Dating Men With Narcissistic Personality Disorder
If you’re dating a man with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) then you may not know it yet. You’ve probably reached the stage where your gut tells you that something is not quite right or, worse still, your narcissist lover may have left you feeling totally drained and utterly worthless. Not only will he hurt you emotionally, but he may harm you financially also.
Unfortunately, men with narcissistic personality disorder symptoms have unstable emotions and an inability to feel any empathy towards others. So, don’t expect him to understand, least care, about how you may be feeling. NPD men have an inflated sense of their own self importance and expect to be admired and revered. They’re not interested in you, never have been, but expect your life to revolve around them and their inflated ego.
Even though you may see the warning signs, you don’t really want to believe them.
Furthermore, narcissistic men are manipulative and exploitative. They make you believe that they are the victims and that any relationship problems are all down to a misunderstanding on your part. It’s never their fault, so don’t expect a sincere apology.
NPD men have an inbuilt sense of entitlement. They ask, you give...without question. They also have a fragile ego, so criticise them at your peril.
Why Do Women Date Narcissistic Men?
Borderline personality disorder in men is often not uncovered, until it is far too late! NPD men are charming, charismatic and exude great self confidence which belies their inner fragility.You are coerced into loving the persona they want you to love and not their true self. Often, you will not realize that you are in love with a narcissistic man until it is far too late. Like most things in life that are bad for you, narcissistic men can be highly addictive.
Your narcissistic lover will have convinced you, very early on, that you were his soul mate. Often a passionate, whirlwind romance, with him pledging his undying love within a matter of weeks, if not days. You believe that you have finally found “the one” as he sets out your future life together. Unfortunately, Narcissists are big on empty promises which they never deliver.
Narcissistic men also spend a lot of time talking about themselves. It’s never about you, it’s always about them. As part of their manipulation, to gain control over you, they will pathologically lie. When confronted with evidence of their lies, they convince you that it is all a misunderstanding. Your misunderstanding. It is this distrust that first begins to destroy the relationship.
You soon come to realize that the narcissist is unreliable and you suspect that he may be being unfaithful to you. If you confront him your fears, he flies into a rage, acting totally indignant by your accusations.
He retaliates with verbal and sometimes physical abuse. He knows your insecurities and attacks with cutting remarks which, over a period of time, shatter your self esteem.
Sadly, when he’s taken every thing that you can possibly give, both emotionally and financially, he will callously dump you, without a second thought. Indeed, he will already have his next victim lined up and ready waiting in the wings.
How to End a Relationship With a Narcissistic Man
Ending a relationship with a narcissistic man can be extremely traumatic, especially when it is not his decision. You need to step back and not engage in any dialogue with him. Remember, he is a “Master of Manipulation” and you need to stop his game playing dead in its tracks.
The only way to achieve this is through indifference. This is the only way you can successfully end a relationship with a narcissistic man. If you are struggling, you may find it useful to implement no-contact and take things one day at a time. The only thing to remember is that you are not looking to reunite with your narcissistic lover or get revenge. You are looking for an exit strategy.
Also, do not play into the narcissist’s hands by being melodramatic about the break up. You cannot show any signs of weakness. The only way to make a narcissist man understand you are leaving for good is to withdraw completely and deny him any control or influence over your future life.
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© 2012 C L Grant