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Midlife Crisis, Banbury & Bicester

Updated on September 7, 2014

Mid life crisis? Identity crisis? What am I doing? Where am I going? What's the point?

Mid life crisis, self doubt, "the change" - whatever. There comes a time when we question the fundamentals of our life, what we are doing and why we are still doing it. We picture alternative life styles, recall things we always wanted to do before we got stuck in a rut or families and commitments came along. The mid life crisis can either be a dangerous, unsettling period of time or a truly life enhancing, exciting time of personal growth and discovery.

Typical reactions to a mid life crisis are to change direction, even partners, adopt new life styles, travel, splurge our money and generally act out of character - this is the age for motor bikes, fast cars, recapturing lost youth,and generally going off the rails.

The downside can be wrecked marriages or partnerships, businesses lost or jobs thrown in carelessly for an illusion that grips us totally. It can also mean months of depression, self doubt and low self esteem and confidence - all of which undermine our wellbeing. The upside can be truly life changing in a wholly positive way, let us help you to make it so.

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    • goo2eyes lm profile image

      goo2eyes lm 

      7 years ago

      when a man starts to look for a woman who is nearly her daughter, he is having a midlife crisis. same thing with the woman who seeks for a younger man half her age. what do you think, doc?

    • David Dove profile imageAUTHOR

      David Dove 

      7 years ago

      @TheHealthGuy LM: So, no issues there then HealthGuy, I have posted your clip-on ponytail along with a sheet of stick-on tattoos and a Hells Angel patch by overnight mail ! Thanks for lightening the mood some.

    • TheHealthGuy LM profile image

      TheHealthGuy LM 

      7 years ago from U.S.A.

      What mid-life crisis? Who is having one of those, just gimme those car keys and I'll be just fine! Dude! Can you feel that power comin' from under that hood? It's almost as good as the feel of a fine weapon as it recoils and the round hits dead center. And that erotically beautiful babe over there - see her? She must be what 25 and totally hot? Holy, jumpin' testosterone! Ain't no midlife crisis here, I am totally fine :-)

    • sousababy profile image


      7 years ago

      I have mid-DAY crises - ha. Actually, the older I get, the more I feel at home with myself. I used to (painfully) seek the approval of others (for almost everything) in my youth. With life experience, I've learned to trust myself. Once I was able to witness that I was helping others (in various healthcare positions), I felt I was on the right track. Helping others is extremely beneficial for both parties. We have more to give to others than we realize (imo).

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      Cynthia Sylvestermouse 

      7 years ago from United States

      LOL! Yes, this is the one I didn't really want to read. I though we were through the "mid-life" crisis time frame in our lives, but now I really want a convertible. Yes, let my gray hair fly in the wind! I think it is very true that we wish to recapture our youth at some point in our lives.

    • puerdycat lm profile image

      puerdycat lm 

      7 years ago

      Seems to me that even the stodgy-est of us go through significant reordering-of-priority periods more than once or twice in our lives. Indeed, good that we should be a little prepared for meeting inevitable forks in the road.

    • Diana Wenzel profile image

      Renaissance Woman 

      7 years ago from Colorado

      Midlife offers such amazing opportunities. I have mindfully chosen midlife renaissance as a means of living true to who I am and who I am looking forward to becoming. Every day is filled with unlimited promise.

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      7 years ago

      Whew, impressive comment by reasonablerobinson and an equally impressive response by you. I'm just a learner here.

    • David Dove profile imageAUTHOR

      David Dove 

      7 years ago

      @reasonablerobby: Again, you make an excellent point, we all have in common some existential fears that lurk beneath the surface, triggered into life by issues that challenge our ego. Fears of death, meaninglessness, loneness and freedom are just four prime examples. For a definitive read on these see Irvin D. Yalom and "Existential Psychotherapy". Thanks again for your thoughts.

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      7 years ago

      I find the whole issue of transition very interesting. I wonder if more people should be educated about issues of ontological insecurity and existential angst in order that they can recognise their feelings are very typically in us all as we approach individuation.


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