THAT FAILED WHEN WE WERE TOGETHER. HOWEVER THIS COULD BE ATTRIBUTED TO HER BEING A 5' 2" COLOMBIAN NATIONAL AND MYSELF AS AN AMERICAN OF 6 FEET. WE QUICKLY DISCARDED THSI SINCE THE TEST PROVED SHE WAS NOT PREGNANT AT THE TIME OF OUR TEST. SHE WAS SENT HOME AND SHE CONTINUED TO LOSE FLUIDS AND BLEED TO A LESSER DEGREE DESPITE REST AND RELAXATION. INSIDE OF THE TWO WEEKS AFTER THIS SHE WAS TAKING A BATH AND NOTICE SOMETHING INSIDE OF HER COMING OUT, SHE CALLED ME AND I NOTICED A CORD OF SOME SORT, THEREFORE I RUSHED HER TO THE CLINIC AND FROM THERE TO THE HOSPITAL WHERE SHE WAS FORCED INTO LABOR AT 4 MONTHS OF GESTATION TO HAVE HER BABY PRE-MATURED AND WE LOST IT. IT WAS A GIRL AND SHE WAS BIGGER THAN MY HAND AND WEIGHTED OVER 175 GRAMS

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      I am in a situation where my husband and I have tried ourselves to get pregnant, and even were, but I miscarried at 6 weeks. Then we saw an infertility specialist, who we are currently still working with. I have been through six ivf's/three donors/countless miscarriages. As I write this, my hcg numbers have plummeted and I fear the worst. There is some helpful info here at this site, and it is a bit comforting to not feel so alone. I am grateful for the work you put into this site, and for sharing it with those of us in such struggles right now. I am praying for a miracle, but trying to keep my feet planted firmly as I am not sure how many more times I can ride this roller coaster. If anyone is/has gone through similar, all we can do is hope that our time will come.....

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      jgelien 7 years ago

      This lens is a real eye-opener. I had two miscarriages but they really were miscarriages.Mis-diagnosed miscarriage is a very important topic. Thank you for bringing it to people's attention. You may save some tiny lives. 5*

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      anonymous 8 years ago

      I have had several miscarriages- 3 and now possibly 4- I do have one healthy child- i had her almost a year ago- I was told yesterday that they can no longer detect a heartbeat- last week the baby measured 5 weeks and 6 days with a heartrate of 82- The doc. told me to have guarded hope- it was very early- one week later- yesterday- there was no heart rate- Although this tech did not zoom in close enough for me to see the heart beat on the embryo- I did not hear the heart beat the week before when it was 82. This tech said she didn't find one. The embryo measured 6 weeks- I still have a faint hope that The next ultrasound I get - which will be in 4 days to confirm misscarriage will show a heart beat- Am I just grieving and dillusional? or is there a possiblitiy that this might actually happen?

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      anonymous 8 years ago

      I found out that I was expecting our second child in the beginning of april. Everything was normal, and I felt great. On June 26, I had my first U/S. I was about 10 weeks, and could see the heartbeat.Then (just last week) as about 12 weeks, I started to get this brown discharge. At first it didn't alarm me but at the end of the week I did call my midwife, she came to my house this past saturday and she was going to try and hear the fetal heart beat with a doppler. She couldn't pick it up, probably because the fetus was so small yet ,she said. I was still not that alarmed, but and U/S was scheduled for the following monday. Going there that monday, I was confinced that I would get the reassurance that the heart was still beating and everything was fine. Well it wasn't, the fetus had no heart beat and measured smaller then what it should be. But now knowing, I still have no signs of a miscarriage. Also the discharge had dissapeared a few days ago. Am I in denial to hold on to any hope?

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      anonymous 8 years ago

      Hi, all. I have an 18 month old son and 5 weeks ago I tested positive on a home pregnancy test. At 7 weeks after LMP, my husband and I went to the gynea, who only found an empty gestational sac and no heart beat. We reapeated the u/s 10 days later and it was the same result. After that we did a series of hCG blood tests and in the 3 days, the levels increased significantly, however, not a perfect double. 2 weeks later, we came for another u/s - I was 10 weeks LMP, however, we found an embryo measuring 6 weeks. There is a conception date that could definitely fit that thus misscalculating my pregnancy, however, the new hCG blood tests proved that the levels are decreasing and that, apparently, is a definite miscarriage. My gynea is pushing me to schedule a D&C but I am very reluctant. I feel that since there was difinete growth in the embryo, I should at least wait for another u/s and even if prognosis is still bad, I prefer to wait for the miscarriage to happen naturally. I'm very sad.

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      CounselMom 8 years ago

      I can definitely identify with your emotions! It's scary to not know what's going on. I remember on one of my first trimester bleeding scares being in the E.R. room talking with the doctor and thinking that he really didn't know much about what was happening to me. I felt he may have relied on the sonographer and maybe another doc or the nurses for the info he gave me...it just didn't feel like he knew his stuff when it came to miscarriage or bleeding during pregnancy. Not a nice feeling!