Coping With Grief After the Death and Loss of a Loved One
How does one cope with death and grief for the loss of a love one
EXPRESS AS MUCH GRIEF AS YOU ACTUALLY FEEL
It is better to cope with grief and loss in the natural tendency of emotional outburst when a loved one dies. In emotionally charge situations, one should not be ashamed or afraid of breaking down under the strain of a loss. Self restraint in the expression of emotions or keeping a stiff upper lip will only delay healing and might even lead to a future nervous breakdown.It is not those emotional outburst which will harm us but their total avoidance which will scar and tear our inner soul.
"Seek not to comfort thy neighbor while his dead still lies before him"- Rabbi Simeon Ben Eleazar
In dealing with grief , society have encourage us to avoid the unpleasantness of facing death in all its depths. To hide the painfulness from our eyes.
How to help grieving people It is wrong for friends to try to shield or distract attention of the bereaved from coping with the pain and grief of losing a loved one. Friends should offer the opportunity and encouragement for the bereaved to talk about his or her loss and to dwell upon their feelings of sorrow. We,human beings are a tougher lot and can withstand much rough handling than we actually think.
Dealing with grief and loss
LEARN HOW TO EXTRICATE ONE'S SELF FROM THE DEPENDENCY OF THE PHYSICAL EXISTENCE AND COEXISTENCE OF THE LOVED ONE
Death leaves an aching void and a gaping hole in the fabric of life of the bereaved.Yet it cannot erase quickly enough the shared memories.The surviving person yearns for the presence of the loved one and the continuity of the life pattern of their relationship.It would be better if he or she courageously accept and live through the pain of the loss and loneliness rather than to evade or avoid it.
Opening up and speaking to others about the magnitude of the grief and loss makes the pain gradually become bearable.The establishment of new interactions with other people is also essential. We should try to seek out others of kindred spirit who will help us in finding the road back to life
Surviving your grief and loss
FIND SOMEONE OR SOME NEW AREA OF LIFE INTEREST TO REPLACE OR SUBSTITUTE FOR THE LOSS RELATIONSHIP
Seek the help of relatives or friends in finding parallel activities that demand the same or similar life patterns which death had cut off.These substitute patterns of life will not come spontaneously and will need effort to achieve. One should not expect any instant or miraculous healing. There will be many lonely hours and empty days of despairing of any recovery and renewal of life interest.
Death and grief
GRIEF MUST BE FACED WITH COURAGE AND RESOLUTE
When a love one who plays an important role in our life pattern dies, we experience to a greater or lesser degree reactions such as bodily symptoms of pain and distress,continual preoccupation with thoughts and image of the deceased, disinterest in life and even deep feelings of guilt and anger. A person with emotional maturity will find ways to enable them to cope with their grief and loss creatively rather than destructively. They will find outlets for emotional release and healing. Eventually returning their life to normalcy.
"Men have died....and worms have eaten them, but not for love" _Shakespeare
There are many instances of love relationships that could be describe as bogus or a counterfeit because rather than a mutual maturity,the partnership is based on one person having a passive nature and a dependent attachment on the other. Left suddenly alone by death, the person may continue to mourn the passing of the love one with unrelenting melancholia. Developing severe depression and withdrawal from social contact. They make a shrine out of their sorrow and turn the world into a funeral home. It is really not a mourning for the loss love but a mourning for themselves. An expression of self-centered pity for their inadequacy and their now directionless lives.
Death and Grief
Let love into your grief
"A time to weep and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn and a time to dance"
- Ecclesiates 3:4
As tears fall in prayer
and heaven pause in silence
we mourn their passing
Yet with courage and resolute
we leave by the graveside
our heartaches and sorrow
to start the healing process
Bequeathed to us
are tears and laughter
of the hopes and dreams
they toiled and strive for
their memory and legacy
be true and worthy emissaries
in the portion of life.... they left behind
One must learn how to cope with grief and loss.To accept the passing of a loved one or face a painful alternative...to drift aimlessly in a life without purpose.
- True Stories about Old Couples Dying from a Broken Heart
The death of a partner can render living a burden.It is not surprising that some soon follow their love one out of this life.