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Maddy and Ava
Recently, another work-at-home mother confided in me that her husband gets annoyed that she wears sweats and doesn't fix her hair or make-up most of the time.
"Do you think it matters?" she asked rather disgusted "I don't go anywhere so why would it matter what I look like?"
I was uncomfortable about how I should answer this question. I wondered if she could be depressed but she isn't a close friend, more of an acquaintance. I would never ask her personal questions about herself or feel that it was appropriate. I cautiously worded my thoughts.
"Yes, I think it is very important. I do make sure that I get dressed and add a bit of make-up and jewelry every day. It makes me feel better. I also think it's great for my relationship with my husband and children. No matter how I feel - I make sure I look like I have it together - even when I don't - by the time they arrive home from work and school."
Research proves that looks mean a lot in today's world. According to a study published in Annals of the New York Academy of Sciences, "when someone is viewed as attractive, they are often assumed to have a number of positive social traits and greater intelligence." This is referred to as the 'Halo Effect'.
Being attractive doesn't necessarily mean being beautiful. There are ways to increase your attractiveness to other people. According to Gordon Wainright, author of "Teach Yourself Body Language" your posture and bearing alone can affect how you are perceived by others. If you maintain eye contact, have an upbeat personality, dress nicely with splashes of color in your wardrobe and listen well, you will become more attractive.
I am just a blue jean kind of girl, however, I do love jewelry and there are occasions when dressing up is a must. That's why it's great to have a friend like mine, Mandy. I met Mandy when my youngest daughter, Madison started Kindergarten. On the first day of school her daughter Ava sat next to my daughter.
Ava smiled at Maddy and said, "look! We are wearing the same barrettes!"
Madison said, "Yeah! Do you wanna be best friends?"
They have been since that day.
Mandy is glamorous and always looks like she is ready for a fashion shoot. Over time, we too became great friends and thank goodness for me! I don't have ANY fashion sense - so when I do have to attend a formal event or dress up - she shops with me and always helps me choose just the right jewelry and clothes. Let me tell you, she has prevented many fashion disasters!
Mandy is a representative for "It's Just Jewelry!" I love this line and have so much fun with their designs. Each piece of jewelry is reasonably priced between $12 and $29 dollars. They also have a program that donates money to children who suffer from malnutrition.
While I do have some expensive jewelry, I love having lots of jewelry. I try to make sure that my jewelry matches the colors in my clothes, from watch to earrings. It doesn't matter if I am just wearing jeans and going to the grocery store, I still love adding jewelry. It's fun, it makes me look better and therefore, it makes me feel better.
I like looking nice for my husband's benefit. He compliments me almost daily about something that he likes about my clothes or how I look. This makes us both happy and forages a better relationship. Afterall - he was attracted to me when I was much younger and always did my best to real him in......I caught that shark and I am gonna keep him! The way I look as well as the way I feel affects his life daily.
Wainright suggests that for just one week if you try standing straighter, tuck in your stomach, hold your head high and smile at those you meet, you will begin to be treated with more warmth and respect and start attracting more people to you.
Studies have also proven that people with higher self esteem use make up more frequently. One female who was on welfare and looking for employment was given a complete make over and a new suit and some nice clothes. She landed a job that she wanted and was proud of, and subsequent to that, lost over 50 pounds because she said she felt so great about herself.
The better you look and feel - the more likely you are to succeed. Don't tell yourself no one cares if you look good - YOU DO!
"Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us or we find it not."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
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