Life Begins at 50
Inspiration and Good News for Women Over 50
My empowering mantra for 2011 was that "Life Begins at 50." This statement has been a way of reminding myself that there is still a lot left to do and to accomplish in my life.
2011 was a pivotal one for me, since it was the first year that I was entirely 50. (I turn 50 at the end of the year).
Join me exploring a variety or inspirational quotes, videos, images, songs, books and gift ideas to inspire other women over 50. Pulling this collection together has been a way for me to see many of the positive aspects of being 50.
I now have a 'place' to visit whenever I might need some inspiration where I can read quotes and listen to songs that will help me remember that "Life Begins at 50."
I hope other women will find these resources inspiring and uplifting and consider sharing what that they have found to be helpful.
One article that I found, a 2007 article published in WebMD, the authors looked at Why Women Over 50 love their age. They reported that women over 50 are freer, powerful, self-assured, sexy, wise, have more fun, know what they like, and are just getting started. This is great news for those of us in the over 50 crowd.
Read on to find more inspiration and realize that turning 50 is not a time to mourn, as some might want you to believe. Turning 50 is a time to celebrate!
Image modified from Microsoft Clipart.
Women over 50 are freer, powerful, self-assured, sexy, wise, have more fun, know what they like, and are just getting started.— Jeanie Lerche Davis, WebMD
Different Traditions on Turning 50 - Finland vs. US
My Mother's roots are in Finland, where turning 50 is much more of a time of celebration. Every time one of my Aunts, Uncles or Cousin's turned 50, she was always sure to send a gift or to call with congratulations.
When I turned 50, one of my cousin's called me from Finland and another one made sure to send a meaningful gift. These cousins also sent a gift to my husband who turned 50 shortly after I did.
I am not sure why turning 50 is such a big deal in Finland, but it may have something to do with the life expectancy.
I know (from the Nutrition class that I teach) at the turn of the century, at least in the United States the average life expectancy was 47 years, so making it to 50 would have been living past one's life expectancy. Now with people routinely living into their 80's, turning 50 isn't such a bit deal.
What I don't get is why turning 50 is often viewed in the U.S. as a time of mourning, with celebrations that people are "Over the Hill." Perhaps it is our obsession with youth that drives people, particularly women, to go into mourning when they turn 50.
For this life milestone, I think I am going to stick with my Finnish heritage and make it a time of celebration, not one of mourning.
Image of Finnish Flag by paiviti
Turning 50 - A Time to Celebrate or Mourn
Your views on turning 50 may depend a lot on which side of 50 you are currently on. When you share your thoughts it would be interesting if include whether you are over 50, under 50 or perhaps just holding at a younger age.
What do you think about turning 50?
Share your thoughts good or bad
Be Inspired by Being 50
Inspiring Quote - Be Daring and Different
Be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and
Imaginative vision against the play-it-safers,
The creatures of the commonplace,
The slaves of the ordinary.
Sir Cecil Beaton
Women Over 50 Making Changes
- Oprah Winfrey almost 57 just keeps on inspiring. She has just launched her OWN network in 2011.
- Hillary Rodham Clinton at 63 is currently our Secretary of State.
- Mother Teresa was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize in 1979 at the age of 69.
- Margaret Thatcher was the first female Prime Minister of Britain at 54.
- Katie Couric became the first female solo anchor of a national evening news show just before turning 50.
- Meryl Streep wowed us with her singing, jumping and navigating platform shoes in Mamma Mia at 58.
- Martha Stewart is still teaching us about crafts, decorating and living at 69.
- Diane Keaton at 57 produced her seventh movie and played the heartthrob of 39-year-old Keanu Reeves in Something's Gotta Give.
- Actress Susan Sarandon at 61 is the American prototype for the sexy older woman, a title she claimed in her 40s.
- Sandra Day O'Connor became the first female member of the Supreme Court at 51.
- Julia Child's The French Chef, which premiered in 1963 when she was 51.
- Dr. Ruth Westheimer was in her early 50's when her show Sexually Speaking with "Dr. Ruth" made waves on the television in 1982.
Women Who Changed the World
What amazes me reading through this list of women trail-blazers is that many of them were over 50 when they did their work that did or is changing the world.
- 125 Women Who Changed Our World
In the past 125 years, these women have all made an impact on our world. We celebrate 125 women who, during the past 125 years, broke records, broke ground, blazed trails, and suffered trials, shattering ceilings of glass and even tougher stuff. Whil
100 Things I'm Not Going to Do Now That I'm Over 50
Inspiring Quote - Living Life Fully after 50
A seasoned woman is spicy. She has been marinated in life experience. She is at the peak of her influence and power.
She is committed to living fully and passionately in the second half of life, despite failures and false starts.
Gail Sheely, Author
50 Great Things about Women Over 50
WebMD took a look at women over 50 and asked WebMD readers, Dr. Christiane Northrup, Dr. Nancy O'Rielly and Dr. Cynthia Barnett to comment on this age group.
They discovered that women over 50 are freer, powerful, self-assured, sexy, wise, have more fun, know what they like, and are just getting started.
- 50 Great Things About Women Over 50
Women over 50 are loving their age. Here are 50 great things about being over 50.
Women over 50 are just Getting Started
Andy Roony's Take on Women Over 50
These are some humorous observations from crusty humorist Andy Rooney of 60 Minutes on Women over 50. Most of them are spot on target:
Once you get past a wrinkle or two,
a woman over 50 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.
A woman over 50 looks good wearing bright red lipstick.
This is not true of younger women or drag queens.
A woman over 50 will not lay next to you in bed and ask "What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think.
If a woman over 50 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do.
And, it's usually something more interesting.
Women get psychic with age.
You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 50.
They always know.
Source: Davis J. 2007. 50 Great Things About Women Over 50. WebMD.
Step Out of the Shadows
Life Begins at 50
Inspiring Quote - Dance with Your Creativity
Your unique and fabulous creative talent is desperately needed. The people around you, indeed the people of the world are counting on you to step up and deliver magnificence.
If you're shirking in the shadows, afraid that someone will judge you or ridicule you or shame you, let me address that fear: someone indeed might judge, ridicule, and/or shame you.
AND I'm quite sure there is someone who may just as loudly encourage you, applaud you, and yes, even celebrate you.
So step out of the shadows this week and dance with your creativity!
The Ripples Project
- The Ripples Project
Each monday morning we send an email message containing a quick splash of inspiration to all Ripples Project Members. It takes 60 seconds or less to read
- The Ripples Project
As you enter, you will be guided through a few simple steps that will prepare you and the pond to find a splash of inspiration just for you.
- The Ripples Tribe! | Facebook
We are a tribe of do-gooders who believe tiny actions create big possibilities! Mondays are always better because of RIPPLES, the free inspirational email from Paul & The Ripples Project. Since January 1999 it has been free of charge and free of
Books to Keep Women Over 50 Fit and Fabulous
Being 50 doesn't mean you have to give up being active. These books will help you stay active and fit after 50.
The Light is Within
Holding the Sun by khattaway
Inspiring Quote - Our Deepest Fear
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
You are Brilliant
A Course in Weight Loss
One of the gifts that I gave myself for Christmas this year, a copy of Marianne Williamson's latest book.
Music to Empower and Inspire
The videos that I chose to highlight have been done by people much younger than 50, but these are the videos that that speak directly to my heat and make me feel good about myself, ones that make you feel "Beautiful," "Loved" and help you to "Shine."
They are songs about accepting yourself the way you are the weight you are, realizing your greatness your uniqueness, unique gifts and talents.
These are the videos that acknowledge we want to be heard and that we shouldn't give up because we have a spark that needs to shine.
P.S. When I find an empowering one done by someone in their 50's I'll include that as well.
Image Heart Melody (Music of the Heart) adapted from Fangol.
My Favorite Feel Empowered Songs
The collection features the video clips that I have include on this lens - Christina Aguilera's "Beautiful," Amber Riley's "Beautiful," Josh Groban's "You are Loved" and Katy Perry's "Fireworks."
You are Beautiful
No Matter What Anyone Says
Christina Aguilera's Beautiful - Video
We are beautiful no matter what they say
Yes, words won't bring us down, oh no
We are beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can't bring us down
Don't you bring me down today
Music video by Christina Aguilera performing Beautiful from 2004.
Josh Groban's You Are Loved - Video
Don't give up
Because you want to be heard
If silence keeps you
I...I will break it for you
Everybody wants to be understood
Well I can hear you
Everybody wants to be loved
Don't give up
Because you are loved
Josh Groban's You Are Loved [Don't Give Up] from 2006.
You are Loved
Glee a.k.a. Amber Riley's Beautiful - Video
I am beautiful no matter what they say
Words can't bring me down
I am beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can't bring me down
So don't you bring me down today
Glee Beautiful from 2010.
Ignite the Night and Be a Firework
Fireworks Over Disneyland 2010 by Kirsti A. Dyer
Katy Perry's Firework - Video
Do you know that there's still a chance for you
'Cause there's a spark in you?
You just gotta ignite the light and let it shine
Just own the night like the 4th of July
'Cause baby, you're a firework
Come on, show 'em what you're worth
Make 'em go, oh
As you shoot across the sky
Baby, you're a firework
Come on, let your colors burst
Make 'em go, oh
You're gonna leave 'em falling down
Official music video for Katy Perry's "Firework" off her album 'Teenage Dream' from 2010.
* You're a Firework *
Katy Perry's Fireworks Dedicated to the Gay Bullying Victims
"I am officially dedicating my new video to #itgetsbetter, because everyone has the spark to be a FIREWORK," she posted on her Twitter.
It Gets Better is a project dedicated to helping gay youth realize that there's hope, no matter what bullying they might face.
- Katy Perry's "Firework" Video Not Just About Sparkly Boobs - E! Online
Singer debuts the music video for her new single and dedicates the video to gay bullying victims
Inspiring Quote - Call Upon Woman's Light
A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture, and transform. A woman knows that nothing can come to fruition without light.
Let us call upon woman's voice and woman's heart to guide us in this age of planetary transformation.
Daily Inspiration for Becoming Mindful
Inspiring Quote - Look at What You Have
If you look at what you have in life,
You'll always have more.
If you look at what you don't have in life,
You'll never have enough.
Inspiring Quote - Stages in a Woman's Life
I discovered this quote/poem/verse on SunnyDaze's lens, "What Are Little Girls Made Of- The Making of Red Hat Ladies" and also found it on the Poetic Expressions website.
The poem appears to be one of those inspiring emails that gets passed around from person to person, so I am having problems finding the original author to credit. If anyone knows let me know, so I can credit the author.
P.S. Be sure to put on your purple hat when you are done reading this.
- Age 3: She looks at herself and sees a Queen
- Age 8: She looks at herself and sees Cinderella
- Age 15: She looks at herself and sees an "ugly duckling" ("Mom I can't go to school looking like this today!")
- Age 20: She looks at herself and sees "too fat/too thin, too short/too tall, too straight/too curly" but decides she's going out anyway.
- Age 30: She looks at herself and sees "too fat/too thin, too short/too tall, too straight/too curly" but decides she doesn't have time to fix it so she's going out anyway.
- Age 40: She looks at herself and sees "too fat/too think, too short/too tall, too straight/too curly" but says, "At least I am clean", and goes out anyway.
- Age 50: She looks at herself and sees "I am what I am" and goes wherever she wants to go.
- Age 60: she looks at herself and reminds herself of all the people who can't even see themselves in the mirror anymore. Goes out and conquers the world.
- Age 70: She looks at herself and see wisdom, laughter, and ability and goes out and enjoys life.
- Age 80: Doesn't bother to look, just puts on a purple hat and goes out to have fun with the world!
- Moral: Maybe we should all grab that purple hat a little earlier.
Image of Purple Hat by TurtleMom Nancy.
After 50 You Can Join the Red Hat Society
You have to be 50 years old to join the Red Hat Society. Sue Ellen Cooper otherwise known at the Queen Mother describes how the Red Hat Society started:
- The Red Hat Society began as a result of a few women deciding to greet middle age with verve, humor and elan. We believe silliness is the comedy relief of life, and since we are all in it together, we might as well join red-gloved hands and go for the gusto together.
- Underneath the frivolity, we share a bond of affection, forged by common life experiences and a genuine enthusiasm for wherever life takes us next.
At least for me, I'd prefer wearing a purple hat or a red fedora and not being involved in something that has so many rules.
Red and Purple Hats
Dream a New Dream
Inspiring Quote - Dream a New Dream
You are never too old to set another goal or
to dream a new dream.
The Party Continues - Even at 50
Time to Celebrate
After researching and reading through all of the resources that I found for Women on turning 50, I decided for me, that turning 50 is definitely a time of celebration, not of mourning. It is my time to now, go wherever I want to go.
This set of birthday decorations for turning 50 were the 'cheeriest' ones that I could find on Amazon (even if they are black).
At least with these positive decorations, the party continues and it is a "Happy Birthday!" celebration, not an "Over the Hill".
50th Birthday Decorations
Inspiring Quote - Going for at at 50
At Age 50 a woman looks at herself and sees "I am what I am..."
and goes wherever she wants to go.
Stages in a Woman's Life
Spending My 50th at Disneyland
To celebrate my 50th birthday I decided to spend it in Disneyland. Since the girls enjoy going it wasn't hard to convince them.
I figured it would be a happy way to celebrate the day and a way that the entire family could benefit.
I'd pre-ordered meals for the new World of Color attraction. The adult boxed meals that got were delicious and well worth the price. I found it amazing that they are able to create the many lunches that they need and still maintain the quality. We've always had good luck with food on the California Adventure side of the park.
In some ways the World of Color was more spectacular than I'd imagined and in others less. Overall the show was amazing. I was mesmerized just seeing how they'd combined the different elements.
The one downside is that my birthday falls the week after Christmas, which is getting to be one of the busiest times for Disneyland, so we spent a lot of time figuring out how to get around the crowds.
Overall, in hindsight, it was the place to go and the show to see, a wonderful way to cap off a 50th birthday - on an upbeat, colorful note.
World of Color Ferris wheel by Kirsti A. Dyer
What are you inspired to do after 50?
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© 2011 Kirsti A. Dyer