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Updated on March 29, 2016

Birth without the use of a care provider, also known as unassisted birth

I have always had confidence and trust in the ability of women to birth their children, but sometimes the time is not right for a free birth. I was interested in home birth with my first child. I was just not in the right position at the time. The man I was with was controlling and scared. We even ran red lights on the way to the hospital, which, is probably more risky than having a home birth. I am pregnant again and am in a much more open and happy relationship, with my man and with myself. I have enough confidence in myself to know what I want and what is best for me, a free birth. My man is open and trusting enough to feel comfortable with us delivering our child alone. It is key that both parents, or just one if it is only you, feel comfortable and confident in the ability to birth a child to this earth when you are planning a free birth.

Women are built to birth. I mean if doctors and midwives can interfere with birth with drugs and monitoring, induction, vaginal exams, ect... I should be able to do it without all of that stuff for sure. I am healthy, confident, understand the process of birth, and know that the more interference the more dangerous, painful, and long birth is. Having a child is a completely intimate process that should be treated as such. Women need seclusion and comfort for an easy birth. We need to be able to get into it without others watching. Think about this, “Excretory, cervical, and vaginal sphincters function best in an atmosphere of intimacy and privacy”, “where interruption is unlikely or impossible.”, “ When a person's sphincter is in the process of opening, it may suddenly close down if that person becomes upset, frightened, humiliated, or self-conscious.” (Ina May's Guide to Childbirth pg. 170). Home birth midwifery is an awesome alternative to the hospital; you just better make sure you are comfortable enough with your midwife to allow your body to open up. Thinking about my upcoming birth I feel much more comfortable without the presence of a midwife there. I will be able to let myself fully feel the momentum of each contraction with no distractions, just my man supporting me. He can rub my back, make me tea, get a bath going, whatever I need. No one that I don't get naked with, take showers with, and live with every day will be there to see me in this birth, and I am so excited. It is going to be magical and so intimate, like making love all night long.

The thought of free birth does not scare me at all. I am not afraid of risks like prolapsed cord, cord around the neck, bleeding out, toxemia seizures, too high of blood pressure, or my hips not being big enough to let the baby out. I am not worried about not knowing if there is a true emergency, I'll know. If there is a true emergency and we had a midwife with us at home, we would go to the hospital anyway, so I am not scared to be without a care provider. I don't need someone to give me vaginal exams to tell me how far along I am. I know my body. I will feel the baby coming. The contractions will not be too intense. I was at the hospital with my first baby, and I knew I had to poop, like the entire time. It just never felt like the right time, so I held it in and it came out when the baby came out. This time when I am at home I will poop when I need to poop, comfortably, in my own bathroom. Free birth is not scary. It is an act where you are in charge, you don't have to worry about the midwife showing up on time, or how dilated you are. It is a primal act, where you go deep inside of yourself and find the strength to birth your child. No matter where you birth and with who it is always you who delivers your baby anyway.

This article is for those of you who read it and think free birth might be for you. I encourage you to do it. A healthy woman in a healthy place in her life should consider free birth. I an confident that any woman who is going in the direction of a free unassisted birth will educate and empower herself as she should. I have faith in the ability of women to deliver their babies. I think they should learn about birth. Even if a woman decides on going to the hospital or getting a midwife, she should gather the information and confidence in herself that she needs to have an empowering birth experience. The type of experience that she comes out of feeling on top of the world, instead of feeling completely overwhelmed and/or misinformed by the medical model of birth. Free birth is very real and inside of us at all times.


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