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Living in the now

Updated on December 5, 2012

 Ever since I read a book by Eckhart Tolle "The Power of Now" I became more aware of living in the NOW. This is especially valid and rewarding if you have children. They are the masters of living in the moment, and living it to the fullest. As I admire my daughters practicing daily that skill, I must admit, I as a parent, have trouble remaining focused.

Children live in the now.

Children have an inborn natural ability to live in the moment. If you are a parent you know how hard it is sometimes to convince a young child to abandon his play in order to direct him to a new activity. A child is so engrossed in his project that nothing seems to be a strong enough argument for leaving the house. Have you ever resorted to bribing your child so that you could run to a grocery to buy a forgotten item from your shopping list? And has your child actually said no to a prospect of a promissed candy or a special ride in the elevator? Well, mine has! My three year old appears to be so emotionally invested in her play that there is short of nothing that will convince her to abandon her current task. That is because children live in the moment, they enjoy it and cherish it. A skill that we adults have lost somehow in the process of growing up...

We live in the past and future

Most adults truly forgot how to live in the now. We are preoccupied with daily tasks that have to be completed, lists of things to do, projects for future. We reminisce and live in the past, too. We relive our painful memories and try to gather courage to face yet another unpleasant conversation with our boss at work. All this while our NOW is unfolding in front of our eyes. It has become really hard to focus on living in the moment, especially in the era of instant messaging, Facebook, Twitter and other applications that are supposed to improve our life. How often we are tempted to just check our friend's status, just one more text message, while OUR life is passing by. This is especially significant if you are a parent and you are so immersed in your virtual reality life that your children's life is left on a back burner.

Fast paced living

We truly live in an era of fast paced relationships, fast food and drive throughs. We multitask and prioritize as our life is offering us countless possibilites on the plate. There are numerous choices to be made, long lists of emails to be sent, laundry baskests to be washed. We often fall short of completing all of them. Our life seems to be so rich and so fullfilled with millions of details that we need to tend to. And yet, the life as it used to be, simple, slow and filled with meaningful conversations is a thing of a past. Our families hardly have enough time to be together, just be.

Spending time together.

Slow down

I remeber the countless nights that I had spent putting my daughter to sleep, my baby daughter that wouldn't want to sleep. I was so exhausted and exasparated from the fact that she wouldn't go down like a baby should, it was taking so long... And yet, when she finally had driffted to sleep, when I looked at her face, pink from the rosy dreams, all of a sudden, my anger had vanished completely and all I felt was some sort of inner peace and love I had for her. Instead of rushing back to my unfinished chores I chose to spent a few more moments with her. I gazed at her with love and admired the beauty of a child that was mine. Now, that she is much older, I still take time to put her to sleep each night. When I hear her breathing gently slowing down and see her body relaxing under her blanket I still experience the same awe, for I feel the children are so beautiful when they are asleep.

Cherish it.

 I try to cherish some of these moments. I strive to see the beauty in things that pass and go. My child's smile, a humingbird flying in front of our window, a funny drawing on a fridge. I try to remember to slow down and stop to smell the roses. When my child asks me to play with her and my innitial reaction would be "In a moment", I remind myself that this very moment will be gone soon and she may not ask me again. So, whenever I can, I spend time with my little daughters and savor it.


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      Monisajda 6 years ago from my heart

      Thank you JLClose. I tend to have many wonderful days filled with laughter and fun with my children when I am with them and not absent minded. But there are days, too when I have to remind myself that their early years are soon to be gone and I will miss these moments if I don't give my girls my time now.

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      JLClose 6 years ago from OreGONE

      I love this hub. This idea is something I've been thinking about more and more since I recently had my third child. I don't want to waste a single moment with my kids. These past couple days, I have been trying to leave the housework and "me time" activities until after the kiddos have gone to bed, so I can spend as much time with them during the day, just playing or hanging out. It's something all parents should try.

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      Monisajda 6 years ago from my heart

      Nordy, thanks for stopping by. As you said, "three year olds truly know the secret meaning of life" - I agree!

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      Nordy 6 years ago from Canada

      Great hub, an excellent read. I am not a great fan of Eckhart Tolle's work for my own reasons, but I am a great fan of mindfulness. Kids are the experts in this sense, and we do have so much to learn from them. Well done, I really enjoyed this hub!

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      Monisajda 6 years ago from my heart

      David, I believe really young kids are strongly rooted in now, they are not trained yet to expect things happen to them, like we, adults. We tend to look forward to nice things in the future. They don't want to give up now for a prospect of something later. I think, time is an abstract thing to them and they don't grasp it until a little later. Thanks for your comment.

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      David 6 years ago

      Interesting! Absolutly agree with living now, try to do it... but when you make the link to a child it is damn difficult. Then you realize you are not even close to the whole concept of living now. I am going to keep my eyes open for the book!

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      Monisajda 6 years ago from my heart

      Thank you fastfreta. I am glad you liked it.

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      Alfreta Sailor 6 years ago from Southern California

      I love this Monisajda, I tried to do the same with my children. Now that they are all grown and gone, I'm glad I took the time to live in the now, I look back with no regrets about the time I spent with them. I'm glad to see that you are doing the same thing, I promise you won't regret it. Very good hub, and welcome to HubPages.

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      Monisajda 6 years ago from my heart

      Thanks for the comment. I will for sure read the book you recommend.

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      Ruzica Kozul 6 years ago from Windsor, On, Canada

      "The Power of Now" is a pwerful book, so is "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle.

      Thanks for sharing your story! Children are really the masters of living in the moment, they teach us life :)