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How to be happy always? Find it within you!

Updated on July 25, 2014

People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” – Abraham Lincoln

Most of you want happiness in life, don’t you? Money loses its value when you are not happy. Your search for your happiness never ends and mostly you fail to find it.

Why is happiness so important?

  1. It gives you peace.
  2. You lead your life in contentment.
  3. You are not stressed or tensed.
  4. You co-exist in friendliness with others.
  5. You feel your life worthy.

What happens when you are not happy?

You feel that you are unlucky not to have happiness in your life. You compare your life with others and feel that you do not enjoy the blessings others are gifted with. You crib and whine that your life is wretched and without any happiness.

What do you think will give you happiness?

Invariably you want to be rich. You always link affluence as a main aspect needed to be happy. But if wealth was the main ingredient needed for happiness then only the rich can be happy. In fact there are many rich people who feel that they lack happiness.

So happiness is something everyone seeks, but each and everyone have a different parameter to define happiness.

  1. Why is happiness so difficult to achieve?
  2. Is it something that needs too much of work on your part?
  3. Can happiness be bought?
  4. Can being rich mean happiness?
  5. Who will make you happy?

Are you wondering at this long questionnaire session?

Why do you have to seek happiness outside you when it is right within you?

Happiness is a mindset which has to be cultivated by you to feel content with your life.

What are the ingredients needed for your happiness?

Several factors contribute to your happiness, but it is very tragic that you link it with the riches world can offer you. You yearn for money, latest gadgets, posh bungalows, big cars and other materialistic things others have. You feel that you must buy what others have got to make yourself happy. But strangely you do not feel any happiness when you acquire whatever you craved for. You are momentarily pleased, nothing else!

You want success and so you work hard to achieve it. Success only needs your input of hard work, knowledge, intelligence and brainpower to achieve it. But your happiness depends on your emotions! Why is it so? Happiness is an emotion and emotions are from within you and you are its initiator and creator. So it is you who can make yourself angry, depressed or happy.

“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.” – Dalai Lama

Are you wondering how to make your life happy? It is entirely up to you. You can choose to be happy or unhappy. There are certain basic characteristics you have to develop to initiate happiness in your life.

1. Acceptance

You are unable to accept what life gives you and it makes you very unhappy. You yearn for something which you do not have and make your life tough by feeling completely unsatisfied with what you have got. You might fail, but you should accept your defeat. Unless you accept your defeat you will not be resilient enough to try again.

2.You should share

You do not know the happiness sharing can give you. You want everything for yourself and feel concentrated only on your needs. You will never feel happy if this is your attitude. When you share the problems of others you feel fulfilled that your life is creditable.

3.The feeling you are worthy

Most of you dislike yourself and plunge into depression and feel you are not worthy. Why is it you dislike yourself? You compare yourself with others and feel very lacking. You develop inferiority complex and dread meeting people. Shove away your self-pity and think that you are the best.

4. Giving you the credit!

Don’t be focused on big successes and overlook the tiny success you achieve. When I write an article which I think is good, I appreciate myself very much and feel extremely good and happy.

5. Being well groomed

You need not be handsome\beautiful to be well groomed. When you dress impeccably you feel good to look at yourself in the mirror. Maintain your body and your looks. You owe yourself that much.

6. Pamper yourself

There are times when I feel rather let down. I immediately step outside and do a mild shopping. Just within my budget, you know! It helps me fight back my let down feeling and I am back to my normal self. But you should be careful not to let your shopping become an addiction.

7. Watching comedy shows

Comic scenes instigate a feeling of laughter in you and your laughter relaxes your mind. Comedy never bores you and you feel lightened and less stressed.

8. indulge yourself

If there was someone who deserves the best, it is you. Buy yourself things you craved for and make yourself feel good.

9. Sense of humor

You should never lose your sense of humor as it takes the sting off your problems and you feel that ‘this too shall pass’.

If you look at the list needed for happiness, you will understand that all these qualities can be developed only by you. No one else can do it for you, can they? When you have the choice of being happy, why do you want to opt for unhappiness? Life is too short to feel unhappy.

© 2013 mathira


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      mathira 4 years ago from chennai

      denise, it is the same with me. I kept seeking more and more for myself until one day I realized that it was not in money I can find my happiness, but in inner contentment.

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      Denise W Anderson 4 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      It has taken me many years to learn how to feel content. I used to say, "He who is not content changes the world." As a person who was not content, I would strive to make things better, do more, and be more. Then I experienced a situation that knocked me backward far enough that I had to re-assess who I was and what I wanted out of life. At that time, I realized that I no longer wanted to be more and do more. I was content simply to be who I was at that moment, and it was okay. Now, I understand what it means to be content, and in contentment, I have found happiness.

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      A great hub mathira; one which I am sure will benefit many.

      Voted up and here I wish you a great day.


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      mathira 4 years ago from chennai

      Thank you georgecifo.

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      georgescifo 4 years ago from India

      very inspirational hub. Thanks for sharing.