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Self Improvement Journaling Exercises for Self-Esteem and Goal Setting

Updated on October 25, 2017
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Christin is a metaphysical author and professional tarot expert with over 25 years of experience in the field.

Journal exercises to improve confidence and help with setting and reaching life-enhancing goals.
Journal exercises to improve confidence and help with setting and reaching life-enhancing goals. | Source

Use a Journal to Set Goals and Stick to Plans

There are a lot of popular books and blogs about learning to create our own experience and manifesting things we desire into our lives. Law of Attraction is quite the fad, and much of it has been misrepresented. The true part is that we do shape our experience by our perceptions and that we have the ability to control how our mind and emotions work for or against us. Writing in a journal is a quick and easy way to get our myriad of thoughts and emotions out of our head and into plain sight.

The primary objective to creating new opportunities and circumstances in life is to know exactly, with 100% certainty, what you want to manifest. You may be surprised by your lack of clarity, but in order to achieve what you truly desire; you have to develop crystal clarity.

When you envision your perfect mate for example; what comes to mind shouldn't be a magazine cover. You should truly focus on the traits you want and don't want in a partner. One easy way to do this is to look back at past relationships and think about the qualities you enjoyed in your previous partners. Look also at the things you didn't want also, but only long enough to help you gain clarity on what you DO want. In your journal make a list of all of these qualities. Continue to work on this list until intuitively you feel the list is complete. This develops and clarifies your intention.

Once you have completed your list; you can set about the work of focusing on your search for this type of person. Engage in activities that will help facilitate the process. Join a community group, take a class, try your hand at online dating, whatever helps you become more available to others. As you meet other people, slowly get to know them and make a mental comparison – Does this person match up with the list? If not, keep your options open until the right partner does arrive.

I used a similar technique after divorcing my first husband. I am now with a truly equal partner. We have the same quirky sense of humor, we both share the same deep values and beliefs, and we are both very open minded, easy going, and accepting of one another. My present partner is wonderful and I am grateful for him every day. I remind him often of how blessed I am to have him, and how much I value everything he does for me. He is also different than who I might have originally envisioned myself with had I not been crystal clear about what I wanted. He is 9 years younger than me and when we started dating he lived 2 hours away. It was because of my clarity and my intuition that I was led to him and he's perfect for me. I developed that clarity by using my journal. Use it for everything that you want to manifest to gain clarity.

The New Age Source Leather Journal Celtic Pentacle Each
The New Age Source Leather Journal Celtic Pentacle Each

I love leather journals like this. They are durable and beautiful. Many are refillable so you can remove and reorder pages.


Goals Not Wishes...

Journaling can be used to discover all sorts of new opportunities. What is your ideal career? Your life purpose?

Many of the pop culture books focus on intent for money - how to wish your way to more money etc. This is an untrue statement. You do not truly want money; what you want is what money provides: a sense of security, more freedom, less stress etc. Work to focus on the true desires. Everyone wants to win the lottery; it's a fun fantasy, but focus instead on how you would realistically enjoy the process of earning higher income.

The Proof is in the Pudding

The biggest obstacle to reaching loftier goals in life is doubt. Doubt causes you to send out the “no” vibration whether you are conscious of it or not. The best way to combat this tendency we have to get impatient and start doubting is to keep track of our “victories” or proof that things are getting accomplished. This is very important with long-term goals where instant gratification is not an option.

Victory journaling is a way to keep daily records of things you are grateful for, and for proof or evidence of goals being manifested in your life. Your journal entry may start with a handful of things you are truly grateful for that day; really focus your energy towards them. No one starts off running a marathon. It is a series of small steps that build up over time; so it is with most dreams. Spend some time each day jotting down a few proof statements, evidence you have seen throughout the day or things you have done that have moved you towards your goals.

Examples might be that you discovered a hidden opportunity or met a new person who can help you make important connections; it can be anything that gives you proof that energies are shifting in your favor and that progress is being made. Every day something should be standing out to you as a little sign or guidance that you are moving in the right direction. If you are missing these signs; reevaluate your true goals to see if they are really where your passion lies. Perhaps you missed a little something along the way or perhaps you have some fears in place you need to work through, which leads to another great thing a journal can do for you.

Your Journal is a Safe Space

Your journal is yours alone and it is a private area where you don't have to worry what others think of you etc. You can use it to explore your fears and areas of self-doubt. What is at the heart of those fears?

When we tend a garden we pull the weeds (fear) out at the roots to prevent them from taking over and choking off the garden. In life, our fears and doubts are the weeds we have to manage in order to bear fruit in our lives. Just like weeds, fears and doubts will always be there and will always try to take over if they are left unchecked. Our natural response tends to be to avoid fears, but in reality it is by facing them and moving forward despite them that our greatest growth occurs.

Journals are wonderful tools for healing and transformation. I have used them all of my life to explore the depths of my soul and to discover more about my soul purpose. I recommend journals for anyone as there is no wrong way to do it and it can be a very liberating practice.

You can learn more about journals as a tool for self-discovery and enjoy some free journaling exercises at the links below.

Power Word Video - Journal Exercise

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      Billie Kelpin 4 years ago from Newport Beach

      Christin, great hub. I actually devised a journal which I call a "Four Year Journal". My software husband programmed it so that there are four entries on a page, each for the same week, different year. So let's say you started your journal in 2011 and you go to write an entry for this week, April 28 2013: you will see on that page what you were doing the week of April 28 last year ( if you entered it), and during this week in 2011. I found it a cool way to see how I change or stay the same from year to year. It also answers the question, "Hey what did we do last Thanksgiving?" etc. I'm re-doing my website, but you can see it here.

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      Christin Sander 5 years ago from Midwest

      Thanks yogiinijoy I am so glad you enjoyed the hub and I appreciate you taking the time to comment and vote. I truly appreciate it.

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      yoginijoy 5 years ago from Mid-Atlantic, USA

      Great hub! Voted it up. I enjoy journaling as well. I agree that it is important to keep track of how well things are working out. It is key to stay focused on what you want and to be grateful too. It's about letting go and believing in yourself too. Thanks for the writing ideas. Good luck with school.

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      Christin Sander 5 years ago from Midwest

      Hi TK :) so good to hear from you! I haven't been hubbing as much as I would like because I've been in school, but now that I am on break I have a few hub ideas I've been kicking around :) I will be sure to stop by your hubs and see if you have posted some new ones as well. I don't get emails for a few of the members I follow I've noticed :(. Thanks for stopping by and commenting :)

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      TKs view 5 years ago from The Middle Path

      Well expressed hub, Christin. Not sure why I didn't get a notification when you posted it.

      I totally agree about being clear what we want, referring to more the attributes and qualities than the form it appears in.

      I wrote in a journal extensively when I was younger. It made for a great sounding board for my ideas, no matter how far from the beaten path they were.

      Glad to see your still sharing your wisdom here.

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      purpelypink 6 years ago from India

      My journal is like my best friend, I also have one especially for law of attraction where I focus on what I want and all the things I'm grateful for. I found this post enlightening, most of the times we don't even notice that we already have tools to make things better. Thanks for the wonderful hub.

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      Dee aka Nonna 6 years ago

      I've kept a diary and then a journal since I was 5 or 6-years old. It has provided many moments of cleansing my mind and thoughts. And, yes as you suggested I have use it to write my dreams and goals, but never with the intent you are suggesting. I love it and I am going to use it. Thank you for sharing. Voted up and useful.

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      Angelique Newman 6 years ago from Canada

      I kept a journal years ago, it's a great way to work things out. Wonderfully written article :) Voted it up.

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      Danette Watt 6 years ago from Illinois

      Thanks for the reminder about the power of journaling. Every time I read your hubs on metaphysics and universal laws, I realize how much I've turned away from what I know works. As you know, if we are open to seeing them, we get the lesson or message or meet the person we need at the time. Acceptance is a good word for me today.

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      Christin Sander 6 years ago from Midwest

      Thank you Ktrapp for your lovely comments. I love journals they are good for everything - even keeping track of where I need to be and what I've done when forgetfulness sets in lol.

      Ann - I am not sure where you got focusing on what one's true wants and needs are with "lusting" after something or being greedy. If you've read any of my other content you would know that is not what I'm about - but thanks for your opinion.

      I believe that we are powerful creative beings and that focus and knowing what we truly want out of life are essential to reaching our potential. I don't find focus and direction restricting at all - I find it empowering and liberating - so to each his/her own :)

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      anndavis25 6 years ago from Clearwater, Fl.

      The power of Positive Thinking. It's a good thing. Keeping a journal does help to clarify. But the thought of wanting something so bad that you have to sit and concetrate on it, seems like old fashioned lust. Sometimes making things happen is restricting. It's more fun to go with the flow. Accept things as they are.

      You did a good job presenting this, but don't exactly agree with it.

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      Kristin Trapp 6 years ago from Illinois

      Christin, This is really interesting. I have never kept a journal, but I see how it can help bring clarity. I especially like when you discuss pulling the weeds (fear) out of your life. It is so true that fears and doubts can take over if left unchecked.