Life Coaches What is Life Coaching? Can They Really Make A Difference?
What Gets the Wheels Turning To Get You Motivated
They Definitely Keep You Motivated
Does It Work?
Is making someone accountable for their actions or taking no action the reason we succeed in school, work, and sports? Is that what life coaching is all about? Do they really make a difference?
If you think back to when you were in school whether it be in high school or college and the work assigned, it was usually completed. Why? Because we were held accountable for it by a teacher or professor, and not turning it in could lead to failure of the class, the grade, or a long lecture from our parents. To the contrary excellent grades were rewarded with everything from scholarships, diplomas, degrees, gifts, graduation, and that “Great Work” comment that let you know all those late night cramming sessions, paid off.
When playing sports we are held responsible for our performance during a game, showing up for training, our positive or negative attitude. If we are not performing at our best we are held accountable by our coaches, a fate that can feel worse than death sometimes. We feel as though we have let the team down, ourselves, and our family who stood so boldly on the sidelines cheering us on, some more vibrantly than others (guilty as charged).
Then when we are performing at our best that feeling of exhilaration as a crowd cheers rewarding you for a job well done, or the team as they carry you off the field for making the winning touchdown. Sometimes it’s the coach after a swim meet, or basketball game on the bus or in the locker room dedicating a portion of the win to you. It doesn’t matter how big or small the recognition is. It’s that adrenaline flowing, that indescribable feeling of accomplishment like no other, that lets you know that all the blood, sweat, pain, and sometimes tears was worth every second.
Life Coaches What They Do vs. Psychiatrist or Therapists
First off let me start by saying a large amount of therapists are incorporating life coaching systems and skills into their sessions due to the overall improvement of the client. So I am not going to compare them due to the overwhelming, (depending on the therapist), similarities.
Psychiatry for mental health disorders, post traumatic events, depression and other symptoms or disorders can be a very needed form of treatment. Most psychiatrists tend to focus more on the cause of the underlying symptoms and working through that cause. This is accomplished through different treatment plans and medications depending on the doctor. Although this form of treatment can improve a persons life in different ways they are most often not focusing on other specific goals some are trying to achieve.
From Stress Relief to Work Promotions Sometimes We Need a Little Push to Get Us There
Are There Different Types of Life Coaches?
There are all different types of life coaches who specialize in everything from professional athletes, relationships, work, and even corporate focus and motivational coaches.
Personal trainers including weight loss, and body building are a form of life coaching that just concentrate on that area of expertise. If you have any doubts just take a look at the Biggest Loser. It’s not only the ones on the show that are losing all the weight by having a personal trainer in their face everyday. It’s also the thousands at home who have made a commitment and feel that not upholding that commitment would let others down. Whether it be a family member, best friend, or someone at work it’s a proven fact that making a commitment to show up and work out with someone increases your odds of actually making the improvement your wanting to achieve.
Think about it for a minute if doctors believed that they could just give you a list of exercises, show you how to do them properly, and could send you home knowing you would do them to the best of your ability, why would there be a need for a physical therapist. He/she could just make follow up visits to increase or change the work out and be done. It’s because they know that having someone there to push you will make a difference in doing those extra leg lifts, or squats that will make you work harder and increase rehabilitation to the highest limits possible.
I would consider both a type of life coach who specializes in that area. Although they don’t necessarily consider the entire life achievement or goal set, they definitely help attain specific accomplishments to get there.
They also help keep us focused on the ultimate goal through those plateaus that we reach that are so frustrating when it seems like all our hard work is not paying off . This is normally the point when most of us throw in the towel and give up. There may be a lot of emotional conflicts or stress when were making physical improvements some of which are hard to handle by others. This is often where another individual can be of help, no matter what their job or title is.
In summary life coaches are there to make you accountable for actions or not taking action to meet specific goals that we want to achieve. They kind of keep an eye on you when no one else is watching. Whether the goals are related to work, relationships, physical improvements, stress relief, strength and endurance not only physically but mentally as well as others. Life coaches develop and set into place a strategic plan with steps that are needed to allow achievable short term goals, which in turn lead to the long term end result.
They also help to define such goals and examine them in reference to whether they are truly a viable achievement we wish to perform, or one that is just expected of us from others I can’t stress how important this portion of life coaching, or therapy really is. So often in life we become frustrated after achieving a goal without even realizing the reason. It’s not the fear of success (sometimes the case) that were unhappy about, it’s that deep down it’s something we never really wanted to begin with.
Think about it, have you ever received a promotion at work that you busted your butt for, thinking this is what I really want more money, a better title, more respect, to only get the position and realize your main motivation was nothing more than competing with other coworkers for the position. It happens all the time in college, work, relationships, and every other aspect of life. You know how you think you’ve found your one and only true love forever, he/she’s the one, only to get involved in a relationship and think, “What was I thinking” or “Is this the real you?”
A lot of us already have life coaches that we don’t even consider. Think about that best friend or family member (that sometimes really pisses you off) who is willing to get in your face and say “What are you doing?” or “Is that what you really want?”, and know when we answer if were lying. They’re making us accountable and trying to make sure that our happiness is included in the end result, even though it can be EXTREMELY aggravating. That’s why having someone who is not so close sometimes is a better option.
And I Thought This Was The One
Do you have someone you consider a life coach?
Is a Life Coach For You
Why are you asking me, I don’t know (just kidding) Really, I don’t know. If your great at setting goals and accomplishing the things you want out of life then the answer is no, you don’t need one.
If your consistently setting goals or striving for accomplishments that are never reached and you consistently are making excuses (a well constructed lie we choose to believe according to Dani Johnson) then I would say it might be worth checking out. It may be that the things you are striving for so diligently are not necessarily the things that will bring joy, happiness and a sense of purpose in your life Then again there may be an easier way of getting there that we just haven’t looked at yet.
Finding a life coach is not always an easy task and different personalities need different coaches. An example being myself, no matter what I’m striving for I need someone who is not afraid to get in my face. Believe me it’s not something I like (or them either), but it often is the motivating factor that gets me to where I want to be. That being said I would require one on one, face to face sessions so the coach can also see when I am trying to manipulate around something I just don’t feel like doing or telling stories, (a nice way of putting it). There are others who just need a simple “Nice job” or “Here’s a list of your short term goals and the actions you need to take to get you there. Talk to you in a week”. Finding a coach that can do these things is half the battle. Sometimes seeing or talking to them once a week is all that’s needed, others (not mentioning any names - me me me:) would need more.
Do they help? That’s something only you can answer in determining how much effort your willing to give to get you where you want to be, and if having a life coach could help keep you motivated to get there.
Whatever your trying to accomplish I hope you reach your goals and achievements at levels you never conceived.
Make it an incredible day.